Njengoko uyazi, bonke ubudlelwane ekuqaleni kwabo baxhamle kwiimpawu zemiva, iimvakalelo, umdla kunye nemihlali. Kwinqanaba lokuqala, wonke umntu uyavuya kwaye ufuna nje ukuba nomnye. Kwaye akukho zinkxalabo zonke - ukhumbula usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, iifowuni, phantse nganye iyure, kwaye yonke imihla ifakwe kwisimo sothando. Ngamanye amazwi: akukho zikhalazo kunye nomnye uqhubekayo, "njengama-clockwork." Kodwa ngexesha elingenakulinganiswa linga kwenzeka, kwaye uya kujonga umthandi wakho ngendlela ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba uyatshintshile, kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe zipholile. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, amadoda aqala ukubiza ngokungafanekiyo, kwaye aqikelele oku ngokungahlali ixesha okanye ukukhathala emsebenzini. Ukuba uzama ukufumanisa oko kwenzekayo, loo ndoda iya kudla "ukuthatha indawo" kunye nefomu leentlanzi iya kuchazela ukuba akanalo ixesha yena ngokwakhe, engakhankanyi ngaye. Ngendlela, ukumangalela ngokungaqondi kakuhle, nceda, kodwa ukuthetha ngeengxaki zakho okanye oko kukukhathazayo ngokwenene "akuyiyo ishishini lomntu". Yintoni oya kuthetha, njengokuba uyayazi, umntu othanda, uhlala efuna ukuthetha nomfazi wakhe othandekayo "ngemfihlelo" yakhe kunye nobuhlungu. Kodwa, ukuba uthe wagxotha kuye, kukho konke amathuba okuba uvakale ngayo imizwa yakhe. Yintoni enokuyenza xa ivakalelwa yindoda yomntu kunye nokuziphatha kwayo kweli meko kumfazi?
Okokuqala, akudingekile ukuba udwebe izigqibo eziphambili ezikhokelela kwintlanzi kunye neengxabano ezipheleleyo emphefumlweni. Zama nje ukufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo uze uthethe nomthandi wakho. Ngendlela, ngexesha leengxoxo akudingeki ukuba ufake ingcinezelo kumthandi wakho kwaye uzame ukufumana impendulo evela kuye kumbuzo owubuzwe nguwe. Khumbula ukuba abantu abayithandi xa betyhidiweyo, ngoko awuyi kufeza nantoni na ngokumemeza nokuhlaziya. Kwimeko apho indoda igwema ukunxibelelana kwaye ingaqhagamshelani nawe, yeka ukuzibophelela. Amadoda asoloko ebalekela abo bafazi abazama "ukuphoqa" ukuba bazibophelele. Ziqhayisa kwaye wazi ngokwakho intengo. Cinga ngento yokuba le ndoda "ayiyena yokuqala kwaye ingeyokugqibela" ebomini bakho kwaye ngakumbi nakwihlabathi. Ngoko hlazisa kwaye uthandazele incoko - akusiyo ishishini labasetyhini. Kwaye ke, ukuba uyayigweba ingxoxo, mnike ixesha. Makhe ahlale ixesha elithile ekhaya, acamngce, aziqonde yena kunye neemvakalelo zakhe, aze akhangele kwaye uza kuphuma "kwindawo yokukhusela" yakhe incoko kunye nawe. Misa isikhashana - le enye enye indlela efanelekileyo yokuziqonda, khumbula iimvakalelo ezidlulileyo kwaye, oko kungagqithwanga ngaphandle, kukhwankqiswe.
Ngendlela, ngelixa umntu ecinga ukuba "nokuba okanye kungekhona," akudingeki ukuba uxhomeke umfanekiso wesifazane ongeyedwa kwaye ongenamdla ngeli xesha. Zama ukukholisa impilo yakho yesiqhelo. Umsebenzi, abahlobo, umdlalo ozithandayo yiyo yonke into eya kukunceda ukuphazamisa kwisimo esingathandekiyo sokulinda. Ukongeza, iqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo liya kuba nomdla kwindlela ohlala ngayo ngexesha lo "ukuthula kobudlelwane bakho". Kwaye ufunde ngokuphumelela kwakho kuzo zonke iinkalo kunye nezenzo, kwaye ngokukodwa phakathi kwamanye abantu, ngokuqinisekileyo oku kuya kumshaya. Musa ukulibala ukuba ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo zomntu zingabuyiselwa, zivusa kuye umona womona nomnqweno wokulwa nawe. Mnike ithuba, kwaye umphumo awuyi kuthatha ixesha elide.
Enye inkcazelo ebalulekileyo ukubonakala kwakho. Zama ukuyitshintsha ngokugqithiseleyo. Ukutyelela i-beauty salon, i-solarium, i-boutique ebiza kakhulu kwaye uphumule kwimihla ngemihla. Kunokwenzeka ukuba umfanekiso wakho omtsha uya kubangela ukuvakalelwa entliziyweni yomntu onomlilo oqinileyo.
Kwaye ngoku ngamagama ambalwa malunga nefowuni. Zama ukuba ungambize kwaye ungakhathazeki ngemibuzo eqhubekayo malunga nendlela yena kunye noko kuza kwenzeka ntoni emva koko. Ufuna - uya kubiza! Ukuba waqala ukuzibiza ngokuqhelekileyo, ngoko yonke into yavela kakuhle, kwaye ixesha lakhe elibucayi ebomini bakhe ladlula. Kodwa isinyathelo kufuneka sisuke kuye. Ngoko ke akufuneki ukuba usebenze ngokukhawuleza aze aphephe entanyeni yakhe. Mema ukuba adibana nendawo ethile kwintsimi engathathi hlangothi okanye, umzekelo, ipaki apho wahlala ephethe isandla sakho waza wakhangela isibhakabhaka esibhakabhaka. Iindawo ezinjalo ziyakwazi ukukhupha konke ukungathandabuzeki, ukuba abo, ngokuqinisekileyo, bahlala kunye nendoda baze bamqhubele isinyathelo esinye kufuphi nawe.
Yaye into yokugqibela, ukuba iimvakalelo zomntu wakho zipholile kuwe ngenxa yokuba wayenomnye umfazi entloko yakhe, kwaye udidekile kwaye akazi ukuba ngubani na onokuhlala naye. Iseluleko sethu: sigijime kumntu onokude kwaye ungacingi nangaloo nto "kodwa ngokukhawuleza uya kukukhetha ...". Yinto enye ukuba umntu uyayazi into ayifunayo ngokwenene ebomini, kwaye enye, xa ehlupheka kwaye akakwazi ukwenza ukhetho. Ngamanye amazwi, oku akuyindoda. Sisiphi isiqinisekiso sokuba ngexesha, nangona abuyele kuwe, iimvakalelo zakhe aziyi kulahlekelwa intsingiselo ngenxa yowesifazane omtsha. Ngoko yenza izigqibo, bafazi abathandekayo.
Ukudweba umgca phantsi kwayo yonke into engentla, ndifuna ukukuxelela ukuba ukuze iimvakalelo zakho zihlale ziqinileyo kwaye ungalokothi uziqaphele, soloko uzama ukuxhalabisana, ungesabi ukutshintsha, uzame kwaye rhoqo kaninzi ukuthetha amagama ngothando. Kule meko kukho isiqinisekiso esipheleleyo sokuthi phakathi kwakho "akukho nto" ayiyi kusebenza, kwaye uya kusindisa iimvakalelo zakho iminyaka emininzi. Uthande kwaye uthande, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, xabisa indoda yakho kunye nomthandayo uya kuphendula ngokufanayo, okwenza ube ngumntu onoyolo ngakumbi kwihlabathi. Inhlanhla kuwe!