Ewe, kulungile ukuphupha. Kodwa kubhetele xa iphupha liba liyinyaniso. UDanielle Laporte uye wavelisa indlela entsha yokufezekisa iinjongo, ngenxa yokuba amawaka abantu sele batshintshe ubomi babo. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngale nto kwaye sikuxelele ekufundiseni okuvela kwincwadi yakhe ethi "Hlala kunye nomvakalelo" - kwabo bafuna ukuzalisekisa amaphupha abo.
Kutheni sifuna "iinjongo ezifanelekileyo" kunye namaphupha
Iminqweno yethu ithululelwa kwizenzo, kwaye zeziphi izenzo - oko kuya kwenzeka . Musa ukulungelelanisa yonke into emva koko uze uzame ukufakela ilizwi lakho langaphakathi. Ubomi abuphelelanga, konke akunakwenziwa. Ezi ngcamango zenze uDanielle Laporte zijonge kwiinjongo zakhe kwaye aqonde ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Ukufunda isicatshulwa sakhe, wayekwazi ukudala inkqubo ehambelana nomgaqo oqhelekileyo wokusekela iinjongo, uguquka. Phantse wonke umntu eMhlabeni kwiindawo ezinzulu zomphefumlo wakhe amaphupha obomi obuncinane: kuhle ukutshintsha imisebenzi, ubuyisele ubudlelwane nomhlobo omdala, fumana i-hobby, uhambo oluqhelekileyo, ufunde ulwimi kwaye unakekele ukuzisa umzimba ngendlela. Kubonakala ukuba oku kwahlukana kwaye akukho nxu lumene, kodwa ngokuchanekileyo ezi zinto zenza ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba unayo "amanqaku" anjalo, ngoko sincoma ukuba siqwalasele indlela kaDaniella Laporte. Kulula, kodwa kusebenza. Ngoncedo lwayo, unokuqalisa ngokuthe ngcembe utshintsho-kwaye ngenxa yoko, ngokukhawuleza kuza kumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo, obonwabileyo.Yiyiphi Imephu Yenqwenela
Ikhadi elinqwenelayo yinkqubo evumela ukuba uguqule imibono ibe yinyani ngoncedo lombuzo omnye: "Ndifuna ukuziva njani?". Lo mbuzo olula wenza ukuba uhluke kakhulu ukucwangcisa ubomi bakho kwaye wenze imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Into yokuqala oyenzayo ukugxila kwiimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ofuna ukuhlangabezana nazo ngomso / ngeveki / ngonyaka, kwaye emva koko ubeke iinjongo uze uwaphule kwizenzo ezincinci. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bahluke: kuqala babhala iinjongo, kwaye ke, xa befikile, baqonda iimvakalelo ezibonakalayo. Ngokomzekelo, waphakamisa umgangatho wemisebenzi, njengoko wayekade efuna, waza waba ngumphathi omkhulu. Kodwa kwavela ukuba oku akusiyo nje umvuzo ohloniphekileyo, kodwa kunye nokutya okunjalo kunye ne-shedding schedule. Isiphumo sidimazeka, sicasulayo, ukunganakwa. Ayikho imvakalelo engcono kwihlabathi. Kodwa unokwenza okuhlukile! Okokuqala, sigqibo malunga neemvakalelo ofuna ukuzenza. Kungaba uvuyo, uxolo, ukuphefumlelwa, amandla, ukugxininiswa, ubuchule. Imibuzo elandelayo oza kuzibuza yona iya kuba: "Ziziphi iinjongo eziya kundinika yona?" Kwaye "Ziziphi iimpawu endingazithathayo ngoku / ngomso / kule veki / kule nyanga ukuva le miva?" . Ngoko uza kwenza isicwangciso sonyaka ozayo okanye uninzi, iingongoma eziphambili zazo eziza kuba ngamaphupha kunye neenjongo zakho - ezo zifunwa ngumphefumlo, kwaye kungekhona imibandela efana neyokuthenga "imoto", "yiba ngumntu ophumelelayo" (ngendlela, awazi into ngaba oko kuthetha ntoni?) okanye "fumana intsapho".Ukuzivocavoca "umzimba kunye nempilo"
Unako ukufezekisa kakhulu - nje apha sifuna ukufumanisa ukuba uyayidinga (kwaye nokuba uyayidinga konke). Xa uqaphela ngokucacileyo ukuba iimvakalelo neemvakalelo ofuna ukuzenza njani kusasa, ukuvuka ebhedeni, emsebenzini, ngobudlelwane nabathandekayo, uya kufumana ukuba uzama izinto ezihluke kakhulu kunomsebenzi ohloniphekileyo "kuba malume . " Yaye indlela eya kwinjongo yakho iya kuba mnandi kuwe. Ngoko uza kufumana ukwaneliseka ekufikeleleni umnqweno kungekudala emva kwexesha elizayo, kodwa namhlanje nangoku. Ikhadi elinqwenelayo lilungele ukuba lenziwe kabini ngonyaka, ukwenzela ukuba kukho ithuba lokuphonononga okufakwayo kwakho - ngaba unokukhawuleza ufune utshintsho? Le ndlela ifanelekile kubantu abasebenzayo kunye nabatatyiweyo: isicwangciso esicacileyo esineenjongo ezibalulekileyo kunye nezenzo, kwaye ayitshintshi imihla ngemihla. Ukwenza Imephu epheleleyo yeminqweno, kufuneka uhambe kuzo zonke iinkalo ezibalulekileyo zobomi. Okwangoku, zama ukufumana "iimvakalelo zakho zangomso" kwindawo enjengomzimba kunye neMpilo. Oku kubandakanya izinto ezincinane: ukutya, ukuqina, ukuphumla, ukuphumla, impilo yengqondo, ukuziphatha, ukunyakaza, ukuphilisa. Ukwenza lo msebenzi, cinga ngezinto ongathanda ukuzifumana ngayo kwizinto ezi.- Ukuze "ubambe" umtsalane omhle, bhala phantsi kwiphepha lakho konke onokubulela ngobomi kwintsimi yeBhunga kunye neMpilo. Ukongezelela, kuya kunceda ukufumanisa into ongayigxila kuyo. Kucetyiswa ukuba uchaze isizathu sokuba unombulelo ngakumbi.
- Isigaba sesibini sifuna ubuthathaka : dwelisa yonke into ongayithandayo kule ndawo yobomi. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze ulungise izinto, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba zeziphi. Udinga ukugxila kwiingxaki ezibalulekileyo, kodwa ungalibali ngezinto ezincinci.
- Ixesha lifikile lokuba yonke into iqaliswe - ukuchongwa kweemvakalelo ezifunwayo. Cinga kwaye ubhale phantsi konke-konke-yonke imizwa kunye neemvakalelo onokuthanda ukuzivakalelwa ngeMzimba kunye neMpilo. Kungenzeka ukuba ufumane uluhlu olude. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo! Ungazihlolisisi kwaye ungayeki ukuhamba kweengqondo - bhala yonke into efika engqondweni yakho ngaphandle kokucoca. Ingqondo imele ihlale ngasemva, ubuncinci ixesha lokuba yi-violin yokuqala umphefumlo wakho.
- Kwaye ngoku sinciphise uluhlu lweemvakalelo . Unokwenza ngokukhawuleza okanye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa. Kwakhona, qwalasela igama ngalinye elirekhodiweyo, bhengeza ngokuvakalayo kwaye unqume ukuba ngaba ngokwenene ufuna oko. Shiya ilizwi xa uziva uvakalelwa ngokukodwa kwisimo sakhe sengqondo: ufuna ukukhala, ukuthukuthela, ukumncumo, uvakalelwa kukuba uyonwabile kwaye uyonwabile. Le yona mvakalelo eyimfihlo.