Imithetho yesangqa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo akunakuqonda ukuba kutheni mna, intombazana enomusa nentle, andinakufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye nabahlobo bam bahlobo? Kwaye ngokubanzi, bathi, kutheni ndifanele "ngenele" nomntu kwaye "ndifumane ulwimi olufanayo" nomntu?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bakho. Ngokwezengqondo zeengqondo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini, ukusingqongileyo kuluntu kubaluleke kakhulu: yilapho eyaziwayo njengomntu kwaye ufumana ubungqina bokuzithemba kunye nesimo sakhe. Kwaye yonke inceba yakho ayikwazi ukuhlawula ubuhlobo "obandayo" kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo ukuba awusondelene emoyeni.
Okwesibini, ukulungelelanisa nokujonga iindlela zokufumana "ulwimi oluqhelekileyo", kufike kuwe. Khumbula ukuba nasiphi na isangqa sinamandla kunokwakhe. Ngendlela, umntu ozimeleyo ngakumbi, kunzima kakhulu kuba, kuba kwisangqa esivele sakhiwe apho sele inkokeli esoloko ilumkele ngabasandul 'ukutsha. Kubalulekile ukuba ekufumaneni ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, awuyi kulahlekelwa ngamaphuzu akho abalulekileyo.
Ixesha elinzima kakhulu ukufumana ukuqonda yilezi ezimbini zokuqala kwiiveki zokuxhumana. Ngelo thuba, olwaziyo olutsha intuitively rally kunye nesimo sengqondo sokulinda ngokuzikhusela, kwaye ujwayele ukugweba yonke into ngohlobo olulodwa "andinakuyithanda." Kubaluleke kakhulu kule mihla yakuqala ukuba ungalonakalisi ubudlelwane ngokuqinisekileyo kunye neengxelo ezinzima kunye nezigaba. Into encane engathandekiyo okanye intlekisa inokulimaza idumela lakho, kwaye ukungaqondi kakuhle uthetha ukuxabana.
Abahlali phakathi kwabo.
Ukwakha inkqubo yoqhagamshelwano olusebenzayo (awukafiki ubuhlobo obuhle, kunjalo?) Ngohlobo lwabafana - inxaxheba ngezinye ixesha ixesha elide kunye nexesha elidlulayo. Kungenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukuqala le shishini elixakekisayo kuphela ukuba i-incentive inamandla kakhulu. Ithemba lomtshato, umzekelo.
Khumbula ukuba kuyo yonke ingqungquthela imithetho yakho kunye nolwazi nabo baya kukunceda ekufumaneni ulwimi oluqhelekileyo.
"Imali kunye nomsebenzi uya kuthatha yonke into."
Aba bahlobo, njengomthetho, banamandla, bajolise ekukhuleni komsebenzi kunye nentlalo-mali. Awunanto efana nabo, ngaphandle kwakhe, yedwa.
Kutheni silinde? Kwiingqungquthela zoshishino, ukuzimela, ukuzithemba, ukuzithemba kunye nokukwazi ukukhusela izimvo zabo ziyaxabiswa. Isitayela soqhagamshelwano nabahlobo abathandekayo sisoloko sinobungqina kwaye sinzima.
Indlela yokuziphatha? Aba bantu benza izigwebo ngokukhawuleza kwaye abafuni ukuyihlolisisa. Ngako oko, kungcono ukuba ubaxelele ukuba uya kuba ngumntu wonke "olwa", awuyi kufihla emva kwintanda yakho kwaye ubaleke ukudibana nabo. Soloko ubonisa ngokucacileyo indlela ocinga ngayo kwaye uyamkele ngokuvunywa. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba kwikamva elikufutshane uza kuba nokufumana "isitshixo entliziyweni yabo".
Xa uthi "Yeka!". Ukuba uqhutyelwa ngasese kwimvelaphi yabangani bakho, ungesabi ukulwa kwaye ubonise "I" yakho. Emva koko, uya kuba yinye!
"Izizukulwana zabahloniphekileyo."
Uhlobo olunqabileyo lwabahlobo, kodwa lukhona. Aba bahlobo, njengomthetho, bahloniphekile, bayazidla, bafundiswe kwaye bahloniphekile. Ngommemo omnandi wokuba indebe yetiyi ifikelele kwi-parade epheleleyo, kwaye ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha etafileni kuyinqweneleka ukuzenza kwangaphambili.
Kutheni silinde? Aba bantu baxhatshazwa bubuhlungu buxoki kunye "nebala". Ngaphambili, bafaka ukunyaniseka kunye nokuziphatha ngendlela yokuziphatha kunye nobudlelwane.
Indlela yokuziphatha? Ukuzihlaziya, ukukwazi ukugcina ingxoxo yentlalo enokukhanya, ukukhawuleza, ukukhwabanisa - kunye nale mpawu uza kufumana ukuphumelela kunye nokufumana okuchanekileyo ngolwimi oluqhelekileyo ekunxibelelaneni. Ngendlela, musa ukuya kude kakhulu kunye ne-label and do not relax before the time: ngenxa yakho baya kukhangela kakhulu kwaye ngenxa yokuphosakela okukhulu "baya kususwa kwiluhlu lwabahlobo".
Xa uthi "Yeka!". Ngexesha apho ifom iya kuqala ukugqithisa phezu komxholo (kweso siqalo akuqhelekanga). Ukuba uqala esikolweni, chaza kubahlobo bekhwenkwe yakho ukuba awulungele iinkonzo.
"Ubukhosi bendalo".
Baphakanyisiwe kakhulu, abantu bokuqala nabangenakulinganiswa. Iingxoxo zabo ezingapheliyo zihlala ziziphumo zabo (umculo omtsha, umfanekiso, ivesi). Ziyizakhono zohlobo lwazo kwaye zincinci kakhulu ezikwazi ukubonakala.
Kutheni silinde? Kweso siqingi ngesiko lokutshintsha "abahlobo" ngokukhawuleza. Yingakho wena, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana ngokukhawuleza, kodwa usasazeke. Kodwa, kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukuqonda, umzekelo, "umculo womagama," kwaye ungenalo inceba. Kwaye kwangoku kwaye ngoku uya kuva konke ukucinywa kwabo. Abantu abakudala bayabalungisa kwisipho sokuthetha yonke into abayicinga "kwiso," bangabi namahloni ngamazwi.
Indlela yokuziphatha? Ukuze ufumane abahlobo bakho abathandekayo ingqiqo, baqiniseke kubo, umhlobo osondeleyo womhlobo wabo kwaye ukulungele ukuxhoma kunye nabo kwiintlanganiso zabo zokudala. Khumbula ukuba kule ngqungquthela baxabisa umntu oqaqambileyo kunye nomnqweno wokwakha. Izilwanyana apha azisebenzi kuzo zonke, kodwa iingcamango ezingezizo zeetemplate zixabiswa kakhulu. Bonisa umnqweno wakho wobuhle, nokuba ungekho ubugcisa. Kwaye ubungqina bokuba le nkwenkwe yakho ngumntu ohloniphekileyo kulo mbuthano.
Xa uthi "Yeka!". Xa uqaphele ukuba ummandla wakho okhethiweyo uzama ukummisela ingcamango yokuba kuwe "ukukhanya akuzange kuhlangane kunye nomtya". Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantu bokudala bahlala bekhangela, kodwa oku akusikho isibonakaliso ukuchitha ubuhlobo bakho.
"I-Scientific elite".
I-Conservative, wonke umntu ehlabathini uyazi kwaye unikeza iingcebiso kuyo yonke into.
Kutheni silinde? Akufanelanga aba bahlobo abathandekayo, ukuba baqhelane nazo zonke izicwangciso zabo, ngaphandle koko uya kuziva uhlaselwa. Impembelelo enkulu kubo iya kudala ulwazi lwakho kule ndawo okanye kuloo ndawo.
Indlela yokuziphatha? Nangona zizathu zabo, aba bantu banamathemba kwaye bavulekile. Kuwe bafuna ukubona umnxibelelwano ozolile kwaye onokulinganisela oya kuthi: "Ndiyakwazi ukukuqonda!".
Xa uthi "Yeka!". Xa uqaphela ukuba "ucingisise" ngengqondo kwaye ubonise ukuba awufanelanga ukuthetha nabo.
Yiloo ndlela ulwalamano olusondeleyo nabahlobo bakho abathandekayo lubonakala ngathi, okumele uphile kwaye uphumelele kwindawo yawo yokuhlala, uqinisekise ukuba ungumhlobo wabo okufunayo!