Ewe, ukukhetha indoda eya kuba yindoda efanelekileyo ayiyinto elula, kuba kwisimo sothando sonke sigqoke iziglasi ezibomvu kwaye kaninzi asiqapheli nakwizinto ezinzulu kakhulu ukuba ukhetho oluzayo luya kuba yindoda enentsapho efanelekileyo njengokuba sifuna . Kodwa kusekho izimbonakaliso ezimbalwa ozichaza ngazo ukuba umfana wakho uya kumphatha njani umfazi wakhe.
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba amadoda akhetha umfazi athathele unina. Ngoko unako ukuqonda oko kuza kulindeleka kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa xa ukhetha umyeni ofanelekileyo, kufuneka uqaphelisise indlela olwalamano ngayo lo mntu kunye nomama wakhe. Ukuba unenkxalabo kunye nokungakhathaleli, usoloko enomdla kwimicimbi yakhe kunye nentlalo-ntle, kukho amathuba amakhulu ukuba umfazi wakhe unokuncika kwiinkathalo ezifanayo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu isimo sengqondo semali. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unokufumana umntu onobubele kwaye ocebileyo osixhaphaza imali, unike izipho ezibizayo, ushiye isipho esivulekile kubafundi. Kubalulekile ukukhangela igolide eyaziwayo ngokubhekiselele apha, kuba indoda engayazi indlela yokucwangcisa uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali alubala ukuba imali efunayo kumvuzo olandelayo, njengoko ecinga ukuba ukuthenga iintyatyambo kuyinkunkuma engafanelekanga, akukho mntu uyifunayo.
Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba isimo sengqondo salo mfana kubantwana. Jonga ukuba ngokuzithandela ulwa nabantakwabo abancinci, odade, abazalwana, abantwana bakho abahlobo. Akukho mfuneko yemibuzo yexesha elizayo malunga nobuntwana benkwenkwe. Lo mqathango awunzima njengoko kubonakala ngathi uqala ukujonga, kwaye amadoda amaninzi angabandakanyekanga kubangaphandle ahlala kuba ooyise obalaseleyo. Kodwa ukuba ubona ukuba umfana unomntakwabo othandekayo kwaye uyavuyela ukuthetha kunye nezingane, oku kukunye ukudibana naye.
Ukubukela indlela umntu aphatha ngayo abanye abafazi, unokufunda okuninzi luncedo kwaye lunomdla. Ngoko ke, ukuba uvula umnyango phambi kwendodakazi, uyamnceda ukuba agqoke iimpahla zangaphandle, unike indlela yokuthutha - le ntsimbi ehle kakhulu. Ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumviwa ofanelekileyo kumadoda, mbuze ngaye owayengumthandayo. Ukuba uyayiphendula ngokufanelekileyo okanye engathathi nto, akukho nto ifanele ifyathwe. Kodwa ukuba ukuphononongwa kuhlobo lokunyaniseka, kwaye ubona ukuba xa uthetha ngesimo sakhe sangaphambili, uphendukela kwintloni, akukho nto izayo kwixesha elizayo. Khawucinge nje ukuba xa kwenzeka ukwahlukana, uya kuxela izinto ezinjalo ezimbi ngawe kubafazi bakhe bokamva.
Jonga indlela okhethiweyo wakho asondela ngayo isisombululo seengxaki zemihla ngemihla: indlela echanekileyo ngayo, indlela ehambelana ngayo nemisebenzi yasekhaya, ezibhekwa njengowesifazane ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. Ukuba kulula ukuba uhlambe izitya, uqoke amasokisi kunye naye, hamba inja uze uthabathe udoti - sele ulungile. Khangela ukuba umntu wakho unokupheka okungenani ukutya okulula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhlala kunye kunye kunzima ukuqonda oko umntu ekhaya, kodwa imiba ethile inokunyanzeliswa ukuba ifike ngezigqibo ezinengqiqo.
Buza indlela le ndoda inokuphendula ngayo xa isebenza nabo, ukuba yenzondelelo kangakanani ngokufezekisa imisebenzi yakhe, nendlela esondela ngayo ukuxazulula iingxabano ezinokwenzeka. Oku kuya kunceda ukuqonda ukuba umntu unokufikelela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo.
Ngokwemvelo, akunakwenzeka ukuqaphela umntu kwiinyanga eziliqela kwaye kwanokuba abuyele, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba nawuphi na umfazi oqaqambileyo ukuphakamisa isigqubuthelo esifihla isimo sakhe somkhwa. Kwaye ukwazi ulwazi, uya kukwazi ukusabela njani kule nto okanye kuloo meko.