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Yintoni abantombazana abayicingayo xa bethelwa "ngababini ababi"? Ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona u-Chikatilo, kungeyena umtywala kwaye akayena mfana onobuhlungu, ohlutha i-kotov. Ngaphambi kwamehlo abo, kuhlala kuvela umntu ongaqondakaliyo, oqinileyo, onqabileyo kwaye ebonakala engenakho ukuvakalelwa, obangela ubomi obungenasisindo kwaye uyathandwa ngabafazi. Loo mfana kufuneka abe nesizathu salo mkhuba. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, unengxaki ephazamisayo yintlungu ehlobene nothando okanye usapho oluye lwaphula umfana. Emphefumlweni womntu "ongendawo" kufuneka ukuba ngumntu olungileyo owaziyo ukuthanda kwaye ngenxa yentsapho yakhe ethandekayo kufuneka atshintshe, abonise intsingiselo yakhe ngokwenene. Ewe, ngaba "ababi" esizibona rhoqo kwiikrini. Apha bangobhali beemibhalo abaziqheliselayo, egxininisa kubaphulaphuli besifazane. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ebomini ngokwenene?
Umntu oziphatha ngendlela efanayo, oko kukuthi, ukuphatha abanye ngokunyamekela, uzivumela ukuba ahluke, afune ukufumana indawo ebomini, uhlala enenkxalabo enzulu, apho azama ukuyilahla ngeendleko zabanye. Yingakho abo bantu abaselula beziphatha, bahlekisa, banokukhubeka baze bahlazise. Ngaphezu koko, bakhetha lo msebenzi ngendlela ecacileyo, kuba le ndlela elula. Kutheni usebenza nadsuboy, utshintshe, ufezekise into ebomini, ukuba unako ukuzibamba phakathi kwalabo ababuthathaka, bebala kwaye banobubele? Indoda enjalo ayisoze yatshintsha ibe yinto engcono ngenxa yowesifazane oyintanda. Lo mzekelo ubonakaliso obucacileyo bobugwenxa bakhe nobugwenxa. Umntu uyesaba nje ukuvuma ukuba akapholile, ukuba uhlala exhalabisa ngenxa yeengcamango zabanye kwaye akabonakali nantoni na. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba umfazi uyamthanda, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uya kusebenzisa inzame yakhe, aze afune ukunyaniseka.
Ababi "abazange bacinge ngeemvakalelo zabanye, kungekhona ngenxa yeentlekele zobuqu. Ababoni nantoni na ngaphandle, ngaphandle kweemvakalelo zabo ezincinci kunye nokwaneliseka. Ukuba intombi enhle imelene nomntu onjalo, uya kubonisa wonke umntu onjengedoli, aze athi unethamsanqa, ngenxa yokuba ilungileyo, abantu abayizithulu badinga ukunakekelwa rhoqo. Kwaye wenza into ebanzi kwaye wayithatha phantsi kwephiko lakhe.
Indoda enjalo ayisoze avumela ukuba umfazi abe ngcono kunabo. Kwaye akaze athethelele nantoni na, kuba uyaphula isidima sakhe sabantu, eqinisweni, akunjalo. Kodwa uya kulungisa zonke iimpazamo zakhe kwaye acinge ukuba le ntokazi inyanzelekile ukuba ixolele yonke into. Kwaye izinto ezinjalo ziquka ukubetha, ukugwenxa, ukusela utywala, njalonjalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba lo mfana "mabi", musa ukugcina ithemba kwaye ukholelwe kwincwadi kunye nemifanekiso yecala. Umntu onento entle emphefumlweni wakhe akaze avumele ukuba angaphosisi abanye, ahlazise, ukuze aphumele. Unokuba yedwa, unomsindo xa ekhulela kwindawo yakhe, kodwa akaze ahluthe amanye ama-radimas. Ngako oko, umntu akafanele adibanise abantu "ababi" abanokungaxhatshazi kwaye bavaliwe. Umntu "ongendawo" ngokuchasene naye, ngokuqhelekileyo, uhlala ezama ukuphumelela yonke into, kuba entliziyweni yakhe ugoyi kakhulu kwaye uyadumeka, kodwa akayi kuvuma.
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Kwaye ngoku, makhe sixoxe ngendlela intombazana eselula ngayo ummeli omhle. Imifanekiso emibini eyahlukileyo ingabonakala entloko yabameli abasetyhini abaselula. Iyokuqala i-nerd kwiiglasi ezingenako ukuzenzela izinto, azizange zizame ukusela, zihlala kunye nabazali bakhe, zilalele ngokuzeleyo kwaye zithwale ibhatyi ye-tweed. Uchanekile kwaye uhloniphekile, ucinga ngokubamba emva kokuvuswa, akanakuqonda ukuhleka, ngokubanzi ugosa, ugosa kwaye uhlakaniphile, uhlala ekhumbuza wonke umntu. Ingqungquthela yesibili ye-"good" guy ihluke kakhulu kwiyokuqala. Ungumfana osemnene, onobuqili, onamandla, ohlala ekhwela ukunceda wonke umntu ngokungakhethi. Uyenza yonke into ngenxa yintanda yakhe, uthatha iinkwenkwezi esibhakabhakeni kwaye akaze azibale. Ungumfana onokuqonda, onomusa, onyanisekileyo, ozinikeleyo. Enyanisweni, akukho mfanekiso wokuqala okanye wesibini onokwenza nantoni na. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntu okhohlakeleyo kwaye oqhayisayo uchazwa, ngubani okhulile yonke indawo, apho abazali bavame ukuphazamisa abantwana babo ngokubeka izicwangciso ezinzima kakhulu. Kwaye umfanekiso wesibini ngokungaqhelekanga, kuba umntu ophilileyo unemvelo kunye namava akhe.
Umntu "olungileyo", oku, kwindawo yokuqala, ngumntu ophila ngokuvumelana nesazela kunye nobulungisa. Uyabahlonela abantu abanabo kunye nokuphatha abafazi njengabasetyhini, njengento yokulala ngokwesini kunye nokuhlekwa usulu. Umntu "olungileyo" akayi kuvumela ukuba ahlaziye, ahlaziye aze axoxe ngesondo esifanelekileyo. Le nsizwa ayisebenzeli ukugcina wonke umntu kwaye rhoqo, kodwa ukuba ubona ukungabi nabulungisa, ngoko ke, cishe, ayiyi kudlula. Amadoda anjalo anokuthenjwa, kuba abazami ukuxhaphaza umntu kwaye bachukumise abantu ukuba bathathe izigqibo eziyimfuneko nge-blackmail. Aba bantu banokuba neenkathazo, kodwa bajamelana nazo, kwaye abazizuzi igama ngenxa yokuhlaziswa abanye. Umntu omhle unokukwazi nokusela nokufunga. Ngexesha elifanayo, kunokuba lunothando kakhulu ukuzinikezela kwi-ballad oyikhonzile. Kodwa nokuba yintoni lo mntu, okokuqala, uhlala ekhathalela ukuba abathandekayo bakhe abamdingi nantoni na. Abantu abalungileyo abahlala behlukaniswe ngemilinganiselo efanelekileyo, ubukeka obuhle, iingqondo ezibukhali. Umntu "olungileyo" unokuba ngumtshini omncinci kunye nomprofeti onobuchule. Izibini ezinjalo zihlangene kungekhona ngeempawu zangaphandle nokubukhali kwengqondo, kodwa ngumnqweno wobulungisa, ukukwazi ukuhlonipha nokunceda abantu kumaxesha amanzima, kodwa ngaphandle kokujonga izinto zabo kunye nokujonga ngokucokisekileyo kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo. Ngoko ke, xa ukhetha phakathi komntu "omubi" kunye "nomhle", cinga ngendlela oye wazenza ngayo ngokuchanekileyo, nokuba uyaziphosa, udideka kwaye ubeke endaweni.