Impembelelo yokukhipha isisu kumlingane, nokuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa, kunzima ukubala. Ngoko ke, ukuya kwisinyathelo esinjalo, khumbula ukuba ukukhupha isisu kubakho isizathu esibalulekileyo. Impembelelo yale ntsebenzo kwengqondo, ngamanye amaxesha, ayinakufaniswa neengxaki ezivela xa sikhula abantwana. Amaqabane, bayonwaba, kodwa isisu sisisizi. Emva kokukhipha isisu, abaninzi abasetyhini bazive benetyala. Impembelelo yale nto ibangela ukuba abafazi ngeendlela zonke bazama ukulibala oko kwenzeka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubazalwana abathile, ukukhipha isisu akuyona ingxaki. Ziyakwamkela ngokukhawuleza izigqibo ezintle kwaye ziya kule nqanaba njengokungathi kufuneka ziyenze igciwane eliqhelekileyo. Kodwa, kukholwa ukuba izenzo ezinjalo ngaphandle kwemiphumo ayidluli. Amakholwa akholelwa ukuba ngokuya kwisinyathelo esinjalo, umfazi ulahlekelwa ngumphefumlo wakhe.
Xa umfazi exhalabele ngokukwenzekile, unokuhlakulela ingqiqo enzulu. Isiphumo salo sinokuba ngumnqweno onqwenela ukufa okanye ukungafuni ukuzithokozisa umntu. Ngako oko, amantombazana azama ukuzijezisa ngokwenza oko. Ukuhlala apho kukho iimeko xa behlukana nabantu okanye bahlakulela izifo. Kananjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi banentloni ukuvuma ukuba baye bakhupha isisu. Ngoko ke, bazama ukufihla oko bakwenzile kuwo wonke umntu, bechitha amandla amaninzi kuwo, beva kunye becasula. Zonke zikhokelela ekwenzeni ukuba abafazi baqala ukugqithisa izihlobo zabo, bathuke kunye neentloni, bangabi nabulungisa.
Ewe, ukukhupha isisu kukuchaphazela njani amadoda? Kuye kwavela, ngokutsho kwezifundo zangoku, kunzima ukuba amadoda amaninzi aphile kule nyaniso. Abafana bafumana uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwaye abanakukulahla ixesha elide. Abanye amadoda abaxoleli abafazi baze bawaye xa befunda ukuba bakhuphe isisu ngaphandle kokuxelela iqabane labo ngomntwana ozayo.
Kutheni kunzima ukuba amadoda aphile kwimeko yokukhipha isisu kwaye yintoni echaphazela isqondo sabo? Kuyaziwa ukuba nayiphi na indoda, nokuba engazi kakuhle, ifuna ukuphumelela kwiinkalo ezintlanu zobomi. Kuyonwabile, ukuphumelela, ukukhuselwa kwintsapho, ukuveliswa kunye nokubonelela. Kubonakala ukuba kwizinto ezininzi umntu ukhuthazwa ngokuchanekileyo ngumnqweno wokuvelisa ubomi obutsha, ukuba nabantwana bakhe. Nangona umfana engathethi ngako, ngokwenene kubaluleke kuye ukuba kukho inxalenye yakhe, ukuqhubeka kohlobo lwakhe. Kwakhona, amadoda adinga ukukhusela intsapho yabo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, abaziveki beyimfuneko kwaye bazalisekile. Yingakho, xa umfazi ekhupha isisu, umntu uyayeka ukuziva ngathi ungumzalisi kunye nomkhuseli wentsapho yakhe.
Abafana bafumana njani ukukhipha isisu sababhinqa abazithandayo? Wonke umntu unokuyivakalisa ngendlela yakhe. Kodwa, phantse wonk 'ubani uvakalelwa ukuhlaselwa komsindo. Abanye baqala ukutshaya okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi. Abanye bazama ukuya emsebenzini kunye neentloko zabo ukulibala malunga noko kwenzeka. Kwakhona, kukho amadoda alahlekelwa yimisebenzi, njengoko aqala ukuvakalelwa ngathi akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo nhlobo. Kwakhona, olu hlobo loxinzelelo lubonakaliswa ngongqimba nokuphazamiseka. Amadoda abe neentlongo zobusuku, bayeke ukuthembela kubafazi babo, banelisekile baze bacinge nangokuzibulala. Enye ingxaki inokuvela emva kokukhipha isisu ukungathandi ukulala ngesini okanye iingxaki ngexesha.
Ukuba sithetha ngale ngxaki ngokubanzi, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyafaneleka ukuqala ngomsindo. Xa umfana ethukuthela emva kokukhipha isisu, ukuziphatha kwakhe kunokusenokungeneli. Ngoko ke, ukuba ibhinqa libona ukuba iqabane liye lahlaselwa ngumsindo, kufuneka lilungele ukuba umntu omncinci unokuzilimaza yena ngokwakhe. Ngendlela, umsindo awubonakalwanga ngqo ngqo. Kalula, loo mfana uvakalelwa kukuba akaze akwazi ukukhusela umntwana ongakazalwa. Ngoko baqala ukusela utywala. Ngaloo ndlela, amadoda azama ukugxotha intlungu abaye bathatha inxaxheba ekukhutsheni isisu kwaye, ngelo xesha, akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na ukuyeka. Ukuba indoda ayiphuzanga okanye isebenzise iziyobisi, kodwa, ukususela ekuseni kuya kusihlwa, iyalala emsebenzini, le ndlela yokuziphatha nayo ayikho into enokuthi ithathwa njengesiqhelo. Kule meko, abafana bazama ukuphepha ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu baze bafeze ubuncinane into engafanelekanga ukuba iphosakele kwaye ayimfuneko.
Kwimeko apho umntu ecacile kakhulu ngokukhipha isisu, kuyimfuneko ukumnceda ekujongeni le ngxaki. Ngaphandle koko, uhlala ebengumsindo kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe ziya kuvela, kwaye ngelixa umfazi uya kulindela oku ncinane. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo, zidla ngokukhawuleza, zivela xa abafana bebona abafazi abakhulelweyo nabantwana. , njengoko sonke siqonde, imihla ngemihla, siphume, sinokuhlangabezana nomfazi okhulelwe, kakuhle, abantwana badibana kwiinyathelo zonke. Ngoko ke, indoda iya kuvunyelwa ukuba ililele umntwana wayo, yathetha, yabelane ngayo yonke loo mvakalelo evakalelwa ngayo. Kwakhona, ufuna ukuxolela umfazi wakhe kwaye aqonde isizathu sokuba wenza. Ukuba intombazana iyaqonda ukuba loo nto ayikwazi ukuxolela, kulungile ukudibanisa nengcali yeengqondo ukuba uncede ukubeka onke amanqaku kwi "i" kwaye ulondoloze ubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba ubona ukuba loo mntu uyathukuthela, akudingeki ukuba umqinisekise kwaye uzame ukungenisa entliziyweni ngokukhala. Kumele ayenze kunye nawe, uqaphele, ugqibe kwaye uphinde ucinge. Ukuba unako ukwenza oku, uya kukwazi ukuxolela umfazi wakhe othandekayo, ngoko uya kukhulula ngokukhawuleza oko kwenzekayo kwaye uyakulibala ngalo. Ngaloo ndlela ke uya kuba nakho ukwakha ubudlelwane kwaye, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uphile ngokuzonwabisa.