Indoda enomntwana okanye nabantwana, kwaye ibuye ihlukanise - iyisifo, ukuxilongwa okanye amagama alula kufuneka kubone ubomi boqobo babantu abaphilayo? Naliphi na ibhinqa, ngamanye amaxesha ngokungabikho ngokuzibandakanya, ngenxa yemvelo, ihlalutya iqabane lomntu onokuphila. Ngaba unokuthembela kwikamva lakho, unokudibanisa naye ubomi obungakumbi, ngaba ufanelekile kumaqabane asemzimbeni kwaye uya kukwazi ukuqonda nokuxabisa ihlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi?
Kwaye iphela ingcamango yeengcamango ifaka i-expanses yendaba ebomvu kwiiyure ezingama-24 (ewe, ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye nakwiphupha!) Ukufuna impendulo kumbuzo olula kodwa obaluleke kakhulu - ingaba kunjalo? Amawaka kunye namawaka amadoda ahamba ngezitrato zezixeko kunye nemizana, kwaye elowo unayo ibali layo. Ngubani oza kubeka ingqalelo, kwaye ngubani ongcono ukudlula ngaphandle kokujonga emva - into enzima kakhulu.
Iinkonzo kunye neqhayiya lomntu oqhawule umtshato
Loo mntu unesiphene kunye nesithunzi. Okokuqala, kuyacaca ukuba umntu wakwazi "ukukhawulela", into enhle kakhulu. Kuyaziwa ukuba kumadoda amaninzi, umtshato uyamangalisa, ngoko ukwenza intombi ethandekayo isiphakamiso sabaninzi kufana nesenzo sobuqhawe. Abo baye bagqiba isigqibo, benentliziyo ekhanyayo baya kuba balungele ukuya kubhalisi kwakhona.
Ukongezelela, umntu oqhawule umtshato wahlala ehlala kwintsapho yakhe kwaye sele sele enengcamango yeengxaki ezininzi zemihla ngemihla, kwaye kubaluleke ngakumbi, iindlela zokuzisombulula. Wayeqaphela umthwalo wemfanelo, obangela ubomi bomtshato kwaye ngoku uyaqonda ukuba ebomini obumbene sibaluleke ngaphezu kwam.
Izibophelelo
Ukubonakala kwintsapho yobomi obutsha kubeka izibophelelo ezongezelelweyo kumntu. Imfuneko yokubonelela intsapho ngemali ibe yinto ephambili, kufuneka ihlawule ngakumbi ingqalelo kumama womntwana wakhe, nangomso, kumntwana ngokwakhe. Oku kwindlela yakhe iyamcaphukisa umntu, imnike umthwalo omkhulu, kwaye ngokubanzi ishintsho esuka kwimeko yendoda kumyeni omtsha-ubawo nguyena mgaqo wokuqulunqwa kwamadoda njengabantu. Ngoko ke, into yokuba emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubangelwa zizathu, umntwana uhlala kunye noyise, uthi sinomntu ophelele. Akasabi ukwanda komntwana, uyazi kwaye ufuna ukudibanisa nabantwana, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo amava okuphila ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngaba umntwana usithintelo?
Kukho, nangona kunjalo, izihlandlo ezithile ezimbi, okokuqala kuyo, ukuba bubuhlungu kangakanani, ubukho bomntwana ngokwakhe. Emva kwakho konke, awuyikuphela kuphela ukwakha ubudlelwane nomntu oyithandayo, kodwa kunye nomntwana wakhe. Yabelana ngonwabo kwaye unike umfudumalo kubo bobabini. Ukungabikho komfesane phakathi kwakho nomntwana wendoda yakho ethandekayo kunokuba yingxaki enkulu, isisombululo sokuba ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu.
Enye into engathandabuzekiyo kukuba ngumama womntwana, ungumfazi wangaphambili. Amacala xa ubuhlobo obuhle bubekwa phakathi kwentshukumo yomntu omtsha kunye nomfazi wakhe wangaphambili unqabile kakhulu. Apha, okokuqala, kuya kubakho ukufumana ukuba yintoni indima ebomini yomntwana edlalwa ngumama wakhe, kwaye yiyiphi intsebenziswano okwangoku ibopha indoda yakhe kumfazi wayo wangaphambili. Ukongezelela, abantu banqwenela ukuthelekisa okwangoku kunye nabathandekayo ngaphambili, kwaye kukhethwa kakhulu ukuba abo baqala ukuhlangabezana nemilinganiselo ethile esetyenzisiweyo kwiintsuku ezilungileyo zokuhlala kunye nentando yangaphambili.
Ukuqulunqa
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqikelela ukuba kukho ithemba lobudlelwane nomntu oqhawule umtshato, onabantwana naye, ufana nokucingisisa kwiziko lekhofi. Enyanisweni, nganye imeko ethile kufuneka icatshungulwe ngokuqwalasela izinto ezininzi. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana usemncinci, ngoko ukhuliswa kakuhle kwaye unothando, akakwazi ukuba akubonise nje ngaphandle koomama wokwenene, nangona ezayo uyazi kakuhle i-biological. Ukuba esinye isiqingatha siphenduka sibe yindoda yokwenene, ubaba ohloniphekileyo nononophelo, umthandi okhuphayo, kunye nomntu onobuhle, ngoko umtshato odlulileyo kunye nokuba nomntwana ongeke ube ngumqobo obangela ukonwaba ngokwenene.
Kubonakala ngathi kwiimeko ezinjalo, amanani ayisebenzanga, yonke into iyodwa. Kucacile ukuba, ukuba uyayithanda, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukwakha ubudlelwane, nangona kukho ubunzima obukhoyo, kuba ulonwabo lwabafazi lufanelekile.