Ukuzidla
Bathi kulula kumntu oziqhenyayo, kodwa ngokwenene bazinzima kakhulu, kuba kuzo zonke iimeko abantu abanjalo kufuneka baphume ngokuzimela. Kwaye njengoko uyazi, ebomini kukho imeko ezinjalo xa isandla esingakhange sifunde somthandayo singakwazi ukwenza. Kutheni na uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu lwenqaba ukwamukelwa uncedo olucetywayo? Inyani kukuba ukuzingca kubonakala kumgangatho ontle kunye nokuziphatha okubi. Umntu oziqhenyayo unokuwa phantsi kwakhe. Yaye ngokucinga kwakhe, oku kwenzekayo xa ethatha uncedo lomntu. Ukuba abantu abaninzi babona uncedo njengento eqhelekileyo, kwaye abanye bayayiphatha njengento efanelekileyo, ngoko umntu oziqhenkcelayo uyazibona uncedo nje ngokuhlambalaza. Uyabona kule nto yokunganakwa nokunyanzelwa. Kubonakala kuye ukuba ngale ndlela abanye babonisa ukuba ubuthathaka, ukuba akakwazi ukwenza into eyedwa. Abantu abaziqhenyayo banokuqonda ukuba izigwebo zabo ziphosakeleyo, kodwa baya kwenza okufanayo. Akunakukwazi ukuziphatha ngokungafaniyo, kuba bajwayele kule ndlela yokuziphatha. Ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba umthandwa wakho mkhulu kakhulu, yingakho engakwazi ukuziphoqa ukuba amukele uncedo oluvela kuwe. Kwaye ungakanani ukubeka ingcinezelo kuye, akazange amgxeke kwaye akazange achaze, akuyi kutshintsha nto. Uya kuqhubeka eziphatha ngale ndlela, kodwa ekugqibeleni uya kukhangela, kodwa awufuni ukungena kwiimeko zakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba umntu ufuna uncedo, zama ukukunceda, kodwa ukuze umthandi wakho angayiqondi apho ivela khona kwaye athathe yonke into njengento enenhlanhla. Ngaphandle koko, uya ku soloko ufumana ukungavumi.
Isidima esiphezulu sabantu
Kule meko, kuya kuba ngabafana kuphela. Ngendlela, ngaba amadoda anqwenela uncedo rhoqo. Kulula kubafazi ukuba babhekane neqhayiya, kunye neengxaki zabo. Amadoda anzima kakhulu ukwamkela uncedo ukuba ebuntwaneni okanye ebusheni bachithwa ngxaki, bawabiza ngokuthi izigulane, iintombi, bahlazisa ihlonipho yabo nesidima. Ukukhula, loo mntu uhlala ecinga ukuba uya kuphinda athathwe njengobuthathaka, engakwaziyo nantoni na. Ngoko ke, xa unika uncedo kumntu onjalo, uqala ukucinga ukuba ukuba uyayithatha, ngokukodwa kumfazi, kuya kuba yinto ebizwa ngokuba yindoda. ufuna konke kwenzeke kwakhona. Yingakho abantu benqaba ukuzinceda baze bafune ukucombulula iingxaki zabo. Kubonakala kubo ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba banokubonisa ubungqina babo besintu kunye namandla. Kwaye akunandaba nababantu nantoni na ukuba ucinga ngabo njengamadoda okwenene, ngenxa yokuba ngelinye ilanga abaziboni njengabo. Kwaye phantse ikhulwini lekhomenti yamatyala, izigwebo zabantu abatsha malunga nomntu wazo ziyiyo. Aba bantu banobuqili, banobulungisa, balungisa, bancedisayo, banomusa kwaye banesibindi. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba xa abanye abantwana bebengaziqwalasele ezi mpawu, kwaye ububele nomnqweno wokunceda kuthatha ubuthathaka, ngoku ngoku kufuneka indoda ihlale ibonakalise kwihlabathi lonke ukuba inako kakhulu.
Ngelishwa, iimbono zehlabathi ezinzima kunzima ukutshintsha nokulungisa. Ukuba umntu ngexesha lokubunjwa kwengqondo yakhe wayehlala eqhutyelwa entloko ngoluvo lokuba unobuthathaka, emva kweminyaka embalwa, ukuba ngumntu okhulile, enje mfana, ekhumbula into eyenzekayo kuye, uqala ukubonakalisa kwihlabathi lonke amandla akhe. Ngenxa yoko, ngaba aba bantu bahlupheka kakhulu, kuba bahlala bezama ukucombulula neengxaki abazikwazi ukuzisombulula. Umnqweno wokuhlala ubonisa ihlabathi lonke ukuba bafanele into ethile, yenza aba bantu abatsha banqwenela ukunceda, nangona baqonda ukuba kuyafaneleka ukuwamkela. Umfana onjalo uya kuthetha ukuba uphumelele ngaphandle kwemali kwaye uya kulamba, kunokuba uya kuthatha ityala, kuba uya kubonisa ukuba akayena umntu ongokoqobo onokufumana imali eyaneleyo nokulawula kakuhle imali yakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukukunceda ngandlela-thile umntu onjalo, akufuneki ukuba umxelele ngokucacileyo ukuba izenzo zakho zincedo, ukubetha iimeko ukuze kubonakale ngathi akayidingi, kwaye awukwazi ukuhlala nje, ukuba kungenjalo kuye uya kwenza. Inokwenzeka ukuba, enzulwini, insizwa iya kuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba izinto ziphi. Kodwa uziva elula kakhulu, kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, uya kwamkela lwakho uncedo.
Andifuni ukuba netyala
Abanye abantu abawamukeli uncedo, kuba abafuni ukunyanzeliswa kumntu. Kukho izizathu ezibini zezi:
- Abantu babesoloko bejamelana neemeko xa abantu bebanceda, kwaye baqala ukufuna imali eninzi. Okanye bathi bakwenza konke okufana noko, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, emva kwexesha bazama ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lokuzimela. Kule meko, abantu banqwenela ukwamkela into evela kwabancinci. Kungenxa yokuba sele sele bejongene neemeko ebomini babo, xa abaxhamli baxhamla ukuza kunceda, baze baziphathe njengokungathi bafumene umhlobo wabo ebukhoboka. Ukubukela imeko efanayo, abaninzi banqumle ukuba kulunge ukujongana neengxaki zabo ngokwabo kunokuzama ukubuyisela ubomi babo bonke abazijonga njengomhlanguli omkhulu kunye noyena mkhosi womphefumlo. Abantu abafumana "abancedisi" abanjalo bayaqondakala, kuba amava amnandi, njengoko uyaziyo, yinto engcono kwaye ukhunjulwa ebomini bam.
- Umntu ngokwakhe akafuni ukunceda nabani na, ngoko uzama ukuba angabi naziphi na izinto ezinyanzelekile kumntu. Kule meko, ubhekana ne "Scrooge" eqhelekileyo, oyika ukothatha ipeniti eyongezelelweyo kufuphi kwaye uphakamise umntu ngomnwe. Loo mntu uya kulungela ukuba angabikho kwiingxaki kunokuba avume ukuncedisa, kuba kwikamva uza kuba nokucela into ethile. Ukuba ujongene nalo mntu uqobo, ke undikholelwe, imizamo yakho ayize. Abantu abanjalo abafanelekanga uncedo lomnye umntu. Ziyimpumelelo kwaye azikhathazi nje kwimicimbi yezezimali. Abantu abanjalo banonophelo kwiimvakalelo zabo, ngoko ningakhathazeki ngabo, kuba abantu abanakuze bacinge ngeVastaka.