Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezizathu zokuba ngamanye amaxesha abantu besaba ukubonisa iimvakalelo. Ezi zibandakanya ukwesaba, ukungathandabuzeki kunye neentloni. Ngezantsi zizo zonke ezi zizathu.
Ihlazo. Ukubonakaliswa kwayo kokuqala kubonakala nakwiiklasi ezincinci, xa abafana befana namantombazana abancinci abafundi abaneengqekembe ezide, kodwa abanakho ukuzimisela, ukuze bafike kubo okanye bazinikezele ukuba babambe indlu. Ientloni neentloni zifana. Kwaye kwimeko apho umntu engabaza ukuba kunye nenkosikazi, le nto inokuthetha ngokubanzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu sokuba uthando, oku akubonisi ukwesaba isini esahlukileyo. Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba xa indoda ibheka kude okanye izama ukuhlala kumgama omkhulu ukusuka kumnxibelelwano, abayikhokelwa yimvakalelo yokukhanya. Mhlawumbi kuya kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa liphikisana nendoda ngokuziphatha kwayo, okanye ayibi kumntu njengomntu. Ukuba ibhinqa ngumfazi womntu ofihla ubuso bakhe phambi kwakhe, oku kuthetha ukuba unokufumana iimfihlelo ezivela kuye, mhlawumbi novukelo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela imeko, xa zonke iimpawu ezingentla zibonisa ukuthandwa komntu. Ukujongana nale mibonakaliso ebonakalayo ibhinqa inokuthi kuphela xa enganqikazi ukuba yinkampani yendoda kwaye iya kubeka ingqalelo ekufundeni impawu yakhe kunye nesimo somzimba.
Uloyiko. Ekubonweni kokuqala, kunokubonakala ngathi amadoda akafanele ayikayika, kuba anamandla amakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntu oyika ukuba akayi kukwazi ukuqala nokwakha ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo, ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziya kuba zingenakunqandwa, kwaye uthando lwakhe luya kushiywa ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa. Ngamaxesha amandulo amadoda ayengamaqhawe, abazingeli, abafuna kuzo zonke ukuphumelela, kubandakanywa nothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazange bajongane nokugatya kwala mabhinqa abaza kubakhomba iintliziyo zabo. Imvume yabasetyhini kwimfazwe yamadoda yayithetha intsindiso. Ngethuba lethu, ngamanye amaxesha amadoda athile acinga ukuba abafazi bayaphambuka ngokubonakala kwazo okanye impawu. Kodwa xa evuma uthando lwakhe, uyaqonda ukuba wahlulwa, kwaye oko kuya kuhlala ngonaphakade. Amantombazana asetyenziswa kwimeko xa indoda ikwala, iphosa, isenza isenzo kwaye ishiye. Ngoko, mhlawumbi, abafazi banamandla apha. Kodwa amadoda, engaqhelekanga ukunqoba, zama ukulungiselela kuqala "umhlaba" ukwenzela ukuseka ubudlelwane, ukwenzela ukuba loo mfazi abuyele ekuboneni uthando.
Ukungaqiniseki. Ukungaqiniseki, phambi kweemvakalelo zomntu othile, ukujamelana neengcamango zakho kwaye ulwele ukubonisa intetho - ukuvuma kokuqala, kunzima. Indoda ingathandabuzeki ngokuchanekileyo kwezenzo zakhe ukuba ufuna ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala kumfazi ongazange abonise nabubele kuye kwaye akazange enze isenzo esingazixelela ukuba iimvakalelo ziyaxhamla. Emva koko, phambi komntu, kukho isidingo sokwenza ukhetho olunzima phakathi kokunyaniseka nokufihla. Esinye sezizathu zokunqatshwa kwamanye amabhinqa ebudlelwaneni obusondeleyo kuya kuba nokungaqiniseki. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kumntu ukuba uye wadibana naye kwaye ulungele ukwenza yonke into ukuze kuphela umfazi oya kumnaka. Nangona kunjalo, unokungabaza ukuba ngaba le ntliziyo iza kudlula kungekudala, kwaye ingaba ayiyi kuvela ukuba wayichitha ixesha lakhe kwaye wachitha ixesha elininzi namandla ukuze aziqwalasele.
Ukungaqiniseki kubonakala njengesiphumo samava okuphila kakubi, ukwesaba kobuthathaka kunomfazi kwaye ukhumbule inkoliso yamatyala xa abafazi bengayifumani.
Amadoda azifihla iimvakalelo zabo, ngelixa abafazi bebokuqala ukuba bangazibonakalisi.