Ndivakalelwa kukuba indoda yam intanda iyanqanda ukumthanda

Kwaye uhlala ngokuvuyisa emva kokuba ulandele ... Kuze kube ngolunye usuku lomgwebo, xa waqala ukuphawula emva kwakhe, kubantu bakho abathembekileyo, abangaqhelekanga phambi kwakho ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Ukunyamezela kwakhe kunye nemiqondiso yokuqwalasela kwaqala ukubonakala ngathi uyangena. Waqala ukunxibelelana kunye nawe, wasuka waya kuye, waba ngumntu ongenamdla kunye naye. Ngelinye igama, libonakala lide kuwe. Konke oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukuchaphazela kunye nekratshi lakho, ekuhlaleni komphefumlo wakho. Kungenxa yoko, wacatshukiswa kwaye ukhathazekile, ulahlekelwe ukuziphatha kwakho nokuzithemba kwiimvakalelo zakhe. Ngoko, umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba indoda yam intanda iyanqandile."

Into ebaluleke kakhulu kule meko ayiyikusazela, kodwa ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye uyiqonde ngokucacileyo yonke injongo yobudlelwane bakho naye. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza, uchitha nje ixesha lakho, kwaye uphelile, kungekhona ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziphelile. Ungalokothi wenze izigqibo eziphambi kwexesha ngaphandle kokuqiniseka ngokusesikweni kwabo kunye nokunyaniseka. Oku kunokukhokelela kwisiphumo esingathandekiyo. Ngokomzekelo, unako, ngokwakho, uxinzelelo oluchanekileyo kumntu, ngokungafunekiyo, nje umchukumise kude nawe. Amadoda awayithandi xa ecinezelwa kwaye, nangakumbi, uzama ukukhokela iimvakalelo zakhe. Okokuqala, qaphela isizathu sokupholisa ngokukhawuleza ngokuchasene nawe. Khangela ubudlelwane bakho, njengokungathi uvela ngaphandle. Mhlawumbi yingozi nje, uxakekile ngomsebenzi, okanye ukhathele ubomi bemihla ngemihla, okanye uneengxaki ezingenakulinganisa ukwabelana kunye nokuxoxa nawe. Zama ukubonisa ukunyamezela kuye kwaye, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngendlela ephucukileyo, ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza kunye nokuhlambalaza, mbuze malunga noko kwenzekayo. Memezela konke ngakwesobunxele nakwesokudla: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba indoda yam intanda iyanqandile," - akufanelekile. Mhlawumbi akazange ayeke ukuthanda kwakho konke, sisoloko sisazi indlela yokuguqula kakuhle i-subconscious yethu kwaye siyabonga kule nto, siqala ukunika ingqiqo ekhoyo. Zama ukunciphisa imeko ngeenkumbulo, njengoko uhlala ulunge kunye, incoko kufuneka ibe yinyani, kufuneka ukhangele ingqalelo. Kwaye, yenza intetho yakho kwinqanaba lomzwelo. Kuphela kule nqanaba, loo mntu uya kuba nako ukuthemba wena kwaye uthethe isizathu esiyinyani, ukuziphatha okunjalo.

Ukuba ukwesaba kwakho kuqinisekiswa kwaye yonke into kukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zaphela zaphela. Kwakhona, ungakhathazeki. Khumbula ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba uziziva njani, uhlazekile kwaye uchithekile, zama ukuzityha kunye kunye nokuzama ukukhusela ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Ewe, oku kwenzeka ukuba uyayifuna ngokwenene. Ukuba, ukhathele kwaye ungafuni ukulwa neemvakalelo zakhe. Masiyeke, awuyiyo impahla yomnye nomnye, enikezelwa kwifa elingunaphakade, kodwa abantu abaphilileyo abaneemfuno zabo, iimvakalelo kunye nelungelo lokuphila ubomi obulungile. Ukuba uthembele kuwe kwaye ukuba imeko ayikwazi ukulungiswa, vumela uhambe ngokuthula. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana umntu othandayo. Ndagqiba ekubeni ndilwele uthando lwakhe uze uye ekupheleni, uze ufike kuwo. Nantsi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akufanelekile ukulibala. Ngoko, njengoko esenako, kuba ngokwakhe akazange acinge ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yintoni, ufuna ngokwenene ubomi. Ngoko ke, ukutshintsha imeko kwaye uyenze ukuba ijikeleze, kuyimfuneko ngelixa "ishushu kakhulu", oko kukuthi, ekugqibeleni indoda yagqiba ekubeni yenze isigqibo esingeke sithande. Ndicinga ukuba ezinye iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo malunga nokuziphatha kwezi meko, awuphazamisi.

Okokuqala, ukuba uhlala ndawonye phantsi kophahla olulodwa, khawuleza uzame ukushiya, oko kungekuze kuphelelwe imithi. Emva kwakho konke, njengoko siyazi, ukususela ekuthandweni kunenzondo kuphela. Ngoko, ungalibali le meko. Zama ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo, mhlawumbi iimvakalelo zakho ziza kuqhubeka, kwaye uya kukwazi ukuzola kwaye wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.

Emva koko, ukufumana ngeefowuni rhoqo kunye nokutyelela akukufanelekanga nhlobo. Kwaye ngakumbi nangakumbi, qhaqhaqhayisa kwaye uhlabe i-snot. Ukuba awuyi kukumthanda kwakhona. Kwaye nangona kunjalo, uya kushenxisa kude. Ngaphandle, njengesihawu, akayiva nantoni na. Ukuziqhenya lakho "ihashe" eyintloko. Ukunyamekela imbonakalo yakho, tyelela i-salon yobuhle, umgcini wezinwele, ngegama elithi "ukuqhakaza" kuye nangona ubuhle bakhe bonke. Unokwenza utshintshe umfanekiso wakho. Makhe abone indlela enhle ngayo ngaphandle kwakhe. Ndikholelwe, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kumlimaza. Bonke abantu banamalungelo kunye ne-egoists, kwaye nangona ecinga ukuba akayidingi umfazi. Kodwa uyambona eyanelisekile, ehlambulukile kwaye eqinisekisiwe kwaye engenaye, oku kubi kakhulu kwi-ego yakhe. Qiniseka, uya kubiza kungekudala. Ewe, ukusuka kwibell yokuqala akufanelekile ukuthatha isikhundla sakho nonke. Dlala nayo, xelela malunga nendlela ohlala ngayo ngaphandle kwayo, yenzeni kuphela kwiimpawu ezinemibala kunye nemihle. Yongeza ioli kumlilo, makubonise ukuba ngubani olahlekileyo. Mboneni, unako, sele usesiswini lwesine, sesine. Injongo ephambili yentlanganiso yakho ayikho into ehamba ngayo. Mane udibana, xubusha ixesha elidlulileyo. Le ntlanganiso kufuneka, ngokuthe ngqo, ibe nomntu ongaqhelekanga kwintlanganiso. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukunamathela kuyo akuyimfuneko, njengoko besithi, ukuze bangabesabi, kodwa ukudlala ngothando kuya kufaneleka. Kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni ukwenzela ukuba umphumo wale nxibelelwano ngumgaqo wesibini, oko kuthiwa "umhla." Kuvela kuye kwaye uqala ukwenza njenge-seductress yangempela. Ingqondo yengqondo yinto engabonakalwanga ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakhe, ngoko ke, ngokulula nje ukuyeka uthando, unokukuthanda kwakhona. Kwaye, nangaphezulu, amandla angaphezulu kunokuba xa le miva yayingowokuqala.

Ngoko, yazi ukuba konke kusezandleni zakho kwaye kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Ukuba ingqondo yakho ivame ukuchukumisa ingcamango: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba indoda yam intanda iyanqanda ukumthanda" - ungayithathi njengokuba uyinyaniso, kodwa zama ukuqonda izizathu uze utshintshe. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, thabathe kwingcaciso yakho, ukuba iimvakalelo zomntu, zithule kuwe, zithobele indlela oziphatha ngayo. Mhlawumbi kwakukuziphatha kwakhe ukuba wamgxotha. Kwaye, ukuba, ngaphezulu, unganyathelo kwisakhe, shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kwizinto kunye nomntu wakho, ngqo.