Njengomntwana, umama wafundisa-musa ukuvula umnyango kubantu abangaziwayo, musa ukuhamba nomntakwabo womnye ... Kodwa sifuna kakhulu ukuba nobuhlobo obuthembayo phakathi kwabantu! Futhi uthembele - okanye okanye ekuqaleni, okanye kungekhona ... Akunjalo?
Siyathemba abo sifunda nabo - kwaye sisesimweni esinzima. Sijonge umfokazi ngokukrokreka ekumisekeni, kwaye ngokukhawuleza sithola uncedo kuye. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ulwalamano oluthembekileyo phakathi kwabantu lukhula kwiminyaka. Kodwa kukho ukungafani kulo mgaqo ...
Ewe, ukuthembela kuthatha ixesha. Kwaye sibadala, siba neentsuku, iinyanga (kunye ngamanye amaxesha-iminyaka) zifuneka ukuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Kumntu omtsha osebenza naye ujonge ngenyameko, bayathetha ngokukhawuleza malunga nokuba ngumntu onobuqu naye. Kwaye ukuba umntu oza kungena kwelinye iofisi, apho kukho ingxoxo ekhuthazayo yantoni na iinkcukacha, ngoko kwithuba elithile ingxoxo iyathula.
Indlela yokuphumelela ukuthembela?
UCarnegie akanakwenzeka ukuba athole ithemba. Ngeenkcazo ezikhawulezayo unokwakha ubuhlobo obunobungane kuphela. Okanye nakwezinye izinto - ukubuyisela umntu ngokumelene naye. Musa ukufumana ithemba kunye nezipho - kunoko luyalinywa ngokuqwalaselwa, ukunyamekela. Emva koko, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba isimo sethu sengqondo sibe "sithengiwe".
Yintoni ekhusela ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo phakathi kwabantu?
Ngoku iimeko zokuphila zitshintshile ngandlela-thile. Thelekisa indlela ihlabathi liye latshintsha ngayo xa ngaphambili kwimimango iingcango zaxhaswa ngomshanelo (njengotyikityo lokuba abanini abanalo indlu), kwaye ngoku, baya kwintsimi, bayifaka. Kwaye kwidolophu ukudala ubudlelwane obuthembayo kunzima nakakhulu. Oku kuphazamiseka ngu:
- Ukungaqondi
- Iinjongo ezahlukeneyo (kunokuba uzame ukusebenzisa?)
- Ukuphishekela ("Wena, njengentombi yam, kufuneka ...")
- Ukumanyaniswa kunye nomnqweno okhulayo wokulondeka (wonke umntu kwindawo yakhe yokuhlala, uvale umnyango waza wazikhusela emhlabeni wonke)
- Ukuthengiswa phakathi kwabahlobo kunye nabaziwayo (iinkonzo zabo, ukuthengiswa kwenethiwekhi, njl.).
Ukunyanzelisa ingcamango yombono wakhe kukungcolisa ubudlelwane ngezandla zomntu. Asinakuthenjwa ukuba "sitshintshile" kwizinto zethu zokungazi. Intukuthelo eqhwithelayo "ngokungahambelani" yindlela echanekileyo yokuthetha amanga ukuze kube lula ubomi kunye naloo mntu.
Ithemba lifuna ixesha
Musa ukwesaba ngenxa yokungabi nethemba phakathi kwabantu abangaqhelekanga. Kunzima ukuthetha ukuba oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kunoko-ithemba lithekile.
... Sithemba abanye abahambahambayo ngezothutho, kodwa sihlala siqaphele ukuba isikhwama sivaliwe kwaye akukho mntu omnye owayesibamba kuyo.
... Sithemba oogxa bethu, kodwa senza amaprojekthi kuphela.
... Siyathemba izihlobo zethu, kodwa asizixeleli konke ebusweni bethu malunga nento esiyicinga ngayo - kwaye le yendalo.
Ukuthembela ubudlelwane obuvuthiweyo ixesha elide. Okokuqala sivumela "inqanaba elithile", lendalo kumntu wenkcubeko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umhlobo esinikeza umnxeba akayi kubiza ngehora lesithathu ekuseni.
Emva koko, ukuba "i-check" idluliselwe ngempumelelo, makhe umntu afunde ngathi (kwaye ngokufanelekileyo sifunde kuye) nangakumbi.
Ekugqibeleni, osebenza naye osebenza naye iminyaka engaphezu kwemithathu unokukunika isitshixo kwindlu, "apho imali ilele khona", ukuze uwatyebise iintyatyambo kwaye uyondle ikati ngelixa eholide ...
Ngamanye amaxesha sifumana uhlobo lwe "ibhonasi" yokuthembela, ngamanye amaxesha - "sibukele" - asilitholi ... Naphezu koko oyaziyo ngawe (ewe, emhlophe kwaye uhlambulule, ulungele kwinqanaba!), Eli nqanaba liyimfuneko nya mezela.
"Ukuthembela"
> Ukuthembela phakathi kwabalingane bakho xa ushiya ikhompyutheni ivuliwe, musa ukusetha amaphasiwedi yonke indawo, ungavali i-locker yakho ngentloko. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iingcamango zesiseko somhlaba womnye umntu, kwintlanganiso yebhinethi enye, yenza ukuba kube lula ukuhlala kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane bokwenene.
> Themba phakathi kombhali kunye "nomvelisi", okhuthaza iphrojekthi. Ukuba ufika into engavamile, engavamile, iphrojekthi yakho, eqinisweni, inokuba. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba awuyi "indawo", ukuba uyazikhusela - ngoko unokuzithemba. Ngokomzekelo, ukuchonga ubunobumba, xelela le ngcamango, kodwa kungekhona iteknoloji ngokwayo, njengoko uya kwenza.
> Thembela phakathi kwezihlobo - xa uyazi ukuba akudingeki ulinde ukuqhutyelwa emva. Ukuba awuyi kukhishwa kwipropati ngobuqhetseba okanye awuyi kushiywa esitalatini nomntwana kwaye ungenawo umgangatho ophezulu wokutya. Kwaye kubalulekile ukubheka ngokukhawuleza, ukuphulaphula oko okuthethwa ngumntu nokwenzayo. Ngoko, ukuba imeko enjalo yenzeke-ngoko ubuhlobo obuye kwenzeka kuyo, kwakungekho okwenene. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, waphoswa into ...
Ubuntu kunye nomdla
Ngoko, ukuthembela ngowona mgangatho ochanekileyo wobudlelwane. Ukuba kukho ukuthembela, kuya kuba nentlonelo, kwaye inyanisekileyo, inomdla wokwenene. Qhubela ulwalamano olunjalo-ulonwabo, kwaye ujabulele umphumo wabo onokungakhange ukhangele emva kwaye uloyiko.
Ubuhlobo obunempilo = ukuthembela.