Ziziphi iingcamango?
Ukuba umntu uyisimo esihle, ke akudingeki ukuba alinde ukuthengwa kunye nokungcatsha. Abafana abazange baphosa into enjengokuthi "uthando". Inkwenkwe efanelekileyo kakhulu kwaye ikhetha intombazana. Utshintshana ngenxa yobuhlobo obungathandekiyo kunye nobulili ngobunye ubusuku. Indoda enjalo ayinomdla kule nto. Bonke abahlobo bakhe bangatsho ukuba akafanele aphile, athathe yonke into ebomini, kodwa akayi kubaphulaphula. Iingcamango zineengcamango zabo kunye nemigaqo, ehlala ikhokelwa, nangona zichasene nembono yoluntu. Ngoko ke, ukuba i-ideistist ikhethe wena, ngoko wamfumanisa ngokwenene lowo ufuna ukuba aphile ubomi bakhe bonke. Ngeengcamango, iingcinga ezinjenge "intsapho", "abantwana", "uthando", "ukunyaniseka" kubaluleke kakhulu. Umntu onengcamango ubonisa ubudlelwane obunjengamantombazana amaninzi abone kwiimbali zamanqaku kunye neeveli zothando. Loo mntu uya kunika. Ukuba uyayithanda, ngoko kukuphila. Umntu onjalo ufuna intsapho yakhe ingabi nantoni na, kuba kufuneka iphelele. Uya kuzama, asebenze, enze ukunyaniseka. Ukuba kwiingcamango zakhe ziphinde zithandane, ngoko loo mfana akayi kunzima ukucula i-serenade ukuze abhale iivesi. Ufuna yonke into ibe yinto epheleleyo. Ngokwemvelo, kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo zentsapho kunye nolwalamano, akalokothi athengwe. Yingakho umntu onjalo engayi kuze aye kwisinyathelo esinjalo. Uqinisekile ngokwenene ukuba umfazi uyona mhle, ngoko kutheni ufuna umntu othile kwicala. Ukongezelela, ukungcatshiswa kwendoda enjalo kukuthotywa, kuba kuqinisekisa ukungakwazi kwakhe ukukhetha intombazana efanelekileyo.
Iingcamango zikholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo kunye nobulungisa. Bazama ngokwenene ukuhlala benceda wonke umntu. Indoda enjalo ayiyi ngaphantsi kwengcinezelo yokuba icatshukiswe kwaye ikhutshwe zizihlobo zakhe. I-idealist inokuthelekiswa nomkhonto kwisibambathiso, ongeke adlule ngedadekazi eye yawela enkathazweni. Asiyi kumlondoloza kwisiqingatha sobukumkani, kodwa ngenxa yokuba umntu oqhelekileyo kufuneka akwenze. Zonke iingcamango azizinzi nto. Azingalokhathazeki ngabo ngokwabo njengoko zixhalaba ngabanye. Nangona kunjalo, iingcamango zikholelwa kubantu. Bazama ngokwenene ukubona into entle kumntu. Kwaye xa bebona oku, banokuthi baqikelele ezininzi izenzo ezingalunganga ngexesha, besenethemba lokuba izinto ezilungileyo ziya kunqoba ububi. Ukuze i-ideistist, ezininzi iindawo zokuphila zanamhlanje kunye nemithetho ayimkelekanga. Uya kuba ngumntu "wokuphosa" ngenxa yokufezekisa injongo yakhe. Iingcamango zinyanisekile, kuba ziqinisekile ukuba umntu olungileyo, kufuneka ukuba uthembeke kwaye ulungile. Ngamanye amaxesha akwazi ukuqonda oku, kodwa kwi-subconscious bazimisele ukuba bafanise, nangona bona bayayiphika.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akuzona zonke iingcamango ezikulungele ukuvuma ukuba zinjalo. Abaninzi babo bakholelwa ukuba eqinisweni bayona bantu baxhaphakileyo abangakholwayo kwiinjongo kwaye abafuni ukuhambelana. Kodwa izenzo zala madoda zibonisa okuchaseneyo. Ngendlela, ezi ngcamango zithembekileyo kwaye zinyanisekileyo. Inyaniso kukuba bayenza ngokuchanekileyo kwaye bazame ukuzama konke kwiinjongo, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bayayidinga, kodwa ngenxa yokuba balaphula intliziyo yabo, ebatsho ukuba benze njalo.
I-idealist ayinaso nabahlobo abaninzi. Ngokuchanekileyo, ebomini babo bafikelela kubantu abaninzi, kodwa ininzi yabo bayadumala, kuba ayihambisani nemigomo. Kodwa abo ekugqibeleni bahlala besondele kwiingcamango ngabahlobo bokwenyaniso abaza kubanceda njalo, baya kuhlala bebeka amahlombe abo baze bangashiyi enkingeni. Kwinqanaba elisondeleyo leengcamango ngabantu abalungileyo kuphela. Ngokubi, aba bantu bathi ukuhlabalala ngonaphakade. Ngoko ke, xa udibana ne-idealist, unako ukuqiniseka ukuba indawo yakhe ilungileyo, eyaneleyo kwaye inomdla. Ngako oko, unokuqiniseka ukuba iintombi zakho ziya kuhlala zithetha into.
Iimpawu kunye nokuziphatha kwe-idealist nazo zikwinqanaba eliphakamileyo. Ewe, akusiyo yonke i-idealist inika isandla sakhe ngaphandle kwebhasi kwaye inokunceda ngengubo, kodwa nawuphi na umntu ongenakuze azivumeleke ukuba ahlasele umfazi esidlangalaleni, afunge kwidilesi yakhe, ahlazise, ahlaziye, axoxe nabanye ngezinto zakhe ezimbi kunye nokuhleka usulu. Le ndlela iphikisana ngokupheleleyo neengcamango zakhe. Akakwazi nje ukuvumela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, kuba uyazihlambalaza. Iingcamango zihlonipha kakhulu abafazi kwaye zihlala zizama ukuziphatha kakuhle. Awusoze wambona i-ideistist oye wahlela ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nomfazi phambi kwenkampani, kwaye nangaphezulu, waphakamisa isandla sakhe kuso.
Kodwa, njengoko kwaziwa, kwihlabathi lethu akukho nto efanelekileyo, ngoko, nakhona zikhona iingozi zabo.
Ngaba iingcamango ezimbi?
Iingcamango zikholelwa ngokwenene othandweni kwaye ziyakhathazeka kakhulu. Kodwa bafuna isimo sengqondo esifanayo kunye nendawo yabo. Ukhohlakele umntu onjalo akayi kuxolelwa. Unako ukuqhubeka nokuthanda intombi ebomini bakhe bonke, kodwa akuyi kuphinda kubekho ubudlelwane naye.
Ukuba i-idealist ididekile kumntu, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba athembele kwaye ahloniphe kwakhona. Kubomntu onje kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantu abakujikeleze banamathela kwimigangatho yakhe. I-Prichemon inokude ikholelwe ekubeni inyaniso. Kodwa ukuba ngenye indlela uyaqonda ukuba inyaniso yonke into iyahluke, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukuphelisa ngokugqithiseleyo umntu lowo. Yintoni umntu ongenakukwazi ukuxolela abayiyo loo nto abantu abasayi kuyilibala. Unalo uqobo lwakhe lwexabiso kunye noko abanye abakubonayo njengokuziphatha kakubi kumbi kuye.
Iimbono zihlonipha kakhulu abafazi, kodwa zifuna isimo esifanayo. Ukuba uphula umthetho kumntu ofanelekileyo we-ideistist, ngoko kuye kuba lukhuni olunamandla kangangokuthi akakwazi ukuxolela umntu iminyaka okanye ukuyeka ukuthetha naye ngonaphakade. Nangona okokuhlambalaza kwakungumhleki kwaye akukho mntu wayefuna ukuwuphazamisa, i-idealist ayisayi kukwazi ukuxolela. Uvavanya nje yena ngokwakhe, izinto ezininzi zibonakala zingamkelekanga kuye.
Ngoko, ukuba sithetha malunga nokuba kulungile okanye kukubi ukuba yi-idealist, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane impendulo engabonakaliyo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ababonayo banamaqela amaninzi, kodwa kukho ukungonakali. Ngoko ke, wonk