Lo mbandela usabalulekile. Emva koko, kwiimeko ezininzi emva kokuxabana isinyathelo sokuqala sokumelana nokuxabana senziwa ngabasetyhini. Amadoda, kwinqanaba lokuzikhukhumeza, ahlala kulokho kuthiwa "ukugxotha" kwaye ulinde nje ukuba le ntokazi iyakwazi ukuyiphutha kwaye izama ukutshintsha into ethile. Kwaye ngeli nqanaba akubalulekanga ukuba ngubani othe tye kwaye ngubani omele uxanduva. Yaye ngubani na owaqalisa lo mbambano. Shayela kuqala - oku akusiyo i-skate yesilisa. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba abafana kunye nabesilisa banqandekile ngokomzwelo kwaye bahleli kunye nefowuni esandleni sabo, balinde umnxeba ubusuku bonke, akusiyo inqobo yabo. Uyakwazi nje ukuzikhupha ngokucacileyo kule ngxaki ngokutyelela ibha kunye nabahlobo. Okanye uhambe nabo ngokufanayo, umzekelo, ukuloba. Kwaye okokuba uya kuhamba emphefumlweni wakhe, oku akuyi kuphazamisa nabani na, njengokuba i-ego yindoda isoloko ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Kwaye nantsi ingumnqamlezo womzuzwana: ifowuni yala kunye nenombolo ekuboniseni kwakho ikhanya. Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo wayekulindele oku, kodwa andiyi kuphelelwa ukuphindaphinda ukuba loo mntu uzingca, ukuzingca nokuzidla. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo i-paradoxical ingangomsindo, kodwa kunye kunye nayo yonke into, nokuba nekhondlo lomntwana ongunaphakade, ezinzulwini zomphefumlo wakhe. Uze ugijime kwi-fowuni, u-6 kwiimeko ezilishumi aziba. Akayidingi umnxeba, ucela nje ukuba ucinge kabini ngento engalunganga. Kwaye, kwakhona, yaqala ukuyixabisa njengendoda. Ngoku, ngexesha elifanelekileyo, kwakuyixesha lakhe lokudlala "intshwenkwenkwe". Amadoda anamandla kwaye ahlala efanelekileyo ukuba acinge. Ndikholelwe, wayenomdla ngokucacileyo ukuba ubiza, kodwa akwanele. Kufuneka ukhathazeke malunga nokuba unokwazi ukulahlekelwa yiyo. Kwaye oku, ngokombono wakhe, kuya kuba yinto eyinyaniso kunye neyomsebenzi kuwe. Esi sizathu esiqhelekileyo sokuziphatha komntu kwimeko apho umntu engayithathi ifowuni emva kwengxabano. Kulula ukubeka kwi-mask "yexhoba" kwaye ulungiselele umdlalo opheleleyo, ubonisa ukuba ulungile kwaye ngelo xesha awanelisekile kwaye ukhubekile.
Kakade ke, akufanele ufune ukutshintshela kwimvelaphi kunye nelokuba uloyiko lokuthetha nawe okanye akwazi nje ukuba uthetha ntoni ngokukodwa ukuba uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba iphosakelo lakho lophikisana lakho lihleli ngqo kuye. Amadoda ahlaziyekileyo, akukho nabasetyhini abangaphantsi kuthi. Kwaye kwimiba apho bakuboniswe khona ngokwenene, kunzima ukuba benze isigqibo kwisimo sakho okanye ukuthanda kwabo, mayekeke ukuba banikele izikhundla zabo baze bacele ukuxolelwa ngqo.
Ukuba ukuxabana kwakho kungenamandla kwaye nonke nibe netyala lokwenziwe, akunjalo ukuba akayi kuthatha ifowuni. Emva koko myeke uhlale ebiza kwaye egosa. Hamba uye ngasezantsi, ubuncinane kwiintsuku ezimbalwa. Kule meko, kwenzeka ukuba emva kwexesha elithile uza kukubiza, kodwa ukuba akayi kwenza oku, uza kuba nemathuba amaninzi ukuba uya kufuna ukuthetha kwaye uya kuthatha ifowuni. Mnike ixesha elide, ukuze azinciphe kwaye aqikelele yonke into aze acinge ngayo. Xa umntu ephosa emva kokuxabana kwaye, ecinga yonke into, ahlalise, ngoko unethuba elingcono lokuxolelana. Akunjalo xa ungabizi umntu, phantsi kwesandla esishushu - oku akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Indoda, ngexesha lonwabo, ayikho into efanelekileyo yokucinga kunye nokuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza, wenze isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Ngoko ukuphuma kuye, ukuba uya kuthatha ifowuni ayenzi nto. Ixesha kuphela liyakwazi ukusombulula yonke into.
Xa u-100% uqinisekile ukuba iphoso lakho likuwe, ngoko konke okutshoyo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuthintela indoda ngokuphila, kuthi thina besifazane, kulula kakhulu kwaye ke, ekuhlaleni ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nexesha elifanayo, ukuphula zonke iimpazamo zeengcamango. Kule meko, ndicinga ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngefowuni enye. Nanku, ukuba lo mntu uyithandekile kuwe, kuyimfuneko, ngokuthe ngqo, ukuthatha isinyathelo ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza, ukwenza izilungiso kuye. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuba, njengoko ayiyi kuzwakala engaqhelekanga kuwe, ukushiya ifowuni yakho yedwa uze ufike kuyo. Ndikholelwe, ingxoxo ephosakeleyo neyakhayo phakathi kwakho kunye neliso inokutshintsha kakhulu. Eyokuqala, unokubeka onke amachaphaza phezu "kunye", ukulungisa le ngxaki evele phakathi kwakho. Okwesibini, uyayeka ukuzitshutshisa ngokuziqhelanisa kunye neengcamango ezingekhoyo ukuba mhlawumbi akafuni kukubona kwakhona kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buphelile. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, okwesithathu, umane uyeke ukuzithoba ngokuziva unetyala, ngenxa yokumcaphukisa. Ngoko, ukuba uthe wagqiba ukufaka umzamo wokuxolelana, ungayifaki kwibhokisi elide, ungazithuthuli, kungekhona, bonisa nje ukuba unomdla okwenene kwaye uyabiza. Ungesabi ukubonisa ukuba uyaguquka ngokunyanisekileyo. Yazi, ngokuqinisekileyo uyayixabisa.
Kwaye, njengoko, ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukuthetha. Ngamanye amaxesha thina senza iimpazamo ezininzi, ngaloo ndlela siwagxotha abantu abathandekayo kuthi, kwaye ngoko, ngokusemthethweni, siyazisola. Kufana nelizwi: "Yintoni esinayo - asiyi kugcina, kodwa silahlekelwa ukukhala". Ngoko, xabisa umntu onomdla ngaye. Yaye ukuba loo ndoda ingayifumani ifowuni emva kokuxabana, sebenzisa umyalezo wesicatshulwa oqhelekileyo, umthumelele ulula, kodwa ngelixa elifanayo amagama omlingo: "Ndiyakuthanda, ndixolele!".