Ukungaqondani kuvela nakwiintsapho ezinokuthandana. ulwalamano olungcono. Kwaye nangona kubonakala kubonakala kunzima ukuba baxoxe nabo, ngokungabikho kwezigqibo abaziqokelelayo kwaye kunokukhokelela kwizinto eziphambili kunye nokuxabana. Ngamanye amaxesha ilizwi elinganaki eliphonswe ngabalingane linye lithwala inzondo efihliweyo ixesha elide. Indlela yokulungisa iingxabano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ngokungenabuhlungu nangaphandle, kwaye kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
Iingcali ziqinisekisa ukuba yonke into, nokuba neengxabano ezincinci zingachazwa. Kwaye kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku ngokukhawuleza emva kwesiganeko-ukuthetha malunga neentlungu okanye ezikukhathazayo. Ngaphandle koko, iimvakalelo ezimbi ziqala ukuqokelela, okwenza kube nzima ukufikelela kwisivumelwano kwikamva. Iingcali zengqondo zengcali zixelela indlela yokufunda ukuthetha malunga nezinto ezibuhlungu, kwaye zikhawuleze zixazulule iingxabano.
Njalo usho oko uvakalelwa
Kuhle xa ukwazi ukuzilawula kwaye ungaqhubeki ngomsindo ngxaki encinane. Kodwa oku akufanele kuguqulwe kube yinto yobulungisa, xa ugcina intlungu kunye nentukuthelo kuwe ixesha elide. Ndikholelwe, uvumelekile ukuba uthukuthelele iqabane lakho malunga noko akwenzileyo okanye akuthethileyo. Wena ungumntu oqhelekileyo ophilayo. Ukudambisa iimbangela zeemvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ukuzigcina ngokuzenzekelayo zikhokelela ekubeni ekugqibeleni ungaqhuma. Ingxaki kukuba inokwenzeka naliphi na ixesha kwaye inokumangalisa ngokwenene iqabane lakho. Usulibalile malunga neengxabano ezidlulileyo, kodwa usenokuba nobuhlungu beengxaki ezingaphendululwayo, inzondo kunye nenkohlakalo eyimfihlo. Umlingani wakho akayi kukwazi ukuqonda ukuqhutyelwa kweemvakalelo zakho, kuba ukuphendula kwakho akuyi kuhambelana neemeko. Kwaye ke mhlawumbi kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuphuhlisa imeko:
1. Iqabane lakho liloyiko, aliyiqondi isizathu sokuba uhlasele, kodwa uyakuthanda kwaye uzama ukuqonda imeko. Uphulaphule ukumangalelwa kwakho, ukuqinisekisile, ubeka izigqibo, kodwa emva koko emva kwakhe uthabathe ukungathembeki okukodwa kunye nokuxhalabisa kuwe.
2. Umlingane wakho uqhuma ngokuphendula, ekumangalela ngokuba ngumntu ohlaziyekileyo kunye nokushiya. Ngamanye amaxesha ngonaphakade.
Ngoko unokwenza ntoni? Musa ukuzenza ngathi akukho nto eyenzekayo xa iqabane lakho lithetha okanye lenze into enyanyekayo kuwe. Nangona oku kwakungeyona nto ingquzulwano, akukufanelekanga ukuhlala kulo kwaye ungaluboni. Cacisa umlingane wakho iimvakalelo zakho: "Ndiyaxhala ukuziphatha kwakho," "Andiyiqondi isizathu sokuba undixelele oku," "Amazwi akho andibuhlungu," njl njl. Mhlawumbi iqabane lingaqondi nokuba yini eyakucaphukisa. Kwaye wena, ungazi ngokwakho, ungamxeleli ngqo, ungamniki ithuba lokuxolisa kwaye uchaze indlela aziphatha ngayo. Uza kuhlupheka nje, ucinge: "Akandithandi, akayihloneli, akaphulaphuli," njl njl.
Gwema iintsuku ezizolileyo. Ziyimiqobo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Into eyona nto ungayenza kukuba ucele umbuzo wakho othembekileyo: "Yintoni eyenzekayo?" Ukuphendula: "Akukho nto." Ngaloo ndlela, awunalo ithuba lokufumana ingcamango. Uhamba kude komnye ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ungalindela. Khumbula: ngokuphindaphindiweyo oko kukubangela ukucaphuka kwakho kwaye kunokususa iimpikiswano ezininzi ezingangeni kwiingqondo zomlingane wakho. Akazi nokuba uyintoni na.
Nika iingxabano. Ukuqiqa ngokucacileyo kukhokelela kwisisombululo esiphumeleleyo. Ukuze uxolo, ngaba ukhetha ukungazigwebi nantoni na yakho yindoda yakho, nje "ungamthinti", nokuba ucinga ukuba akuphosakeleyo? Musa ukwenza oku. Naluphi na ukudideka kufuneka kumiswe ngokufumana ingcamango. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuhlala ubuyela kwingxaki kwaye uphinde ujonge kwakhona. Uxolo malunga nexesha lakho namandla. Ngoko, ukuba impikiswano engazange icaciswe, musa ukusigxotha isisombululo seengxaki "kwibhokisi elide". Zama ukufumana isisombululo ukuze amacala omabili aneliseke.
Musa ukukhupha iingxabano ezincinane
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ulwalamano lwakho nendoda ethandekayo luya kuphumelela, ngaba luya kumela uvavanyo lwexesha? Musa ukubheka impendulo kwi-crystal ball - jonga nje ubuhlobo bakho ngokunyanisekileyo. Uninzi lweengozi ezinokuthi zingabonwa kwiiveki zokuqala zobomi ndawonye!
Iingxabano kunye neengxabano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi zisoloko zisetyenziselwa ukuseka imithetho emitsha. Kubi kakhulu ukuba enye yeendlela 'zokukhupha' kunye nokunciphisa iimvakalelo ezimbi, iimvakalelo okanye ukunganeliseki kwangaphakathi. Ngoko ukuba ubona ukuba uvame ukukhupha iingxabano ezincinane nje kuphela ukuba ugxothwe ukuxhatshazwa kwangaphakathi - zama ukutshintsha imeko ngaphambi kokuba ihambe kakhulu.
Yintoni onokuyenza? Chaza indlela oziphatha ngayo kumlingane wakho. Yithi uqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kungenakuvuyisa, oko kwenzeka ngenxa yeso sizathu esicacileyo, kwaye nokuba kukubuhlungu kwaye akukuvuyisi. Ukuxolisa kwaye uthembisa ukuba imeko iya kutshintsha. Xa uvakalelwa kukuba unomsindo kwaye uyazi ukuba ulungele ukuqhuma, kungcono ukubuyela. Tshela wakho umthandayo ngeemvakalelo zakho uze uchaze ukuba uzama ukujamelana nawe. Hamba uhambe, uhlambe okanye wenze into ebuyisela kuyo.
Fumana enye ingxabano ukuze uxoshe uxinzelelo. Ukuba amanye amaxesha ekuziphatha komlingane wakho uyacaphukisa - xelela ngaye. Ngaba ucatshulwa yi-tube evulekileyo ye-toothpaste okanye isasazeke ngeenxa zonke kwigumbi lesokisi? Utshintsho lweendlela ezinjalo zokuziphatha aluyi kuba lukhulu kuye, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kunciphisa iingxabano ezingadingekile. Xa ezi zizathu zinyamalalala, uya kuba nobuncinci bokuvusa iingxabano kwintsapho. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, cela iqabane lakho ukuba lihlawule ingqalelo kwimikhwa yakhe. Kodwa, ekugqibeleni, oku kufuneka kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lokubambisana kunye nomnqweno wokukholisa omnye nomnye.
Njalo ninike iingxabano
Ukuzisa iingxabano ngenxa nayiphi na isizathu akubi - kunceda ekuxazululeni iingxabano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kwakhona kuhlambulula umoya ngaphakathi kwendlu, kuba uhlala uchazela ukuhlambalaza kunye nokungaqondani. Kodwa ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukulandela imithetho emininzi.
1. Musa ukuthuka iqabane lakho. Oku akuyi kunceda ukuxazulula impikiswano, kodwa kuya kuphulaphula ukuzithemba kwakhe.
2. Musa ukumemeza. Thetha iingxabano zakho ngelizwi eliphantsi - ngoko unyanzela iqabane ukuba liphulaphule. Yaye mvumele iqabane lakho lifumane igama. Chaza iimvakalelo zakho, uze ungagwebi ngaphandle kwengcaciso. Ungathethi oku: "Uvila!", Kodwa tshela, umzekelo, "Ndifuna amandla akho. Andikwazi ukulawula ngaphandle kwakho. Yenza, nceda ... "
3. Musa ukuvelisa. Ngomzamo wokulungisa iingxabano, indoda kunye nomfazi kufuneka bafunde ukugxila kwingqalelo yento. Ngokomzekelo, ucaphukiswa ngokulibaziseka rhoqo kwendoda emsebenzini emva kwexesha. Kodwa wena, ukulibala malunga nencoko, qala ukuthetha kumyeni wakho: "Umsebenzi wakho ubaluleke kakhulu! Akukho nto uyenzayo ekhaya! Unakho konke kwintsapho yakho. Kwaye umntakwenu, kunye nabanye ... "Musa" ukudlulisa iintolo. " Xa uxoxa ngengxaki ethile, thetha kuphela. Ngaphandle koko, uyenzisa nje ingxabano.