Unokumangaliswa, kodwa uxinzelelo luhlukile. Kukho uxinzelelo oluxakekileyo xa ngokukhawuleza safumana ukumangaliswa okanye ukunyamezela, ekugqibeleni, ngomsebenzi onzima ngaphambili. Kwaye kukho uxinzelelo olubi kakhulu kuthi sonke, xa ihlabathi lonke lichasene kwaye lifuna ukunyuka eludongeni ngokucatshiswa kunye nentukuthelo. Ngoko: kuba umzimba, zombini uxinzelelo lokuqala kunye nesibini unobungozi kwaye akunakuncedo. Ngokukodwa ukuba iimeko zesiganeko esiqhwithelayo okanye ukudabuka okukhulu kuphelile.
Into enje into ebalulekileyo njengokulawula uxinzelelo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo lenzelwe ngabafundi beengqondo kunye neengqondo ze-psychoanalyst ngokutsha. Ewe, nangona kunjalo, kwaye uxinzelelo lwaqala ukuxhomekeka kubantu, lwabenza babe neurotic and sick illness, nabo, kuphela kwiminyaka emva nje. Kwaye oku kukhula. Unokuhlangabezana njani noxinzelelo? Le nkqubo iyodwa. Oko kukuthi, kwezinye izenzo ezithile kuya kubangela ukusabela okukhawuleza kwangoko - kuya kuba lula kumphefumlo, iingxaki ziya kuvela kwimvelaphi, uvuyo lobomi luya kubuya. Abanye baya kufuna ixesha elide kunye nomzamo. Ewe, kunye nezixinzelelo zihlukile, ndingathini na ... Kodwa ke iindlela eziphambili zokulwa noxinzelelo zinika iziqhamo zazo kunoma yintoni na. Zihlolwe ngethuba kwaye zikhokela iingcali ezivela kwihlabathi lonke.
1. Ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincinci.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekujonganeni noxinzelelo kukuphepha kwayo. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into ilula. Ungakhathazeki, cwaka, uphefumle kakuhle, njl Kodwa ingxaki kukuba sonke sihluke, sinesimo esahlukileyo sokuqonda kwemvakalelo, inkqubo eyahlukeneyo yeentsholongwane. Kwaye iimfuno ziyahluke. Nezinto eziphambili. Umzekelo, kwintombazana enye, ukubonakala kwayo yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini. Kwaye ngoku ngengozi ubeka i-speck kwi-blouse yakhe. Indawo encinci, ongenakukwazi ukuyibona kufuphi, ukuba ungaboni ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa uloyike! Akazi into enokuyenza, efihla ekhoneni elide leofisi aze ahlambe iinyembezi ezibuhlungu. Yaye uyazi, uyabuhlungu. Kungenxa yokuba kuye kugxininiswa kwindlela ephezulu. Kodwa akhathalele ngebhebhethi ephumayo ekhitshini. Kwaye kunye nabamelwane abathukutheleyo abaza bephethe izikhalazo emfuleni ukusuka kwisiqwenga, musa ukuthusa kwaye musa ukuzifumana kubo. Uya kucinga-ibangele i-locksmith, ibimbile amanzi, ihlawule abamelwane. Akukho ngxaki! Oku kuthetha ukuba sonke sinemilinganiselo eyahlukileyo kunye nembono ebomini. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukukhetha kwizinto ezibandezelekileyo zengcinezelo zethu ezincinci kwaye ... musa ukuziphulaphula. Iingcali zengqondo zikwacetywa ukuba zize zibhale uluhlu lwezinto ezinokukukhupha ngaphandle kwakho, kwaye uvavanye ngamnye kwisilinganisi se-10. Izinto ezininzi zibonakala ngathi awunabalulekanga kwaye aziyi kunzima ukukuhlambalaza.
Uya kufuneka ube nesineke kwaye uphikelele ukuze ufunde indlela yokugqithisa iingxaki ezincinci ezidlulileyo. Ngokukhawuleza akakwazi ukusebenza, kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo. Akusebenzi kakubi kulo mzekelo ibinzana elithi "Yiyo yonke into encinci yobomi!". Phinda uyibuyise rhoqo xa uqala ukuthukuthela. Ungakuvumeli ukuba usebenze kuqala, kodwa ucinga ukuba yizinto eziphathekayo. Kungekudala iingxaki ezinjalo ziza kuba zizinto ezinqabileyo kuwe, kungekufanele ufumane ingqalelo.
2. Gcina imeko efanelekileyo yomzimba
Umnqweno oqhubekayo wokuphucula ukukhuselwa kwamandla awunakulimaza ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kwinqanaba lomzwelo. Emzimbeni ophilileyo, njengoko besithi ... Ukuzigcina uzimelele kubaluleke kakhulu. Oku kusinika amandla omzimba kunye nokukwazi ukujamelana nobunzima, inkokhelo eyongezelelweyo yovuyo, ukukhuthazwa kunye namava amnandi. Ungaphuthelwa nkcukacha ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo ekulwa nokunyamezela, amava ethu kubaluleke kakhulu. Awufuni ukubonakala njengomntu okhulelwe, lowo wonke umntu nomntu wonke ecasulayo? Kwaye ngubani ofuna? Yingakho kufuneka usebenze, zenze umzi womzimba, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhulule ingqondo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungadluli! Ngoxinzelelo lomzimba, ukukhuselwa kukukhusela, impilo iyahlakala, kwaye kukho ukuphosa ilitye kwi-neurosis. Kuyafana nokulahleka kokunciphisa umzimba kunye nezidlo ezinzima. Kodwa malunga nale ingezantsi.
3. Yidla ngokufanelekileyo
Ukutya okunempilo nokufanelekileyo kukuvumela ukuba ukhangele kwaye uzive ukhulu. Kwaye akusiyo kuphela kumachiza - kumsebenzi ofanelekileyo wezitho zonke, ngokunyaniseka kwendalo. Ngokuphathelele ukulawula uxinzelelo kwinqanaba lomzwelo, kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Isondlo esifanelekileyo sikhombisa kumntu omhle, ulusu olucocekileyo olucocekileyo, ubunwele obuphilileyo, amehlo aqabileyo. Ibhinqa lizibona kwisibuko kwaye liyazibonga, kwaye le nto isele ibe ngumqobo omkhulu kwiintlobo zoxinzelelo. Inkqubo yesifo ayiyinto engacacanga. Le nto yinto echanekileyo, eyomelezwa ukuba yonke inyama iyomelezwa. Ngoko qinisa! Fumana kakuhle ngoncedo lwesondlo esifanelekileyo kwaye uxinzelele wena uya kuguquka emva kwakho.
4. Yakha ikhowudi yakho efanelekileyo
Ubuntu bodwa yikhowudi ekhethekileyo equlethe yonke into ngaphakathi kwethu - esi sisiseko sokudala iingcamango ezahlukileyo kunye nezizithobayo zomzabalazo womntu. Ngoko ke, umntu ngamnye ukhetha ubuchule obuyimfuneko kumzabalazo ebuntwini bakhe. Cwangcisa ngokucokisekileyo isicwangciso sakho sokulawula uxinzelelo, njengoko isicelo salo sincike kwimikhwa yokuziphatha kunye nendlela yokuphila, indawo. Ukongezelela, le ndlela yenkxaso xa kunzima ukuxinezeleka ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye kuxhomekeke kwiprofayili yakho yengqondo. Kubalulekile ukwazi le nto kwaye akunakunakwa.
5. Faka isicelo seendlela zokuphumla
Kuyimpumelelo kakhulu ukujamelana noxinzelelo ngokusasazwa kwangoko. Le ndlela ingasetyenziswa ngokukhawuleza kwaye iqulethe iindlela ezibalulekileyo zokuphelisa uxinzelelo. Le yindawo yokukhumbula iindawo ezisebenzayo zokuzonwabisa, i-gymnastics, ezemidlalo, ukuhamba, unyango olushukumisayo lomzimba kwaye ukhethe okufanelekileyo kakhulu kule meko. Zonke ezi ndlela zinika umphumo osheshayo, ukuba zisasazwa ngokufanelekileyo. Ngexesha elide, uya kufunda indlela yokuchonga iindlela ezona zisebenzayo kunye nezona zilungileyo zokunqoba uxinzelelo. Umzekelo, uyazi ukuba emva komhla oxakekile uthenga ngokukhululekile. Sebenzisa le ndlela rhoqo, kwaye ukusebenza kwayo kuya kwanda kuphela. Ngoko nganye iindlela zokulwa noxinzelelo oluya kulwa luya kunika kuphela ukuphumla, kodwa kuya kwandisa ubungqina bakho.