Ukuba ubona ukuba indoda yakho ethandekayo idinga inkxaso yakho, zama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukumnceda ukuba anqobe ubunzima obulandelayo edibene nayo endleleni yakhe, yenza ukuba akholelwe kuye kwakhona kwaye aqinisekise ukuba xa uhlangene amandla. 9 iingcebiso zokunceda umntu anqobe amanqanaba okuphila nzima
- Ngokukhawuleza xa ufumanisa okanye uqonda ngokubona komntu ukuba unengxaki, musa ukumhlasela ngokukhawuleza ngemibuzo, mnike ithuba lokuya eshahleni, umnike ukutya, kwaye xa ephumle kancane, cela into eyenzekayo. Ukuba loo mntu akafuni ukuphendula, mnike ixesha elincinci lokucinga ngalo lonke. Musa ukumcinezela, kuba akayikho imeko engcono, kwaye imibuzo yakho inokukwenza ukuba imeko yakhe ixinzezeleke ngakumbi.
- Ukuba umntu wakho wanquma ukuvula kwaye akuxelele malunga noko kwenzeke, mamela ngokucophelela, ungaphazanyanga, nangona ezinye iibinzana ziphindaphindiwe, kuba ngamaxesha amaninzi kukho ubunzima kakhulu ngokuqulunqwa kweengcamango. Umsebenzi wakho kukumphulaphula, uze umxelele oko afuna ukukuva kuwe.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu kule mzuzu ukubonisa umphefumlo wakho umlingane ukuba nangona kukho ubunzima neengxaki, uqhubeka ukholelwa kuye, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba uya kufumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ndiyabulela kule nyathelo, ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuyidlulisela kuye, kwaye uya kuba nomoya wesibini kunye nethuba lokunqoba zonke iingxaki.
- Ukuba ingxaki endiyifumeneyo nomntu obathandayo uyayazi kwaye uyayazi isisombululo esihle, ke unokuqiniseka ukuba wabelana ngeengcinga zakho naye. Yilumkele kakhulu kwaye uthethe kakuhle kakhulu, akukho nto yenzayo ebunzini, njengoko oku kungamcaphukisa loo mntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu azive enamandla aze aqiniseke ukuba ungumkhuseli wosapho lwakho.
- Ngaloo mizuzu xa umntu wakho ecasulwa ngenxa yeengxaki okanye udidekile, zama ukumbonisa ingqwalasela ephezulu, ube mnene kwaye ungamthandi. Musa ukugqithisa imiba yasekhaya, nceda uthanda izitya ezizithandayo, ubukele naye iifilimi zakhe ezizithandayo, nceda umkholise embhedeni - konke oku kuya kumnceda ukuphazamiseka kancinci kwiingxaki.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ubambe kwaye ungangeni ekudakaleni kunye nomntu wakho, zama ukuba "ukuhamba" okulungileyo, kodwa ukuba nawe uyaxinezeleka, indoda yakho ayiyikukhathazeka nje ngeengxaki zakhe, kodwa sakho sengqondo.
- Ukuba umntu ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakhe okanye intsapho yakho inemeko enzima yemali, ungazami ukuhlambalaza umyeni wakhe ngenxa yoko, ukunyeliswa kwakho kuya kuphucula imeko ngakumbi. Nangona kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani okanye ukwesabisa, gcina kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uncede umyeni wakho efuna umsebenzi omtsha kunye nezisombululo ezingaqhelekanga.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, hamba eholide kunye. Leli liholide elinokunika ixesha lokuphumla, jikelele ukuqwalasela ingxaki kwaye uqale ukuyicombulula ngamandla amatsha. Musa nje ukuchitha lonke iholide nje iingcamango ezinjalo, umele ukhululeke kwaye ujabule.
- Ngaba wakha wajamelana neemeko ezinjalo ngaphambili, okanye ngaba zenzeke kumntu owaziyo? Qiniseka ukuba usixelele ngawo, wabelane ngolwazi malunga nendlela abaphume ngayo kule meko, mhlawumbi eli bali liza kutyhola umthandwa wakho kwisisombululo esiphumeleleyo kwingxaki.