Isizathu sinokuba nayiphi na into, kodwa intombazana, eleso simo, iqala ngokumkhangela, ikhangele ikhanda layo yonke imeko enokwenzeka ngayo ukuba ingamhlula indoda. Xa uzama ukubuyela kumntu othandekayo, umfazi, engapheli, uzibuza yona umbuzo: yintoni engalunganga? Ulahlekelwa ngumdla wakhe, akalala ebusuku, umbiza, emva kwayo yonke into, ekuphelelwe lithemba, kodwa yonke imizamo ayinamsebenzi. Ifowuni ayikhuthazi, ngenye indlela ejikelezayo: ingxoxo engenanto, ukuvalela iimpendulo, ukucasula ekupheleni kwentambo okanye ukuhleka usulu - nantoni na ongayiva.
Ukuthuka nokubuhlungu. Kodwa abahlobo abaqaphileyo abayi kulala baze baqale uvelwano novelwano kunye neengcebiso zokuhlamba ezingavumelekanga kule meko, okanye nje ungancedi. Kwaye emva kokusebenzisa iiluleko ezithile, iimpazamo zikhula kuphela, kwaye indoda ethandekayo ihamba ngakumbi. Ngoko ungene njani? Ndingabuyisela njani ubuhlobo bam kunye nomntu, ngaphandle kobuphi ubomi obulahlekelwa intsingiselo yonke?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kumfazi ngexesha elinjalo ukubonisa umonde. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunyamezela ngokukhawuleza kwesinye isibhinqa akusisona sihlandlo sesikhashana esingenasisiseko esinzulu. Uthando luya kudlula, kunye nexesha lolwalamano oluthandanayo oluthatyathwa yinto engqiqweni kwimeko yangempela, isimo sengqondo kumhlobo omtsha sitshintsha. Kwaye kulula ukugqiba indlela yokubuyisela umyeni wakho othandekayo.
Oko kukuthi, imeko ephambili apha umonde kunye nokukwazi ukuphumla. Phakathi kwababini abantu abanothando apho kukho imithombo yamandla, xa indoda kunye nomfazi bevalelana, nokuba bangaba kunye. Xa nje uhlupheka, umntu wakho ufumana amandla kwaye uzive ekhululekile nomnye umfazi. Vumela ukuba uzive kakuhle, uyeke ukuhlupheka, kunye nomntu oshiyekile, uyayeka ukufumana amandla kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyafuna ukuthetha, ukuhlangabezana nomthombo wakhe wamandla. Umthetho wolondolozo wamandla-usebenza ngokumangalisayo. Hamba uthathe kwaye ukhulule, ngokuqinisekileyo, akuyi kuba lula, kodwa unokuphazamisa ingqalelo kwenye into enesihawu okanye utshintshe imo, uhamba uhambo. Ukuba ufuna, unokufumana ezinye iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokufumana indlela yokuphuma.
Kodwa kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba uthando lomntu luyinto enzima, kwaye kunzima ukuphumla kwaye ube kwindawo enjalo ixesha elide. Intlungu ayidluli. Kwenzeka njani kule ngxaki ukubuyisela intanda?
Kukho a mabhinqa abasebenzisa ukupaka kwothando ukubuyisela indoda. Kwaye kukho neemeko zesiphumo esiyimpumelelo yesi siko. Abanye abasetyhini basebenzisa zonke iintlobo zezinye iindlela - zonke iintlobo zokuxoxwa kweenhlanhla, ezithi, ngokwe "amaxhoba", zabanceda ukuba babuyisele ubuhlobo. Kodwa kumlingo onjalo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, i-minus - indoda eyabuyela kwintombazana engekho ngokwayo, iyatshintsha kakhulu. Esikhundleni sokuzithemba, umntu onqwenela ngamandla, umntu obuthathaka obunobuthakathaka ubonakala okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, umntu onobudlova kwaye onokukhawuleza. Ngethuba lokufuna ukubuyisela othandekayo, ngamanye amaxesha amaninzi amabhinqa ahamba "loo mnyama omnyama", engacingi ngemiphumo, kokubili ebomini bendoda kunye naye. Ukongezelela, ukuba uya kuchitha imali yakho kule shishini, akukho nto ibalulekileyo eya kwenzeka, akukho nkqubela kwintsebenziswano.
Ngaba ikhona indlela yokubuyisela umntu obathandayo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa umama?
Ungamceli ukuba abuyele, musa ukucela isihawu, ungabonakali ubugwenxa - kuya kulukhuphaza ingxaki. Ezi ndlela zinefuthe elibi kakhulu kumadoda. Musa ukucela ukuxolelwa, ngoko uya kuzinyamekela. Ukunyanyiswa kuya kubangela ukuphendula okufanayo. Iifowuni zokuva nokuziva uxolo ngawe, unike ithuba, vele ugxothwe ngumntu othandekayo - akafuni ukuva iimvakalelo ngenxa yakho. Ungazami ukubuyisela loo ndoda, umkhulule.
Gcina imizwa yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuhlangabezana nale nto. Hlanganisa yonke intando yakho ibe yintonga kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nomntu oyintanda. Ngoko uhlala unxibelelana naye, ngoko ke, gcina ubudlelwane, kwaye, mhlawumbi, uhlaziywe kwikamva. Khumbula ukuba ukubeka yonke inkcazelo "kwisitya sesilivere" malunga nawe kunye nobomi bakho kumntu owayengumthandi akufanelekanga ngoko kanye. Uya kuba nolwazi ngakumbi ukwazi yonke into ngawe. Inqwenelelo enjalo ayinakuvumela ukuba iimvakalelo ziphele ngokupheleleyo.
Yaye qiniseka ukuba uyazinyamekela - yile ndlela eqinisekileyo yokubuyisela indoda yakho ethandekayo. Ukunyamekela imbonakalo yakho - tyelela amachibi okubhukuda, iiklabhu zempilo, i-salon zobuhle. Yenza into enomdla ngakumbi - funda i-tango yase-Argentina okanye ufunde ukukhwela, qala ukufunda iilwimi okanye uhlole ezinye iindawo - ezininzi iindlela. Into ephambili kukuba kukho inkqubela.
Kodwa nangona emva kokutshintsha okunzulu, kwenzeka ukuba loo mntu akayi kubuya. Emva koko, mhlawumbi, kungcono nokuba kulunge? Jonga ngeenxa zonke - kukho amadoda amaninzi afuna ukukuhlangabeza! Ngokukodwa emva kokuba ube yi-polyglot, wafunda indlela yokusebenzisa intaba edibeneyo kwaye wafunda ezininzi ngamanye amazwe, ukuzisa amava amatsha ebomini bakho. Oku kuvula ii-horizons ezintsha kwaye kubangele amadoda anomdla ngakumbi nakwimpilo yakho!