Izizathu zenguqu zinokuhluke kakhulu. Ukungabikho okanye ukuvutha ngenxa yothando, ukungabikho kwemfuno ethile okanye ukuvumela imvume. Ubuqhetseba buqhutywa kabini ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengendoda yesini, kodwa ngelo xesha, inani labasetyhini abaguqula amaqabane abo alikho nakancane. Phakathi kwabasetyhini, isizathu sokungcatsha ngokuqhelekileyo ukungabikho kokuthintana ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, ukukhathala kwimiqathango yobudlelwane, iingxaki zokuzithemba kunye nobudlelwane nomyeni wakhe. Isizathu esifanayo sokungcatshwa kowesifazane kungenza impindezelo kumyeni wakhe ngenxa yeengxelo "zangaphambili" ezenziwe ngaphambili.
Iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo: ingaba kuyimfuneko ukuvuma ukunyaniseka, kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwisini somntu ocele uncedo. Ngokufanayo, bobabini abasetyhini kunye nabesilisa bayaqonda ngokuhlukileyo. Kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu ukuba umfazi afune ukuba indoda yakhe isondelelene nomntu kwaye uyathemba omnye umfazi ngaphezu kokuba akwenzayo. Ukuwela othandweni nomnye, ukummangalela - yiloo nto abesifazana abayikayo. Kubantu, inkohlakalo eninzi iya kuba yintlonelo, oko kukuthandana, ngokwesondlo komfazi komnye. Kuye, ingcamango yokuba umfazi wakhe unokufumana i-orgasm evela komnye umntu sele engenakubekezeleka. Kwakhona, amadoda asabela ekungcatshweni kwezifo ezininzi kunabesifazana, ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe xa zihlaziya imeko, yintoni umfazi ayenzayo.
Abantu abahlala besenza uxolo baziva benetyala. Kukhona umbuzo, apho kungekho mpendulo enye: ngaba kufanelekile ukuvuma ukuphikiswa? Ezinye izazi zeengqondo zihlula impendulo yalo mbuzo kumadoda nabasetyhini. Bacebisa amadoda ukuba avume ukunyanzela, kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuguquka ngokunyanisekileyo kwinto eyenzekayo. Kwababhinqa, ezinye iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zingavumi ukuba zithengise, kuba ithuba lokuxolela inxalenye yendoda liphantsi kakhulu, njengokuba intlondi ichaphazela kakhulu "mna" kwaye iyinto engummangaliso kunye nobuhlungu.
Kodwa nantoni na, iimbono ziyahluke, kodwa phantse wonke umntu uyavumelana nento enye - okokuqala kufuneka uhambisane nesimo seengqondo. Zizikhethele ukuba yintoni kanye eyakuchukumisa ukuba ukhawule, yintoni isizathu sokuba uzive ngayo. Hlaziya oko kwenzekayo, ziqonde wena nezenzo zakho ngelo xesha, kwaye olu hlalutyo luya kukushukumisela ukuba ulungise ingxaki.
Ingaba ukuvuma ukuxolelwa kuxhomekeke kwisizathu sokungcatsha okukukhathazayo. Ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene umyeni wakho, uzive usizi ngenxa yezinto ezenzekile, kunye neengcinga ezinkulu kunye nokuzisola, usenokuba nethambekele ekutsheleni ngokunyeliswa kwakho ukuze unciphise umthwalo kunye nokuhlushwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo yakho. Kodwa apha kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela enye into ebalulekileyo: indlela indoda yakho eya kusabela ngayo oku, indlela eya kusabela ngayo, kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva koko kunye nokuba kuya kuba ngcono njani kuye.
Abanye bafuna ukuvuma ukunyaniseka, kuba le nto iphakamileyo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo. Kwakhona bayaqiniseka ukuba kufuneka baxolelwe ngaphandle kwezehlukileyo kwaye baqiniseke ngokufaneleka kwabo nokungenasono, kuba basaguquka kwizinto abazenzayo. Eli tyala lugqithiso kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi zinqatshelwe.
Abanye bavuma ukuphikisa, ukuzalisekisa impindezelo. Okanye bafuna ukuba umyeni abe nomona ngabo, baqale ukuyixabisa kwakhona, bazisole ukuba akabanikanga ukunakekelwa okwaneleyo. Abanye besetyhini ngale ndlela bazame ukubuyisela umdla womyeni okanye ukumenza ahlupheke xa efunda ukukhohlakele, ngenxa yoko: yintoni eyenzekayo xa ungamkholisi umfazi wakho. Kwakukho na matyala xa abafazi benza ngenjongo yokuzithiba, ukuze bazibonele ngokusabela kakubi komyeni wabo, ukujonga izinga labo abavakalelwa ngayo. Ewe, zonke ezi ziimeko zingathatyathwa ngokungalunganga. Le yimiba nje xa ungafanele uvume ukunyaniseka uze ushiye iinjongo zakho, uze uphinde ucinge ngesimo sakho sengqondo kumyeni wakho. Okwangoku unokuthathwa njengomntu oyithandayo, ukuba ngaba enye yezi zimo ziyakuthanda? Ngaba uyamthemba okanye uyamthanda?
Ukuba awukwazi, kusenakufanelekela ukuvuma ukunyaniseka, cinga ngezinto ezintle kunye nezimbi ezi zimbini. Ukuba ukwesaba ukuvuma ukunyaniseka, kuyahlala kulungile ukuba ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho bungenakuguquka nantoni na, uya kuqhubeka ecinga ukuba ungumfazi othembekileyo, onyanisekileyo nothando. Bathi amanga amnandi angcono kunenyaniso embi. Uya kukhusela umyeni wakho ekuxinezelekeni, kwaye kukho amathuba okuba akukho mntu uya kukwazi malunga nalesi siganeko, kwaye umonakalo obumnyama wokungcatsha uya kulahla kunye nexesha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokufihla ngezinye iinkcukacha ezifihlakeleyo ziyacaca, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzifihla kangakanani ukukhohlakele, kuhlala kukho umngcipheko ukuba umyeni wakho uya kukwazi ngako, kwaye kuya kuba ngcono xa eva kuwe ukuguquka okunene kunokuba uthengele umntu oya kumxelela kwesinye, ukubetha okanye ukuguqula iinkcukacha ezininzi. Kwakhona, musa ukulibala malunga nesazela kunye neemvakalelo zetyala, oku kungayiphi na into ebomini bakho.
Ukwamkelwa, nangona kunjalo, kunokukunceda ukuqonda amahlakani kunye neengxaki. Udibaniso lwayo kukuba ukhululekile ukuzisola, kwaye olu khetho lufanelana nawe ukuba ucinga ukuba kwintsapho indoda kunye nomfazi akufanele babe neemfihlelo, kwaye ulwalamano lufanele lube luchanile kwaye lucoceke. Kule meko, olu khetho luya kuwe. Kodwa kukho kukho ukunciphisa: inyaniso yokungcatsha inokukhathaza kakhulu indoda yengqondo, kwaye ayikwazi ukukuxolela oku. Kwakhona, ukuthembela kobudlelwane bakho kuya kuncitshiswa; kwaye ixesha elide, nokuba uthe waxolela wena, baya kuba nexesha.
Cinga nje ngowe, kodwa malunga neqabane lakho, hlalutya imeko kwaye uqikelele iziphumo zayo ezahlukeneyo, unokwenza njani. Into ephambili, qiniseka kunye nawe kwaye ungaliphulaphuli omnye umntu ngaphandle kwengqondo yakho. Kwaye ke ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo: nokuba ufanele uvume ukunyaniseka, awuyi kuyidinga.