Ngubani na namhlanje weCinderella? Ibhinqa elisemfanekisweni, emva kokufihla imvelo yendalo kunye nengozini okanye intombazana ehudula kunye neengxaki ezininzi zezingane? Masilungele kwaye sibeke onke amanqaku kwiindawo zabo.
I-Complex Cinderella, phantse njengawo onke ama-complexes, yenziwa kwaye ibonakale ebuntwaneni. Nangona kunjalo, akudingekile ukuba udibanise phakathi komnye kunye ne-heroine yeCinderella kwi-story of Charles Perro. Kakade, i-Cinderella yanamhlanje iyimbonakaliso yomntu oyintloko, nangona kunjalo, ubomi bunokuthi buhluke kwiqhinga lefrime eyabhalwa ngumlobi. Ngokomzekelo, unokuzalwa kwaye aphile kwindawo enokwenza kakuhle, intsapho epheleleyo, kwaye ujikelezwe ngabazali abanothando. Kodwa iimbono zakhe ezibalulekileyo kunye nomlingiswa zizaliswe zizinto eziphambili kunye nezinto ezizodwa eziza kubumba lo mfanekiso weCinderella.
Intlezana entle intombazana
Makhe sizame ukuthelekisa umlingiswa weCinderella wamanje kunye nokuqokelela i-heroine kwi-story story. I-Zolushka wayenelisekile, enobubele, ethobekileyo kwaye ethembekileyo, wayehlala ezama ukulandela yonke indlela eya kwiintsapho zakhe, kwaye ingakumbi umbono wakhe wawubalulekile kuye. Intombazana enobubele kunye neyodwa yayinoyika kakhulu ukuba iya kukhatywa kwaye ishiyiwe.
Emva koko, kutheni amaninzi amantombazana efuna ukukholisa uyise, kubonakala ngathi uyamehlo amantombazana amancinci, angenacala, ahlambulukileyo kunye nabantwana abancinci? Oku kubangelwa kukuba akubona bonke oobawo banikela uthando lwabo ngokupheleleyo. Abaninzi bethu bekufanele bafanelwe uthando lwabo ukususela ekuqaleni. Umama wayesoloko wathi: "Musa ukuqhuba, funda kakuhle, musa ukwenza oku, mhlawumbi ubaba uya kuthukuthela."
Abapapa abazange bacinge ukuba, bekwesaba iintombi zabo ngomsindo, bebonke ubomi babo bakha "intombazana enhle", enokuthi ufanelwe uthando lukabawo ngokuziphatha okuhle kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo, nangona yena ngokwakhe uyamthanda upapa. Intombazana enhle ayinakukwazi ukwenza into yokuba uyise uyayinqabela kwaye yenza ezo zenzo eziphambene nentando kayise. Akakwazi ukuqina ngokukhawuleza athi "Andifuni", "Hayi," "Andiyi kuba." La ma ntombazana azama ukulungelelanisa ithemba loyise, mhlawumbi ubaba uya kuthukuthela, aze ahlale ekuthunjweni kokufakwa koomama.
Kodwa ngaba kukho indlela yokuphuma kule meko?
I-Cinderella ngumntu onomusa kwaye unobungqina obuhle belo xesha, unokuthi ungumzekelo omhle, awukwazi ukuphikisana naloo nto. Umbhali uCharles Perrault wabhala le ngxelo ngekhulu le-17, xa uCinderella ephupha ukuba yiyo yonke intombazana, kuba wayeyindlela yokubonakalisa iimpawu ezigqibeleleyo kunye nezigqibeleleyo. Ngexesha. Kwaye iimpawu ezinjalo zifana nomsebenzi wokuziphatha, ukunyaniseka, ukukholwa kwimimangaliso, ukuthobeka nokuthobela kwintombazana engekho umfanekiso wesifazane ococekileyo, ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka ixhoba elinzima. Ngoko ke umfazi akanakuze aphuculise ukuzithemba kwakhe, ungamqinisi kangako. Ukuba unayo impawu yomlingiswa, zama ukuyikhulula, ubenqothule, awudingi.
Ubudlelwane namadoda
I-Fairy Cinderella iphupha indoda eyodwa kuphela, wayeyedwa yedwa ebomini bakhe kwaye ngokuzithoba wayilindile. Ewe, wayemlindele, kodwa bamncedisa. Emva kwayo yonke into, unkulunkulu wakhe wayengumntwana, owayehlala emncedayo waza wenza ukuzalwa kwakhona ngokumangalisayo. Nangona kunjalo ukuba uCinderella utshintshe ngaphakathi, akazange aphakamise intloko yakhe, ingqungquthela yakhe yehlabathi ayitshintshi, wahlala enomusa nentombazana enothando. Oku akuzange kumvumele ukuba athole isiqinisekiso sokunyamekela. Ngaloo myalelo olungeleyo wanciphisa amehlo akhe xa indoda yakhe ethandekayo - isikhulu senza iminikelo kunye neentliziyo. Kodwa ngoku akukho mntu uyazi emva komtshato abahlala ngokuvuya okanye kungekhona.
I-Cinderella yanamhlanje njenge heroine ethandekayo ilindele isikhulu sakhe kwihashe elimhlophe. Kodwa uya kuvuma ukuba isalathisi sefestile ayinakwenzeka ukuba iphinde iphindwe ngobomi bokwenene. Nangona ukuba iinkosana zanamhlanje zikhangele iintombazana ezinjalo, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba abayi kuba nexhala.
Ngaba kukho ukuphuma?
Sonke siyazi ukuba umntu uyifumana. Kwaye umthetheli weendaba zobuxoki wayeyimzekelo ecacileyo yale nto. Wadibana nomfokazi, wamthandana naye, waza wenyuka wamfuna waza wamzingela. Nangona kunjalo, intliziyo yakhe ayinakunqandwa ngumyalelo omhle okanye ubuhle, kodwa uninzi lwazo zonke izinto ezinzima. Emva koko, onke amantombazana agijima emva komthetheli kwaye ephupha ngokutshata naye, kwaye uCinderella wayedinga ukuphuma kuye. Nguye kuphela owakwazi ukummangalisa, waqonda ukuba kwakungavamile, yintoni ebenokuyifuna. Inkcazelo yamanqaku iyasitshela ukuba inkosana yayifuna umfazi ongaziwayo, omangalisayo kunye oyingqayizivele-oku kungayifunda phakathi kwemigca. Akathethi ukuba inkosana idinga ukuthobeka, ukuthobela kunye nokunyanzelisa, wayefuna umnyankosi owenene. Kodwa akukho mntu uyazi ukuba i-Cinderella ilungile ukuba ithemba likaPrince emtshatweni.
Amadoda afana nabafazi abathandekayo abonakalisa isinyathelo, ngaphandle koko baya kuba bengathandeki kubo. Kakade, kufuneka athande abantwana, abe ngumfazi othembekileyo, inkosikazi enhle kunye nomama onobuhle. Kodwa isikhulu asizange sikwazi ukutyhila kuye into engummangaliso, inqabileyo nge-glance, ichukumisa ngobabalo bayo, idukisa, idenge, kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu - iveza ubuhle kunye nokuzithemba ngaphakathi. Emva koko, nayiphi na ibhinqa kufuneka iphuhliswe ngokungafaniyo kwaye yonke into ivumelaniswe kuyo yonke into, yintoni uthando oluthandayo, lungile?
Ukuba uyi-Cinderella yanamhlanje, ke ubeke ingqalelo kuqala kubuntu bakho, iiminqweno kunye neemfuno. Kungenxa yokuba kuphela ukuqhelaniswa kwegama labanye kunye nokuzithemba okuncinci kukuphoqa ukuba uziyeke, ukukholelwa ukuba uvuyo luza kuphela ngokufika kwesikhulu ebomini bakho, kuba ngokwabo awunazi.
Nangona kunjalo, iCinderella nganye ineempawu ezintle, ziyakhathalela, zinyanisekile kwaye ziyakwazi ukuxolela abaphulaphuli. Kodwa awuyikuzixabisa ngokwakho, kwaye unxulumene nokubaluleka okukhulu kwiingxaki zakho.
Uya kuzuza ngokuqeqeshwa kunye nobuchule obujoliswe ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba nokwandisa ukuzithemba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuphumeza okulungileyo kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, umphumo oyifunayo, uya kuyidinga ngaphezu kwenyanga enye, kodwa ndikholelwe, imizamo esetyenzisiweyo iya kukunika okungakumbi. Ukuqhubela phambili akuzange kuzinyanzele ukuba ulinde ukubonisana ne-psychologist ofanelekileyo. ICinderellas ibuhlungu ngokugqithisekayo ngeengcebiso malunga nenkosana, kwaye le nto ibonakalisa ubomi boqobo. Kutheni uhamba phambili kwinqanaba lomsebenzi kwaye ufumane imfundo ephakamileyo, ukuba kungekudala ndiya kudibana naloo mlawuli? Ngaba akafuni ukuhlangabezana noCinderella ophumeleleyo kunye ozimeleyo, ongekho "amanyathelo" kunye nonina?
Yonke iCinderella kufuneka icinge indlela eya kuhlala ngayo ngaphandle kwesikhulu. Ukuba akaze ahlangabezane nomendo wakho, uya kuhlala njani, kwaye uza kwenza ntoni? Mhlawumbi ngoko ufuna ukuqala ukufunda, ukwenza into oyithandayo, ukufumana umdlalo kunye nokunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi.
Yiyo kanye kanye okufuneka uyenze. Kwaye, isikhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, siya kubonakala ebomini bakho, kodwa kamva kamva. Xa uyayazi into oyifunayo ebomini, ungalindelanga ukuba ubomi buya kulungile kuphela xa isikhulu sivela kwaye siba ngumfazi othembekileyo, uthando luya kubonakala ebomini.
Emva koko, nayiphi na intombazana eyayisakuba yiCinderella, iya kukwazi ukuphumelela kwaye ivuyiswe ngamandla akhe ngaphandle kwayo.