Ubomi bufana nediza, yahlula yaba mnyama nomhlophe. Xa kukho ixesha elonwabisayo ebomini bethu, ngokwemvelo, siyavuya. Kodwa, xa kukho into enyantyikisayo okanye eyayibuhlungu-kwenzeka ukuba ukulahla i-sludge engathandekiyo akunakwenzeka. Ukugxeka emphefumlweni kubuthathaka ubomi kunye nobudlelwane nabantu.
Umfana wakho utshintshile wena, umhlobo wakho osondeleyo okanye esinye sezihlobo zakho uye wakucatshulwa. Usabela njani? Unomsindo, ukuhlambalaza kukugubungela ngezinyembezi. Emva kwexesha apho zonke iinyembezi zome, ukungabi nalutho kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kuya kuza. Uyeka ukuthembela kumntu owonayo, ukuzithemba ukuzithemba kuya kuphazamisa iimvakalelo ezingakumbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ulwaphulo luyongeza kuphela kumntu okhubekisileyo, kodwa nakwebonke abakuzungezile, okukhokelela ekucinezelekeni nakwiimeko ezimbi, ezinokubakho nzima ukulungisa, ngokukodwa ngokuzimela.
Ubume obubuhlungu bunokukhubekisa kwaye buxabise umyalelo wakhe emphefumlweni bonke ubomi bakhe. Ngexesha elide, umntu okhubekileyo uya kuqala ukuzonwabisa xa ekhumbula ukukhupha iziganeko ezenzakalise. Oku kuyiphutha kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukucinga ngamandla akho onke kuphela. Olu phuhliso lumeko aluchaphazeli ngokukhuselekileyo imeko yengqondo yomntu.
Ungakulibala njani kwaye uxolele ixesha elidlulileyo? Indlela yokucoca umphefumlo weengcamango ezingalunganga uze uqale ukumomotheka kwakhona?
Ndiqinisekile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uphukise umntu. Kodwa, kutheni sikhutshwe? Konke kuxhomekeka kwisimo sethu sengqondo kwimeko. Ukuba usebenzise "okubi" ubone "kuphela okubi", ngoko ngokwemvelo uya kukhubeka nantoni na into encinane.
Impumelelo enkulu yomntu kukubona into entle kwaye ifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezimbi.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukulibala nokuxolela ixesha elidlulileyo? Ukuxolela - kuthetha indlela yokuphatha isiganeko lula ngokusemandleni. Ukuba uxolele, wenyuka oko kwenzeka. Kodwa, akusiyo isizathu sokubangela ubuqabane obusondeleyo kunye nomoni. Ewe, ukuba uthethelela, awuyi kukulibala into, kodwa, ngelo xesha awuyi kubuyisela ingcamango yakho kwimeko.
Izibhengezo zingafani; Kwenzeka ukuba ukuxolela umntu into ethile kubonakala kungenakwenzeka. Kodwa, ngakwelinye icala, ukuba awuyikuxolela - uya kulahleka xa umhlobo osondeleyo, othe, mhlawumbi, wenze isenzo esiqhathayo sentlumba kwaye engafuni. Ukuxolela nokulibala yindlela ehle kakhulu yokuzisindisa kunye nobomi bakho kwizinto ezingekho phantsi kwezinto ezingabonakalisa ingqondo yakho.
Kukho indlela elula yokuzinceda ukuza kuxolela: uphonsa zonke iingcamango zakho, kunye nentukuthelo kwisiqephu esilula. Le ndlela inceda kakhulu ukulibala nokuxolela elidlulileyo. Ungabi neentloni kumazwi, le yileta yakho kwaye akukho nto ingavumelekanga kuwe. Xa usugqibile, ungabuyifundi kwakhona, yiphulaphule ibe ngamaqhekeza amancinci okanye uyitshise. Ndikholelwe, oku kuyisenzo esilula, siya kususa ilitye emphefumlweni kwaye uya kuziva ukhululekile.
Ixesha elidlulileyo lokuba libizwa ngokuba "elidlulileyo" - kunye nantoni, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha. Ngokukodwa xa kuthethwa izikhalazo.
Uya kuqonda ukuba xa uthethelela umntu, iintyatyambo zibonakala ziqhakaza emphefumlweni wakho kwaye ufuna ukuhamba. Ukukwazi ukuxolela kwenza umntu abe lula ngakumbi, onwabileyo.
Incwadi engcwele ngokwayo kubhaliwe ukuba sifunda ukuxolela abaphuli bethu. Ubumnyama ngecala, umphefumlo awuyi kuzisa ulonwabo kumntu, kodwa uya kutshabalalisa konke okuhle, Yintoni ekuyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba, ukukhumbula imeko kunye nesenzo esakubangela ukuba ube nentlungu engapheliyo, ngexesha - kuya kubonakala ngathi yingozi engamangqangi neyokuhlekisa. Emva kwakho konke, intukuthelo yintshukumo yomsindo, isicatshulwa kwimeko yakho enganeleyo ngenxa yezinto ezinokugubha.