Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa iindlela ezininzi zokukwenza ubomi bakho bube lula, ukuba ufanele uxolo. Funda ukuxolisa ngeemeko ezihlazo, kwaye oku kuya kukunceda ungahlali kwisilumko, kwaye wenze ukuba nomntu oncomekayo.
Ngaba kukho into eyenzekayo?
Abantu abaninzi bakuthola kunzima ukuzibophezela ukuba bacele ukuxolelwa, nokuba loo nto ifuna ukuba ixolelwe. Nangona uvakalelwa unetyala, bayesaba ukuzivakalelwa okanye baxolelwe, baqhubeke beziphatha ngokungathi akukho nto iyenzekayo. Ukuphulukiswa kule nto kuvakalelwa ngakumbi - imeko iyancipha. Ukuxolisa kumntu ukuba uzive unetyala, oku kuya kunciphisa umphefumlo.
Ewe, kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukuzisebenzisa ukuthetha amagama athandekileyo, sondela, umzekelo, emsebenzini kumntu osebenza naye owezolo engathintekanga, kwaye uthi:
"Makhe siye kwikhafefe. Ndifuna ngokwenene ukusela itiye kunye nawe-ndifa ngenxa yokoma. Namhlanje ubonakala umangalisa! "Akunakuyiphi na emva kokuba ukubingelela okunobungqina okuqhubekayo kuqhutywe ... Emva kweeyi, imeko iya kukhutshwa. Kwaye unokuthetha ngokuthula, ukhangele emehlweni akhe: "Ndixolele. Ndatshitshisa into ephosakeleyo izolo. "
Ukungalunganga kwendlela: ukungaxhamli kwangaphandle kokuziphatha kokuxolisa akunakukukholisa ukukhutshiswa. Yaye uyagqiba isigqibo: umntu onetyala unomntu ongenomdla ongakwazi ukuqonda intlungu yakhe.
Bhala iileta
Namhlanje, bambalwa abantu abanokukhalaza ngokungabi namathuba okuqhagamshelana nomnye umntu okanye omnye umntu. Ngaba awukwazi ukuxolisa xa udibana, ukhangela amehlo akho? Akukho mandla okubamba incoko yefowuni enzima? Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba! Kukho imiyalezo yesms kunye ne-imeyile! Umzuzu ocolileyo ngokukhethekileyo: ungacinga ngegama ngalinye, ukwakha ngokucacileyo umxholo wesigidimi. Uya kuziva ukhululekile ngokucinezela inkinobho "thumela". Ikhono lokufunda ukuxolisa kwiimeko ezingenakwenzeka kungekhona nje ukunciphisa umphefumlo, kodwa kunceda kwakhona ukubuyisela ubuhlobo ixesha elide.
Ukungabi nalolu hlobo: kuya kufuneka ulinde impendulo evela kummeli-dilesi. Ukuba impendulo ayilandelanga ngokukhawuleza, uya kuqala ukulahleka ngombono: kutheni ungaphenduli? Umyalezo awufinyelelwanga? Uxolo aluvunyelwanga? Lowo uziva unetyala, ucinga ukuba uyanikezela kwaye uxolo ngokubhaliweyo, ukothuka ukujonga emehlweni akhe?
Ngentsimbi evulekile
Kwaye ungayifumani i-hang it kwaye ungabuyi uxolo xa iphoso lakho? Into ephambili ukulandela nje kuphela amagama, kodwa kunye nesigxina sezwi kunye nesigama. Gwema iincwadana ezidumayo - zivakala zingekho ngokwemvelo kwaye ziphakamisa ukungathandabuzeki ngokunyaniseka kwalowo owamemezelayo. Umele uthethe intetho, uthethe uthule kwaye uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Vumela amagama avele entliziyweni. Bathi kubo, jonga kumntu womntu owabhalileyo.
Ukuba ukuhlamba kunzulu kakhulu, ungalindelanga ukuba uxolelwe ngokukhawuleza. Nangona bathi bathethelela. Ukuxhasa uxolo lwakho ngezenzo. Ngokukodwa xa ukuhlambalaza kwabangelwayo kwakungekho miphumo yokuziphatha kuphela. Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba unentloni kwaye ukulungele ukwenza ezininzi ukulungisa.
Indlela enobuqili kakhulu ukuzenza ngathi ucaphuke. Apha kukho umzabalazo wabalinganiswa. Umntu othobekileyo uya kunika kuqala. Kodwa le ndlela ayiphumelele kakhulu. Unokuba nomsindo ngomnye nomnye iminyaka, kwaye yonke le minyaka, khumbula: "Yaye ke sasingabelane ngani ngoko?"