Nsuku zonke sithetha nabantu abaninzi. Abanye bathetha kuphela ukuze bafumane inzuzo ethile. Indlela yokujonga ukuba yeyiphi na abahlobo bangokoqobo, kwaye ngubani osebenzisa kuphela? Kwinqaku siza kunika icebiso elixabisekileyo eliza kunceda ukuqaphela umhlobo othembekileyo kunye nabo bonke abangenakuthenjwa. Ngoko, umhlobo wangempela ...
Namela oko abahlobo bathethayo
Mamela oko umhlobo wakho akutsho phambi kwabanye abantu. Ngaba isimo sakhe sengqondo sitshintshile ngenxa yobungqina bakho? Khumbula, umhlobo oyinyaniso kufuneka akuxhase kuyo nayiphi na imeko, nangona unayo kunye ncinane kunye nenkampani yonke ibhikisha kwisigqibo sakho. Naka ingqalelo nokuba uziva ukhululekile kunye nomhlobo wakho. Ukuba unalo ulwalamano oluthembayo, ubukho bakhe bufanele buvuyise. Khumbula, ngaba umhlobo awutsho ukuthi awuyi kuphumelela, akukukhubekisi ukuba uzame ukuzalisa iphupha elidala? Ukuba iingxoxo ezinjalo ziphakathi kwakho, ngoko ke umhlobo unokuba ngumona, kuvela kumntu onjalo akufanele alinde inkxaso, unokukushiya yedwa ngexesha elibi kakhulu. Umhlobo oyinyaniso uya kunika inkxaso nayiphi na imizamo yakho kwaye kungekhona nje ngamazwi!
Umhlobo wokwenene uya kuhlala eqaphela iimpahla zakho ezintsha, ukunqumla izinwele okanye ukuphumelela kwizifundo. Kwaye ukuba umhlobo wakho ukhetha ukuthetha nawe ngokwakho, ngoko awunomdla kuye. Uyakhumbula xa uva ukuva indumiso okanye ukuncoma kumhlobo wakho? Ngaba uyakusixhasa ngaphambi kokuhlolwa okubalulekileyo okanye umhla kunye nomntu ongekho nto? Ihlabathi elidala lithetha ukuba umhlobo owaziwayo enkingeni uqobo kunamhla. Njengoko uyakubona, ukuqala, kufuneka ukhangele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba umhlobo wakho omhle uthe ntoni kwaye mhlawumbi sele sele sele uya kuqonda ukuba intombi yakho ayikho nto.
Umhlobo wenene uhlala ephulaphule kuwe ngenomdla!
Kwimimiselo yangaphambili, sele sithethe ukuba abahlobo bokwenene abazithethi nje ngowabo, kodwa kunye nabahlobo babo, abanomdla wokwenene kunye nomnqweno wokunceda. Cinga ngantoni na wena kunye nentombi yakho uthetha ngeengxaki zakho kunye nexhalaba? Ngaba akayikuguqulela isihloko kuye, akunakwenzeka ngathi? Umhlobo wenene akafanele akuphulaphule kuphela, kodwa unika iingcebiso ezilungileyo! Zama ukuqwalasela umhlobo, ukuba awukwazi ukuphendula ngokuqinisekileyo umbuzo: ingaba intombi yakho ikuphulaphule kwaye ingakanani na. Thetha naye malunga neemeko zobomi bakho kwaye uqaphele ukuphendula kwakhe, ngokukodwa kwamehlo nakubonakaliso buso: umntu uphulaphula ngenyameko, ukuba ubonisa ukuthatha inxaxheba: i-nods, ayiguquli amehlo kwaye akaphazanyiswa yimisindo engaphandle.
Yaye ukuba intombi iqala ukukhangela, phendula ngendlela engafanelekanga kwaye ukhangele yonke iminxeba yefowuni - akanayo. Unako, emva kwesikhashana, umkhumbuze le ngxoxo uze ubone ukuba ukhumbula kangakanani na oko wamxelela kuye. Bonke abantu bangama-egoists, kodwa umhlobo wakho omhle kufuneka abe nomdla ngokunyanisekileyo ebomini bakho. Ukuba akunjalo-mhlawumbi intombi yakho ikusebenzisa. Khawuleza uthi: musa ukukhangela izizathu zakhe, kuba uyakhumbula ukuba uthandana okanye ufuna ukudibanisa ikamva lakhe kunye neendaba? Ngoko kufuneka abe nomdla kuwe nawe.
Ngaba intombazana ayidlibala malunga nawe ukuhleba?
Ngelishwa, amaninzi amantombazana awanakukwazi ukubamba iilwimi zabo, kodwa oku akufanelekanga kubahlobo abangcono. Khumbula, ukuba ufumene ukuba umhlobo usasaza inhlebo ngawe, kufuneka uxoxe ngokuthe ngqo naye. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba umhlobo wakho akahlanjululwa - hlala kude naye kude. Musa ukuzithemba iimfihlo kunye neemfihlelo, kuba bonke bangaba yipropati yeklasi yonke. Ngelinye igama, khawujonge ngakumbi intombi yakho! Mhlawumbi uthetha ngawe emva kwakhe? Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko akunakubizwa ngokuba ngumhlobo wenene!
Zingaphi i-intombi yakho ikutshilo ukuba "hayi"?
Umhlobo wenene uya kuhlala efumana ixesha lokuthetha nawe, ukuba umhlobo ufumana izizathu zokungahlangabezane nawe, mhlawumbi ukhetha imisebenzi emininzi. Khumbula ukuba umhlobo ogqwesileyo ngumsebenzi ojikelezayo. Awukwazi kuba ngabahlobo abangcono kakhulu esikolweni, kodwa ungabizi kwaye ungahambi ngexesha lakho lokuzimela. Abahlobo banomdla komnye nomnye, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuzonwabisa ngokubambisana kufuneka kubonwe njengokuphumla. Ukuba intombi yakho ihamba nabanye abantu okanye ihleli nje ekhaya, ngoko ke akanakho uqhagamshelwano. Zama ukuthetha naye malunga nalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana abe ngumhlobo nomntu kwiqela kuphela ukugwema ukuba yedwa, kodwa lobu budlelane budlelwane buphela ngokuphela kwesikolo. Musa ukuchitha ixesha kubantu abanjalo, mhlawumbi umntu o kufuphi nawe unokuphatha kakuhle kwaye kufuneka ukhangele ngakumbi kwiindawo ezikuyo!
Zama ukuthetha nentombi yakho, ukuba kukho into engafanelekiyo kumtshato wakho, mhlawumbi iya kutshintsha.
Sinqwenela ukufumana umhlobo wethu omhle kwaye singalahlekelwa nguye!