Ingongoma yombono kwindoda

Ehlabathini apho amadoda ahlala esilawula khona, kwakukho abafazi abanobuhlakani nabanelungelo lokuzimela balwela indawo yabo elangeni ngendlela yabo: Ama-Amazons kunye neentlothikazi, oogqirha kunye nabafazi baqhekeza iimbambo zabo, bajikeleza, baxuma baze bafuna inhlonipho ngamalungelo abo. Kodwa ngeli xesha lokulingana, ihlabathi lihlala lisebantwini kwaye badlala kuyo ngokulandela imithetho ekhethekileyo. Ingcamango yembono ebantwini ubudlelwane ngumxholo wale nqaku.

Imithetho yamadoda kunye neyesetyhini

Khumbula ubuntwana, kwaye uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza indlela amadoda nabesifazane abaziphatha ngayo ngokungafaniyo kwimidlalo yamandla. Abadlali badlala nemfazwe kunye nebhola, ngokusekelwe kumncintiswano, kwaye ukususela ebuntwaneni baqala ukuqonda: ukucacisa ngokucacileyo imithetho, umncintiswano uvelisa uvuyo, ukunqoba kukuhle kwaye kubangele ukuhlonipha nabanye. Amantombazana adlala needopi - kwaye kweli hlabathi wonke umntu ubeka intsebenziswano, ingcamango, ukulungiswa ngokuhlangeneyo kunye nokunyuka kwiinkcukacha. Kubantu abadala, yonke into iyafana. Kubantu, isimo kunye namandla kubalulekile njengendlela yokunyathela, kwaye umzabalazo "umvuzo" ubangela i-buzz. Thina bafazi siyabaxabisa iingcamango, sijonge amathemba kwaye sibeka phambili iinjongo, kwaye sinomdla ngamandla njengesixhobo esiza kunceda ukufezekisa ezi njongo. Ngoko ke, sakha ubudlelwane ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo: amadoda - ngokuzenzekelayo, ngokubhekiselele kumgaqo wobunqwanqwa, kunye nabasetyhini. Ibhinqa lingena kumkhondo wemisebenzi kunye nokukholelwa ukuba kulungile ukusebenzela ukuqaphela. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza uyayiqonda: siya kufuneka sibonise ukuba akulingani nje, kodwa kungcono kunamadoda, ukwenzela ukuba ubuncinane bokuba loo nto iyancika yedwa. Uzama kanzima, kodwa akazi konke phantsi kwaloo madoda "angcono" awanakuqonda umsebenzi ongcono, kodwa unamandla okubetha. Ukuyiqonda kuya kunceda ukwazi iinkqubo ezingabhalwanga kunye neikhowudi zonxibelelwano kwihlabathi lamadoda.

Ziqaphele

Xa uqala ukuvela kumsebenzi omtsha, amadoda, mhlawumbi, wena, ngokuqhelekileyo akayi kubonwa njengomqhubi. Nangona unempumelelo evelele emva kwakho. Kufuneka uhambe kwi-"intlanganiso".

Musa ukukuthatha ngokukodwa

Kwiintlanganiso unikezwa ikhofi kunye nama-biscuits, uxoxe nawe, mhlawumbi nokuba udlala ngothando, uhlawuliswa shishini - kodwa kwi-hierarchy awunakuthathwa ngokungathí sina, kuba uyinombolo yokugqibela. Ulinganiswe njengezinto zesini. Kwaye akukho nto, i-Armani kuwe okanye isack-shapeless - awukwazi ukuphepha lo vavanyo. Ukuba isiphetho sichaphazelekayo, kwikhosi iya kuhamba ngamazwana kunye nokuzama ukubonisa utyando.

Unqatshelwe

Ukuba unqwenela ukungena kwintsimi yokukhangela, ukupholisa kungase kufike. Yaye ungamangaliswa ukuba, xa kunzima ukukhanyela itekisi "inkukhu ekhukhulayo", "inkomo ekhukhulayo", njl njl. Njl., Inyanzelekile kuwe, njl. Ukugcina isigaba semidlalo yokukhwabanisa kunye nokugatya kubonakala kunzima kakhulu, kuba ihambelana nesimo semvelo sentsapho yovelwano. Ukwamkela lo mngeni okanye awuyiyo into eyimfihlo kubo bonke. Kodwa nasiphi na imeko, ukungabikho ukwesaba nokungcola kuncedo kakhulu, iimpawu ezixabiseke kakhulu kwihlabathi lamadoda. Ukongezelela, umva wexesha elihle ukhombisa i-IQ ephakamileyo.

Uyakwamkelwa kwimidlalo yangempela

Ukuba udlula kwixesha lokungaqapheli, ukugcina umqobo kunye nesifiso, isimo sengqondo siya kutshintsha. Ngoku bakulungele ukuvuma - kubonakala ngathi unokuba ngumqhubi.

Ulawulo oluphezulu luphezu kwazo zonke

Kwilizwe lamadoda, akukho mgaqo wokusebenza kuze kube yilapho ixesha njengoko iinombolo zomnxeba zisasazwa kuzo zonke izikhundla. Ngaloo nto ufanele ukwamkele. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwisithethe, kodwa inani lakho liya kunikezelwa kuwe nayiphi na imeko kwaye uya kuvakalelwa ngawo onke amaxesha. Nantsi imeko eyaziwayo nayiphi na ibhinqa: unengcamango enkulu, kwaye uzama ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ubelane ngawo kwintlanganiso. Kodwa akukho bani uphulaphulayo. Kwaye ngomzuzwana ingcamango yakho iya kubhengezwa nguPetrov, kwaye wonke umntu uya kuqala ngokumbetha ngokumxuba ehlombe: "Wenze kakuhle, mntakwethu!" Kutheni bengenakukuva? Kukho izizathu ezibini. Okokuqala, awuzange uthathe inxaxheba kumzabalazo wendawo kwindawo yokulawula, kodwa ngokukhawuleza wenyuka. Kwaye ngubani okhathalelayo "ilishumi elinesibhozo" ezinqabileyo apho? Okwesibini, wena kunye nengcamango yakho awuzange idibanise "inombolo yokuqala" - inkosi yalo mdlalo, kodwa, umzekelo, "kwesihlanu" okanye "yesixhenxe." Yaye imithetho yomdlalo ibhaliwe: "Ukuba ufuna ukuvalelwa, soloko uphendukela kwindawo ephezulu kwi-hierarchy." Ngendlela, kukho indlela yokufundisa i-steven Petrova. Kuye wambonga ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhululekile: "Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngokuxhasa le ngcamango endiyithethayo nje." Kwaye intetho eqhubekayo ichazwe "kwinombolo eyodwa".

Iimpawu zokulawula

Kwiimidlalo zamandla, kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba uthini, kodwa ukuba uyayenza njani. Kwaye apha isixhobo esinamandla kunamafomu angenziwo amazwi. Vumela ukuba ufike kwiintlanganiso zokugqibela, ukubetha oogxa kwiphepha, ukuphazamisa ngokukhawuleza, uthathe indawo engaphezulu - zonke ezi zifundwa ngokucacileyo iimpawu zokulawula. I-Instinct yenza ukuba ibhinqa iwaphephe, kwaye imikhosi yemisebenzi yolu nqingqo ukuwunqoba. Siyakukuxhobisa ngolwazi lweempawu ezisisiseko.

Ukubulisa

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba umntu uyagubha izandla ngesibini, ngesandla sakhe sokunxele kwisandla sokunene somlingane? Indawo? Akukho nto yolu hlobo luphawu oluqinileyo lokulawula: Ndilapha "inombolo enye". Ukwamkelwa okuthandayo kukaVladimir Putin noJacques Chirac.

Xha ga mshelana

Kwimvelo, ababuthathaka bahlala benciphisa amehlo abo bajike emhlabathini xa badibana neqinileyo. Musa ukunika ubungqina obuthathaka: soloko ukhangelele ngamehlo akho xa uthetha kwaye ugcine umqolo wakho ngqo. Ukususela kwendalo sinikwa: uvelwano, ukuchaneka ngokucokisekileyo, uxanduva kunye nokukwazi ukungenelela entliziyweni yalo mbandela, ukulungelelanisa nokulungelelanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuxabana. Ewe, ke, i-charm charm kunye nesondo. Iingxoxo zoshishino zininzi ngokufanayo kunye nokudlala ngothando, kunye ne-virtuosos kwiindawo zombini zihlala zicinga phambi kweenkcukacha zonke: ubude beengubo, ukwakheka, kunye ne-gesture. Enyanisweni, isikhali esinamandla, njengehlabathi lezorhwebo, lisoloko lisetyenzisiwe, kwaye kwimidlalo yansuku zonke kubhetele ukuba babandakanyeke. Enye into kukuba ufuna iimeko xa ufuna isiphumo (phantsi kwesivumelwano, isivumelwano). Emva koko unokwenza ibluff kwaye udlale udibanise: makwenzele iqabane lamadoda ekuthintana naye ukuba lihlolisise njengomdlali onobuthakathaka, kwaye xa ekhululekile, mxelele ukuba usebenza nobani.

Kubalulekile ukuba ndibathande wonke umntu

Kuba ibhinqa alikho into embi ngaphezu kokungathandwa, kwaye le nto imfuno yabantu yokubonisa imfesane kubaninzi iba ngumqobo ongenakunqandeka kumzabalazo wamandla. Kulo mdlalo imiqondo enjengokuthi "iyamnandi", "i-cordial", "uvelwano" ayiyiyo eyona nto. Ngokungafaniyo - "uzimisele", "uyakwazi", "uqinisekile". Kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonishwa ngaphezu komthandayo.

Ukulawula abanye, ndibacaphukisa

Kuyinto enqwenelekayo kubafazi ukuba babe neendlela ezinjalo zobunkokeli ezikhuthaza ukuthembela. Kwaye abantu abayikuxabisa umphathi, ongenakulawula abaphantsi kwakhe. Ukuncintisana: ukulawulwa okungaphantsi - ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka, kunye nokulawula okungakumbi-njengoko kuyimfuneko.

Yonke into ifaneleke

Indoda yaxolelwa ebuntwaneni ukuba yayingafezekanga-inkwenkwe efanayo. Ngokungafani namantombazana. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu akhiwe ubuncinane i-facade, kwaye umfazi uzama ukufezekiswa ngokupheleleyo. Indoda, ephumelele into ethile, iya kuphumla kwaye iya kuyiphucula impumelelo yakhe. Yaye loo ntokazi iya kuhlala ixhalabele ukuba into ingcono ngakumbi.

Njalo kufuneka udlale ucocekile

Inkolelo enkulu kakhulu. Sekunjalo, kuya kufuneka sivume ukuba abo bahlala behambisana nale mgaqo bahlala bebetha ngeendlela ezingcolileyo. Kwaye kwaye ujongene nale ndlela, akunangqiqo ukudlala kwi-ping-pong, kwaye emva kwesi sifundo sibonwa kwakhona ukubuyela kwimimiselo yakho ecocekileyo.

Umsebenzi omhle uhlala uphononongwa kwaye uvuzwa

Ngelishwa, le mbono igxininiswa kakhulu. Ukuze uthole "umvuzo", kufuneka ulahle ukuthozama kwaye ufunde indlela yokupapasha umsebenzi wakho.

Ukuqhubela phambili ngokungahambelani

Ukuqhubela phambili, mhlawumbi kungekho kakuhle, kodwa le ntokazi iya kuhlala ikwazi ukwenza lo mkhangeli, ingabi namaqhina ahlangenwe nakho kwaye ingaphumeleli. Kwaye ukuza phambili kuyimfuneko ukuze kubonwe kwaye kuvezwe.

Akukuhle ukuzimela kwaye uzama ukuba ngcono kunabanye.

Yonke into eyenzeka kwicandelo lobugcisa linokulingana ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokhuphiswano. Okuqhelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba awufuni "kuba ngcono kunokuba", uzakugwetywa ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuthi "lubi ngaphezu ...".

Ukuthabatha intsimi

Amadoda akholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba indawo iyabo, kwaye bathambekele ekuguquleni kuyo, kunye nabasetyhini bexakeke ekupheleni. Ingaba ibhinqa, eligqoke kwinqwelo ye-trouser ekhululekile kakhulu, liwela entloko yowesifazane, iwele phantsi kwisihlalo sayo kwinqanaba le-bureau, imilenze yakhe isasazeka ngokubanzi? Kwaye ngamadoda le nto-intandokazi, ibonisa amandla omnqobi (kwizinto eziphilayo kunye neengqiqo ngokuthe ngqo - izitho zesini).

Izwi

Amadoda angaboni ngokucacileyo umntu okhono ngakumbi, ovakalisa uluvo lwakhe ngokugqithiseleyo nokuzikhukhumeza. Yaye ukuba i-soprano yakho ye-lyric ingayimise ukhuphiswano kunye nesigorha esineqhawe likaPetrov okanye i-bass yaseBerzin, gxininisa kwi-intonation-firm and self-confidence.

Ziphazamiso

Abasetyhini, abaphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza, ngokuqhelekileyo bayeke ukuthetha baze bavumele ukuba bathethe. Le mpazamo! Kukulungele ukwenza amazwana ngokukhawuleza kwaye uqhubeke uhlala uthetha. Kodwa izimvo ezinjengokuthi "kubonakala kum kungabi nantoni ukuba ungangivumi ukuba ndichaze imbono yam ekupheleni" kukuchitha ixesha.

Chukumisa

Isibonakaliso esinamandla sokulawula sinokuyiphula kwintsimi yomnye umntu. Usebenzisa kuphela abo baseburhulumenteni abaphezulu, kwaye abo bangaphantsi, abanakuze bavumele. Kodwa kubonakala ngathi amadoda ayifumene ukuba achukumise umfazi. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukukhupha umzamo onjalo wokulawula, phendula ngokufanayo kumadoda. Okanye uzame ukumkelwa okukhawulezayo, ukuba ulawulo lwamadoda lugxotha uthanda umvundla: cinga nje ukuba umi phambi kwakho kwiisokisi enye - kwaye akukho nto. Ukuba akayikho ikopi kaGeorge Clooney, le ndlela iyakususa ngokupheleleyo ukuxhatshazwa.

Size

Umfanekiso wenkokeli uhlala ungahambelani ngokungaqondi kunye neengcinga "ezinkulu" kwaye "zinamandla." Uhlobo lusisenzile ngakumbi kuncinci kwaye lukhuni kunamadoda. Oku kuhle kakhulu, kodwa kumzabalazo wokulawula - i-minus ecacileyo, kuba sibukeka sibukeka singenakuqhayisa. Ukutshatyalaliswa kunokunciphisa ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Kucetyiswa ukuba angamvumeli / bakubheke phezulu. Incinci umgama phakathi kwakho, ngokucacileyo kuya kuba yinto eyahlukileyo ekukhuleni. Ngako oko, kwingxoxo ebalulekileyo kunye nendoda enkulu, zama ukunyusa ngokungaqhelekanga umgama phakathi kwakho. Cwangcisa le ntlanganiso. Ukuba uya kuhlala uhleli, ulungele ukuphakama kwesihlalo kwangaphambili okanye uhlale kude. Ngaba ucinga ukuba incoko iya kuphakama? Unakekele izithende eziphezulu. Udibanise kwizitepsi? Ukungabonakaliyo ukusuka kwinqanaba eliphantsi, hamba phezulu. Ezi ziqhinga ziyazi kakuhle kwaye zisetyenziswe ngabantu abancinci. Ngokomzekelo, uNicolas Sarkozy kwiifoto zeqela zeentloko zorhulumente uhlala ephakama ukuya kwi-tiptoe.

Izifundo zoLuntu

Kwabesetyhini, ukuthetha ngamadoda amade malunga nento-uvavanyo lomonde. Kodwa emva kokuba yonke indoda, mhlawumbi, ingazange iqokelele into echazayo, yayifuna ukuba ipeyinti-inethemba lokunyuka kwindawo "yesixhenxe" ukuya kwi "yesithandathu". Le yimiqathango yomdlalo: ukuba ufuna ukuphakamisa isikhundla sakho kwaye unokuthile okuthethileyo (ngaphezulu okanye ngokungqinelanayo) - yithetha!

Kwimidlalo yamandla, ukuthozama akukhenkethi ngokubanzi. Ukufezekisa into ethile, kufuneka ubonise ukususela ngosuku lokuqala ukuba unomdla, ubonise isinyathelo, uthathe uxanduva. Kwaye ungangeni esicaleni somsebenzi onzima. Qaphela ukuba abantu abazange batyhelwe - ukusebenza nzima, kunoko-ukuthanda, ukudala kunye ne-punchy. Ukunyamekela kule mdlalo akuxabiswanga kakhulu, kodwa kusetyenziswa ngobuchule. Ngubani owenza yonke imisebenzi engcolileyo neyongenayo? Bafazi. Abantu baleka kuyo ngenxa yesizathu esilula: asikhulise udumo kwaye akavumeli ukukhanya. Ngokuqinisekileyo uMargaret Thatcher wathi: "Ukuba ufuna umntu othethayo, khangela umntu, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuyicombulula ingxaki - cela umfazi ongcono."

Khawucinge nje nge-BMW ebomnyama "enesixhenxe", epholileyo kunye neendlela eziphathekayo endleleni. Ngubani ohlala emva kwevili lakhe? Mntu, kunjalo. Yaye ngubani okhwela "igalofu", apho kulungele ukuqhuba nokupaka? Kakade ke, ibhinqa. Ngomntu, iimpawu zokudumisa zibaluleke kakhulu - uRolex, uVertu okanye uMoado uthumele umyalezo ocacileyo kwihlabathi: okulungileyo kakhulu. Ngobudlelwane obuhle, banegunya lokuxhomekeka, ngoko ukhethe iimpawu ngokwemiqathango yazo.

Kwimidlalo yamandla, kukho ixesha elibi kakhulu. Abafazi ngexesha elifanayo bawela kwimvakalelo, abantu abayibona njengobonakaliso obuthathaka. Ukuba umntu uthintele, qiniseka ukuba undixelele ngawo, kodwa qhubeka upholile. Kwaye ke, ukuba ufuna kanjalo, unganakudonga udonga kwikamelo labesifazane okanye uphulule umphefumlo womhlobo.

Isikhundla sikwimpawu zendawo: ngaphezu koko, indawo ephakamileyo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unendawo engakanani, ungavumeli nabani na ukuba bayibambe-ngokuyifaka kunye neendwangu zakho, ehleli etafileni yakho, njl. Cacisa imida yommandla wakho!

Abafazi banzima ukunika ulawulo kunye nemiyalelo, bakhetha ulwimi oluthile: "Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ...", "Mhlawumbi sinoku ...", "Omnye uya kufuneka ..." Kwihlabathi lamadoda le ndlela ayilungile! Ngoko ke, soloko ukhetha ulwimi olufutshane nolucacileyo uze ubhengeze ngendlela enobubele, ecacileyo necacileyo. Kukho umcebisi wengqondo osebenzayo: ngokuzenzekelayo ubeke uphawu lombuzo ngomqondiso wokumemeza kwigama lakhe. Ngokomzekelo, "Mhlawumbi uza kuba nexesha lokukwenza kude kube kusasa!"

Kufana ne-poker - musa ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwikhadi lakho lomchasi. Kufanelekile ukufunda ukugcina ubuso benxantye - kwimeko yindoda oku ku-premium. Yaye khumbula: indawo yethu ebuthathaka yi-reflex ekhankanyiweyo yokumomotheka, kwaye akukho ndawo yokumomotheka ngokugqithiseleyo kwimidlalo yamandla: mhlawumbi iya kubonwa njengotyikityo lokungeniswa okanye isimemo sokudlala.

Iimeko ezingaqhelekanga

Amadoda ayisebenzisa ngokuzithandela ukuqala ubudlelwane nabantu abalungileyo. Abasetyhini abayithathi nolu hlobo, kodwa ngeze. Enye ingxoxo engafanelekanga kwibhar, i-sauna okanye kwinkundla yentenethi, ngamanye amaxesha ingakhokelela kwiziphumo ezingakumbi kunengxoxo ende.

Umzabalazo wethu

Kukholelwa ukuba kulula ukusebenzisana namadoda-mhlawumbi balwa ngokugqithiseleyo, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo, kwaye zonke iingxabano zixazululwa ngokuvulekileyo. Kwaye nabasetyhini benza ngokufihlakeleyo: beka intlanzi, ukuhleba, ukukhahlaza ubuthi. Njengoko uphando lubonisa, ngaba besetyhini abanesigqibo sokubambisana. Kwaye amaxhoba abo, njengomthetho, bakhetha abafazi. Ukuba isondo esilungileyo kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuzama ukukholisa abantu, kwaye bahlala bedibanisa ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nempumelelo kule ndawo. Ngoko ke, bancintisana omnye nomnye kungekhona nje ngabasebenzi, kodwa kunye nabafazi (kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo - ngokukodwa njengabesifazane). Ukuba kuwe umphumo kubaluleke kakhulu, kungcono ukulahla kulo khuphiswano. Kwanele ukunika umqondiso kumncintiswano: "Wena uyona mhle kakhulu phakathi kwethu." Kwaye konke oko. Umqhudelwano oqinileyo unokuba ngumcebise obalaseleyo ekuzikhuleni. Yaye ukuba uyamhlonela, mhlawumbi nokuba nomona, yamkele yona - makube kukuncoma kwintliziyo. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba kunokuba udibanise uya kufumana umhlobo okhaliphile kunye nenkxaso enzulu ngexesha elibalulekileyo kuwe. Ukubambisana kwabasetyhini kunamandla amakhulu, ngaphandle koko, kukuvumela ukuba ubuke izinto kwiofisi ngokuhlekisa. Naphezulu. Sathetha kuphela ngezixhobo. Yonke into inquma iinjongo. Yaye ukuba unomgomo onjalo - yithuba lokupenda umlomo wakho kwaye ungenise ngesibindi ii-corridors zamandla.