Ihlobo lixesha leeholide. Kwaye kuba abaninzi abafazi bayathemba ngeli xesha elihle ukuhlangabezana "nesiqingatha" sabo. Kwaye, ke, onke amabhinqa amaphupha okuphila nale "siqingatha" bonke ubomi bakhe. Kuphela apha awukwazi ukuhlala ufumana oko ufuna. Unokuhlangabezana njani noxinzelelo emva kweeholide? Siza kuthetha ngale nto kweli nqaku. Ngaba awucingi ukuba intsapho yokuthandana yinto yokukhohlisa?
Ngokwezibalo, kuphela enye yeenveveli ezilishumi kwi-resort zikhule zibe yintando yangempela, ize ibe ngumtshato. Abanye besetyhini bakholelwa ukuba xa udibana, kuphela ehlobo. Kwaye ke, ngokuqala kwentwasahlobo, baqala "ukucoceka iintsiba" - ukulahlekelwa isisindo, ukuya kwesolarium, uthenge izinto ezintsha, ezintle. Kodwa intwasahlobo kungekudala okanye kamva iphelile, kwaye ukufunyanwa okungafunekiyo okungafunekiyo akuzange kwenzeke. Kwaye ke izicwangciso zokwazisa ziya kudluliselwa kwixesha lasehlotyeni lonyaka, elona lilungelelanisa abantu abatsha.
Njengoko ubomi bubonisa, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo ngoku bahlala ehlobo. Kwaye akumangalisi, kuba ihlobo lixesha lokuthandana kakhulu lonyaka. Ilanga elithandekayo, ukufudumala kweeholide, iindiza eziculayo, iilwandle, ulwandle kunye neentshonalanga zalo ezimangalisayo zizalisa umphefumlo womuntu ngethemba kunye nokuthandana. Ngoko ke, abaninzi abafazi babeka ithemba labo ehlotyeni, kwaye ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ahlasele, bayilungiselela ngokuzeleko, bephupha ukuhlangabezana nesimo sabo kwindawo ethile yothando phakathi kolwandle. Kuphela nje ukuba umntu uthemba kuphela ihlobo kunye nolwandle, omnye unokuba yintlungu yokudandatheka. Emva koko, ukuphumla elwandle akusiyo iphakade, kungekudala okanye kamva, ukusuka kwindatshana yamanqaku kuyimfuneko ukuba ubuyele kwimpunga, ubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Ngelishwa, ubuninzi beentando zeeholide zihlala kuphela imemori evuselela ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngaba uyayiqonda le nto, uthabatha iimpawu zendawo yokutyelela ingqalelo yolunye uhlanga olungileyo? Okanye unethemba lokuba uya kuthi, kwaye yintoni enye, eya kuba ngumyeni wakho? Ngaba uke wadibana nabasetyhini ababenomtshato obangela ukuba bafumane intando yeholide? Ngona isicwangciso esicwangcisiweyo sokuthi "ukuthatha" yendoda, ngokuyisiseko, ikhokelela kuphela ekuqhubekeni okuncinci ngendlela yeposididi zeeholide, ii-sms kunye neefowuni ezininzi. Kwaye konke oko. Ukongeza, kwaye oku kuphelile, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abaye bathatha inxaxheba kuleveli, bahlala kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo, amazwe okanye nakwiizwekazi ezahlukeneyo.
Emva kokubuyela ekhaya kwiintsapho zabo, kodwa iindonga ezityebileyo, beyeke ukuvalelwa kweentetho zokukhululwa kunye nokungakhathali, abantu baba lixhoba lokunganakwa. Kwaye oku akunto. Ewe, ubomi bemihla ngemihla bunqatshelwe imibala emininzi kunye nokubonakala okucacileyo, kodwa kufuneka kuqinisekiswe kwaye kuqondwe ngokuzinzileyo, njengenyaniso. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukungafani nemibono yeeholide kwenzeke kwaye ziba yinto eninzi kwaye ibuhlungu. Kodwa njengoko siyazi, ngaphandle kokuqinisekisa kuphela umgaqo. Kwaye kuphela oku ngaphandle kokuphela kokuphela komtshato.
Ukuba injongo yowesifazane kuphela kwiindawo zokuphumla kukufumana indoda nayiphi na indleko, ngoko oku kubonakala kakhulu kubantu. Kwaye akukho ndlela ongayifihla ngayo, nokuba ukunganakwa kwamadoda angayi kunceda ukuguqula lo mnqweno.
Ewe, ukuthandana kweeholide kulula kakhulu ukubopha, kodwa ngokukhawuleza baya kufika ekupheleni. Kwaye oku kubangelwa kukuba abaninzi abafazi banethemba lokuqhubela phambili kwesoveli, kwaye amadoda, kwininzi yabo, athetha ukuhlala kwimeko yesikhashana. Kwaye wena, mhlawumbi, uqinisekile ukuba udibene nendawo ekhethiweyo yona, enye kuphela? Kwaye ke bebekuloo ndawo ngaphandle komgaqo? Yaye ukuba uphosakele, yintoni na?
Masinike umzekelo. Omnye umfazi ngamnye unyaka ngamnye wasebenza nzima ukuhamba, wayecwangcise yonke into yesibili yokuphumla, ebala zonke iintlobo zeentlanganiso ezahlukahlukeneyo, enye yazo iya kuba yinto eqinisekile. Unyaka ngamnye uya kwizinto zokungqubuzana zeemvulo, ukuhambela kwimimango yamandulo kunye nokunye, ngenjongo eyodwa kuphela - ukufumana indoda yakhe. Enyanisweni, into eninzi ayithandiyo - intsholongwane, imingcwaba emanzi, kodwa wayekhathazeka konke oku ngenjongo yakhe yokufumana indoda ehlangabezana neemfuno zayo.
Ngenxa yolu hlobo lweholide, yena yedwa ubuyela ekhaya, ephelile kwaye enomzimba. Kwaye phantse njalo ibuyela ngokuvakalelwa ngokupheleleyo kubantu. Kwaye esikhundleni seholide elinjalo, wayenokuya elwandle aze aphumle apho, aphumle ilanga aze azibale iingxaki zemihla ngemihla.
Ukuba ubomi bujoliswe ekuhlangabezaneni nothando, kuya kwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke, kwaye akufuneki ukuba umntu akwesabise uthando ngenxa yokuzama ukulufumana. Uthando luza ngokwawo, ngokukhawuleza luqhuma entliziyweni yakho ngaphandle kwemvume yakho.
Ukuba uke wambamba iholide, musa ukulibala malunga neengongoma ezilandelayo, ukuze ungadideki kamva kwaye ungabi nantoni. Ukuba kwimeko eyahlukileyo kwimeko eqhelekileyo, umzekelo kweholide, abantu basoloko beziphatha ngokungafaniyo ngokwexesha eliqhelekileyo. Ngokwenene, kwimeko enjalo, abantu bayonwabile kwaye bakhululwa, yingakho kunzima ukuqwalasela le mpawu yomntu womntu ngenxa yesimo sengqondo esinjalo. Musa ukulibala malunga nalo, ukuthetha nomfana wakho.
Cishe wonke umntu akawuthathi ngokusondeleyo iintando zeeholide. Ukuqaphela ukuba iincwadi ezinjalo zihlala zixesha elifutshane ngenxa yokuba abantu abahlala behlala kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo kuphela, kodwa nakumazwe ahlukeneyo, kwaye kunye neeholide inendawo yokuphela, cima nje. Kwaye bazama ngamabomu ukutshala imali kwiholide yeholide kuninzi, ukuze kukhanyeke, kuthokoze.
Ukuthandana kweholide ngumzalwana omama weveli "enemfama." Awukwazi lutho malunga nalo mntu, awukwazi ukuba nolwazi oluqhelekileyo, ngoko unokukwazi ukuthetha into engeyinyani njengoko ukucinga kwakhe kwanele.
Nayiphi na ubuhlobo kufuneka bukhuselekile. Oku akusebenzi kuphela ukukhuselwa ngokwesini. Kukho, ngeli hlabathi, ngetyala, umtshato uhlambalaza, amasela kunye nabagxeki abanokuzisebenzisa ngokunyanisekileyo ukunyaniseka kwakho kwaye ushiye ipeneni ephaketheni lakho, uzenza njengabadumileyo.
Musa ukuthatha yonke into entliziyweni. Unokuba yixhoba lomncedisi oqhelekileyo ekuphumleni okuhle. Thatha intsha yendawo yokubhuka njengomntu omdala-owaziyo, owaziyo konke okwenzekayo.
Musa ukulibala malunga nalezi zihlandlo ezibalulekileyo kwaye akayi kudideka yiholide. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuhlala uhlala kwinqanaba lekhethelo kwaye uza kudibana nekhefu umphefumlo wakho umlingane, kuba uthando lunokufumaneka naphi na nanini na.