Bonke abantombazana baphupha ngekosana. Le ngxaki. Kodwa abafazi abaninzi kwaye baninzi baqonda eli binzana kwaye balambile "isiqingatha sobukumkani ngaphezu koko". Ngamanye amaxesha umnqweno wokutshata umntu osisityebi uyithatha umphefumlo walo mfazi. Kwaye akukho apha ukuthanda, ukuthandana nokuziphatha ...
Cinderella Syndrome
Ngokutsho kweZiko loPhando loLuntu oluPhezulu (ICSI), i-65% yabasetyhini baseRussia bafuna ukutshata umntu osisityebi. Esi sibonakaliso, njengokuthi "ukuhambelana", simele kwindawo esithathu ehloniphekileyo (emva kwengqondo kunye nobubele) kwiluhlu lweemfuno zomlingane onokuba ngumntu. I-40% yazo zonke iindwendwe kwisiza esikhulu senkundla yaseRashiya siyavuma ngokucacileyo ukuba abafuni umhlobo, umthandi okanye umyeni, oko kukuthi ungumxhasi. Iingqungquthela "Ndifuna ukuba ngumfazi ogcinwe", "Indlela yokuba ngumfazi we-oligarch" zixutyushwa ngamandla kwiifom zabesetyhini. Uthi, akunjalo?
Iingcali zeengqondo zibiza le "Cinderella syndrome" kwaye zinika loo nto intombazana ukuba izame ukuziqonda, izazi zenzulululwazi zichaze le ngxaki ngokunyuka kwamaxesha alambileyo emva kwe-perestroika, abadlali bezintloko bakhetha ukujonga yonke into echaphazelekileyo kwimpembelelo ye-West, kwaye izidalwa ezincinci (kunye noko) ziqhubeka zihlanganyela nabanye kwi-Intanethi. amaphupha: "Ndifuna ukudibana naye - isityebi kunye nodumo, kuphela kunye naye ndiya kuvuya."
Ukuzingela kwiMillionaire
Ukugqiba ngokugqibeleleyo ukuthatha yonke into ebomini, amantombazana angamaqela angamaqhinga aya kuqeqesho ekukhohliseni, izifundo kwi-psychology ye-oligarchs kwaye zize zinike imali elula "yokudibanisa". U-Natalia M., owenza intlangano yobomi babucala bemantombazana ahlwempuzekileyo, uyicinga malunga nomama kaTeresa wamanje. "Ndidibanisa iintliziyo zokubandezeleka." Isityebi - nabo banabantu, besaba ngakumbi ukwenza iimpazamo, kodwa ndikhetha amantombazana amathobekileyo. Ekugqibeleni wonk 'ubani ufumana oko akufunayo. " Ndimele ndithi, iinkonzo zomdlalo obalaseleyo zixabisa kakhulu-ukusuka kwi-$ 1000, ngoko ke zifuna ukuqokelela.
"Ndifuna ukuhlala kufana ne-movie: uye kwiivenkile zokuthenga, uthenge iingubo ezibizayo, ugibele kwiimoto ezintle. Andiyi kuwufeza. Umama wasebenza bonke ubomi bakhe kwaye akakwazanga ukulondoloza ngisho nekhefu eTurkey. Yingakho ndiza kulahla amathambo, kodwa ndiza kutshata ne-oligarch. Ngaba uyabona ukuba imilenze yam enhle? "Uthi uKarina, oneminyaka eyi-18. Kuthiwani ngothando? "Ndiyabuza. "Uhlekisa, ewe? Ngaba awuthandi ukuchuma? "
Kwizinyathelo "zobuhle" ...
Okokuqala, u-Anya, abazali bakhe bakhupha ngendlela efanayo nabo bonke abantombazana abalungileyo belizwe lethu - ukudansa, isikolo somculo, ulwimi lwangaphandle. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga wabona i-movie ethi "Umfazi Ohle" kunye ... "Andizange ndenze ukhetho oluqinileyo: ngoku, ndiya kutshata ngokubalwa, kungekhona ngothando. Nangona ndandisesikolweni, kwiikhosi zokuqala zeziko, andizange ndicinge ngomtshato, umtshato, njl njl. - Ndidibana nabafana, ndalala ngesondo, kodwa "andihlanjulwanga" njengoko bathethayo ngoku. Emva koko ndadibana noVadim - wayemhle, unengqiqo, kodwa kungekhona yonke into eguqulelwe ubomi. Ngendlela efanayo, ndidibana noMitya - wayemdala kunam, engathandeki njengoVadim, kodwa ekhuselekile. Kwaye wandibiza ngokukhawuleza ukuba nditshatile. Wandixelela: "Ufanele utshatile, kuba uVadim ngumntu onobuthathaka kwaye akakwazi ukukunika into oyifaneleyo."
UMitya wandijonga ukuba ubuhle kwaye wayethanda kakhulu ukungenisa kwimibutho apho abahlobo bakhe kunye nabalingane bakhe babekho. Ndakufuneka ukuba ndihlale ndithule kwaye ndiveze-kwaye ndathule kwaye ndomomotheka, ndikhumbula ukuba sithenge iingubo kwi-boutique ebiza kakhulu ngokuhlwa. "
UAna akazange azifihle ukuba uMicya wayephumayo, ngokukodwa ekubeni iqabane lakhe elizayo lamsilumkisa ngokukhawuleza: "Ukuba uyavuma ukuba ngumfazi wam, siya kusayina isivumelwano somtshato, kwaye xa usuqhawule umtshato, awuyi kushiywa ngaphandle kwe penny." NgokukaAna, uMitya wayezama ngokwenene ukuba abe ngumntu osondeleyo, kodwa ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo phakathi kwabo akuzange kuvele. Nangona kunjalo, akhathazeki: "Ngokuqhelekileyo, njengoko iingcali zengqondo zithi, i-libido ixinzezelekile, mna, ngaphandle kwefestile elifutshane neVadim, uphatha ngokuzithoba ezo meko. Esikontraki kwachazwa ukuba ukukrexeza kuthetha ukuqhawula ngokukhawuleza kunye nokulahlekelwa kwepropati enkulu. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba uMitya wayesekhaya, kwacaca ngokukhawuleza ukuba inqaku lesivumelwano "linye linye". Kodwa andizange ndibe nomsindo ngale nto: Andifuni ukuya naphi na. Nayi indlu yam, umyezo wam, ikhitshi yam, umntwana wam. "
Umntwana waba yingongoma ekhethekileyo yesivumelwano somtshato. Kwi-Mitya yokunyanzelisa, kwakucacisiwe ngokucacileyo kwincwadi ethi uyise uya kuthwala zonke iindleko zokugcinwa kukaKolya, kodwa ukuba ukuba umceli womtshato nguye u-Anna okanye isizathu sakhe sokungcatsha, umntwana uya kuhlala noyise. "Ngokomthetho, umama uhlala ekhusela abantwana ngexesha lomtshato," u-Ana wachaza kummeli, "kwaye xa kwenzeka ingxabano phakathi kwekhontrakthi kunye neNkcazo yoLuntu, okokugqibela kusetyenziswa." "Kodwa ndagqiba ekubeni ndingathathi nantoni na," u-Anna uthi. - UMitya ungumntu ocebileyo onamandla, ukummangalela - ngokuqinisekileyo ulahlekelwe kwaye ahambe enkundleni ngenkohlakalo yesiselo esinxilisayo okanye esinye isifundo esinobungozi. Hayi, ngokwenene. Ingcono ndiya kwenza konke ngokwemigaqo yakhe. "
Imitshato emine kunye nomngcwabo omnye
Enye indlela okanye enye, kodwa ebomini kubo bonke kufuneka uhlawule. Akusiyo yonke iCinderella inokuhlala kwisantya eside. Ngelishwa, iindaba zobomi malunga "Ubuhle" zinomnye umva. Akukho yingozi yokuba ezweni lethu kukho "ababengumfazi waseRublyov". Emva koko, ukuba ngumfazi we-millionaire ngumsebenzi onzima. "Ndandingenalo ilungelo lokubukeka kakubi, libuhlungu, libuye. U-Oleg nsuku zonke wandibeka esikalini kwaye ndihlolisise ukuba ndibone ukuba ngaba ndihlabile, kwaye ukuba i-shooter yayibonisa ngaphezu kweekhilo ezingama-48, kwafuneka ndilambile kwiveki yonke. Andikwazi ukukhetha iingubo zam okanye abahlobo. Konke kwakufanele kuvunywe ngumyeni wam. Kodwa oku kusenanto: Umhlobo ka-Oleg umzekelo, unyanzelekile ukuba intombazana yakhe ibuyise ixesha elide. "Epholile!" - wayekholelwa, "- ulwabelana ngokusweleka, kodwa intombazana ekhululekile yoKhanya.
Izigidigidi zineziqu kunye nezithethe zabo, kwaye "ubomi obumnandi" bunalo. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuba kuya kufuneka ukuba uyihlawule ngothando, abahlobo, abantwana kunye nempilo (emva koko, akusiyo yonke i-oligarchs ekhokelela "ishishini lokugcina umthetho").
UNatasha wayengumfazi wesine kaBoris, kodwa oku akuzange kumkhathaze. "Kwakubonakala kum ukuba ndibe ngumhlobo othembekileyo ubomi bam bonke. Kwakungekho umtshato wokulungelelanisa, nokuba kunjalo, kungekhona nje ngokubaluleka. Ekuqaleni, ndandiziva ndiziva, kodwa ukunyaniseka kwandenzayo. Ngokukhawuleza xa ndatshata naye, wayeka ukuzama ukundinceda, ndandiba yintenitshala, inxalenye yendawo yangaphakathi, kodwa ingengowesifazane. Akumangalisi ukuba ndibenomdla kunye nomfundisi wam wokubhukuda. Kwiinyanga ezimbini ndonwabile ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, yonke imfihlo iyacaca. Omnye ovela kubaqhubi wabika kuthi kuBongol, kwaye mna, njengoko besithi, bebethela umkhwelo emzini osisityebi. Sasiqhawule ngelo xesha, kwaye ndashiywe esitrato ngengubo eyodwa. Into embi kakhulu kukuba uMax - umthandi wam - wayesekho. Andiyazi into eyenzekayo kuye; akukho namnye uthi, yonke iminyango ivalwe kum. " ... Omnye uya kuthi: umele uxanduva, umntu uyazisola ... Enye indlela okanye enye, kodwa iindaba zeCinderella isabali yothando. Yaye uthando - umqondo wobudlelwane kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ulwalamano lwenyaniso - aluyi kutshintshwa ngokubalwa kwemali, okanye ukuthanda ukuthanda. Ihlolwe kwaye iboniswa zizizukulwana ezininzi zabesetyhini abavuyayo emtshatweni. Buza ubuncinane umama wakho.
Iingcebiso zengqondo
UDenis LUKYANOV, onguchwepheshe kwiintsapho kunye nemibandela yomtshato
Kukholelwa ukuba umntu kufuneka atshate okanye atshate kuphela ngenxa yothando, kwaye umtshato wokulungelelanisa ukuba u-priori uthathwa njengento ehlazo kunye neyengqiqo, kuba ihlala ixutyushwa ngokwecwangciso lokuqala "ngesondo ngemali". Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo kwaye akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imitshato ibhekwa njengesiqhelo esiphezulu kwaye ihlala njalo. Abantu benza igalelo labo kumanyano abo. Ngaphambili kwakukho
i-kalym kunye ne-dowry, ngoku-ubuhle, imfundo, intlalontle, ukukwazi ukubonelela intsapho, ukunika ingqiqo yokhuseleko. Kodwa enye imbi. Ngokomzekelo, enye yamaqhawe e-athikili, uAna, iyavuma ukuba ayinakuchukumisa kumyeni wakhe, nokuba nomnqweno wokwakha zabo (kungekho intsapho!) Ubomi. Kwixesha elizayo, ubuhlobo obunjalo buba neengxaki zeengxaki kwiindawo zabasetyhini kunye nokunganeliseki kokubili. Umlingane unokuthi ahambe ngexesha elithile, ahambe "kuyo yonke into embi", ehlawulela ubomi ngaphandle komthando, ngaphandle kokuxhaswa ngokwesondo. Ukongezelela, i-calmer kodwa isiphumo esingathandekiyo sinokuthi-ukudandatheka, "i-cell cell syndrome," xa umfazi ephethe izinto eziphathekayo, kodwa ubomi bubonakala bubala, kuba akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo kwaye athathe ingozi.
Iimpawu ezinamaphepha kwi-note.
Ukuba usalindela ukutshata nendoda ecebile kwaye ucinge ukuba umtshato kuphela nomntu ocebileyo uya kunceda ukuxazulula zonke iingxaki, ngoko kufuneka ...
1. Ukucinga ukuba, njengomthetho, lowo uhlawulayo, kwaye uyalela umculo. Ukuba elinye lamalingani lizisa umninzi kakhulu imali kunomnye, ngoko unesigqeba esilawulayo kwi-ZAO "Usapho" kunye nokuvota okugqibeleleyo kuyo yonke into. Khumbula ukuba uya kuchitha imali yakhe.
2. Ukulungele ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba ubonakalise okhethiweyo yakho yonke imihla ongayikhethi ngenxa yobungakanani besikhwama sakho, kodwa (ngokuqinisekileyo) ngenxa yokudibanisa okungafaniyo neempawu zamadoda aphakamileyo ongazikwazi ukumelana nayo. Ngama-100% abacebileyo, kwaye ngokukodwa abantu abacebile kakhulu banokuchaphazeleka ngolu hlobo lokunciphisa ubunzima.
3. Musani ukumangaliswa xa, ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa rhoqo, umdlalo ongapheliyo, uya kuba nokuphazamiseka okanye ukunganaki, ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nokudandatheka. Kuba konke kuyimfuneko ukuhlawula - ngaphandle kokuba oku akuthethi umqondo "ngokubala"? Kufuneka uhlawule ngeemvo zakho.
4. Musa ukukhala xa isityebi sakho sikuphosa ngokukhawuleza, siphuka okanye (akunqatshelwe) siya kufa. Ukuhlaselwa okunjalo kuyimfuneko ukulungiselela kwangaphambili, ukwenzela ukuba ungahlali kwindawo ephukileyo. Amagqwetha acebisa ukuba sigqibe isivumelwano somtshato (kwaye uyifunde ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuba usayinwe). Kufanelekile ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuhanjisweni kohlahlo lwabiwo-mali, ukufumana i-akhawunti yakho yasebhanki, umgca wesikweletu esahlukileyo kwaye uhlale uzalisekisa "i-stash" yakho. Uze uqhagamshelane nommeli kungekhona nje ngepropati ehambayo kunye nengashenxiswanga yeqabane lakho, kodwa nakwiivenkile kunye neenqanawa zakhe (oko kukuthi, iifemu kunye ne-firmochkas) ukuze kungenzeki ukuba awuzange uhlale "kwikhatsheli enye" ekuqeshweni, kodwa ngokukhawuleza wafumanisa kunye nezigidi zemali zakho zangaphambili.