Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezikhokelela ekubeni ukuba ubuhlobo obulungileyo bunokubola. Nangona kunjalo, nantoni na eyenzekayo, isigqibo sokuphelisa ulwalamano luhlala lunzima kakhulu. Sicinga ixesha elide malunga nombuzo, okungcono, ukuhlala okanye ukuhamba. Ukuba awukwazi ukugqiba isigqibo malunga nayiphi na indlela oza kuthatha isigqibo - zama ukuqhubeka ukwenza ezi zithandathu.
Inyathelo # 1. Yiba nguwe, kungekhona into ofuna ukuyibona iqabane lakho
Ukuba ufuna ukwenza into engenakuchasana nawe, ngaba wenza njengokuba ufuna ukukwenza, okanye uqhubeka ukhusela isikhundla sakho? Ukuba uhlala ufihla uluvo lwakho kwaye uzama ukukholisa abanye, oko oku kunempembelelo eninzi kwisidima sakho, oko kukuthi, unokuthi, kuyo yonke imizwa yakho. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqaphela izenzo ezinjalo, zama ukubeka uvavanyo - vumelana nomlingane wakho ukuba ngexesha elithile uza kuthetha kuphela ngezinto ocinga ngazo ngoku, ngelixa uthabatha, nangona kunjalo, iqela elipheleleyo lemibono. Olu vavanyo luya kubonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukubuyisela ukudibanisa kwangaphambili okanye ukuba ulwalamano lufanele lugcinwe.
Isinyathelo Inombolo 2. Yeka ukukhathazeka ngezinto abanye bacinga ngazo.
Kubudlelwane kubalulekile ukuba bathethe, bacinge okanye benze okunye. Oku kungokwakho kwaye kuphela isigqibo sakho sokwamkela nokuthwala uxanduva, apho uza kuba khona kuphela. Baya kunika iingcebiso ezininzi, kodwa kukulungele ukukhumbula igama elidala elithi "phulaphula wonke umntu-zicinge wena". Musa ukuxinzelela imeko, uthatha ukwesaba kunye ne-alamu zabanye abantu. Indlela elula yokunqoba ubunzima beentsebenziswano iya kuba xa uhlala uxolo kwaye ucinge ngenyameko.
Inyathelo # 3. Thatha elinye lamacandelo 'okhuselekileyo'
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa kuyadingeka ukuthatha isigqibo esinzima, kwingqondo yomntu kukho ubuncinane ukungathandabuzeki kwimiba emibini, ekuthethwa ngayo. Ngokugqithiseleyo, ingcamango enye yokubeka ingozi, isisusa sakhe esikhulu "yonke into eyenzekayo yinto engcono kakhulu." Nangona elinye ilizwi lithetha ukuba mhlawumbi ngokwenza isigqibo, uza kwenza iphutha, okanye ukuba akuyi kuguqula nantoni na. Nangona ungaqapheli ukuba kukho le mpikiswano yeengcamango, uya kugxotha malunga nxamnye nxamnye, ungazi ukuba wenzeni.
Ukujongana nale nto, hlala phantsi kwaye ubhale zonke iingxabano ezikhokelela kwimbono yokuqala, kwaye ngokubhekiselele kubo babhale phantsi iingxoxo zombono wesibini. Bhala kwi-tech uze ufikelele ngokugcwele umfanekiso wonke, zonke iinkalo ezintle kunye nezimbi zeimeko ezikhoyo kwaye ungangeni kwisigqibo esipheleleyo. Njengomthetho, emva komsebenzi onjalo, ezi zimbini zichaswa njengeyona nkcaso yendalo.
Inyathelo # 4: Qonda ukuba isisombululo esona sisisombululo silapha
Makhe sicinge ukuba unayo icebo lokufakela umtshato kwaye ushiye abantwana kumyeni wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo impendulo kule nto iya kuba "andinakukwenza oku!". Ngoku uzama ukuvelisa ibinzana elifanayo, kodwa utshintshe "andinako" kwigama elithi "Andiyi kuba." Kuyinto engaqhelekanga, kodwa le ndawo isetyenziselwa ukusebenza - umoya obudlelwane obubonakalayo xa abantu beqonda ukuba ngokwenene bafuna ukugcina ubudlelwane babo. Le ndawo ivumela umntu omnye ukuba aqonde ukuba ngokwenene bakhululekile ukwenza oko bafuna, kunye nabanye - ukuba banako ukukhetha oko bakufunayo.
Inyathelo # 5. Thabatha ingqalelo iimfuno zakho
Ungalindeli ukuba umntu ovela kwicala uza kuza kwaye akuxelele ukuba ungayenza njani ngokufanelekileyo, oku akunakuze kwenzeke. Ungazami ukulandela iingcebiso zabanye abantu uze uhlangabezane nokulindela nemigangatho. Ungesabi kwaye unganqikazi ukuziphatha njengoko ubona kufanelekile.
Inyathelo # 6. Cinga ngendlela oza kuziphatha ngayo xa wayesazi ukuba uneenyanga ezintandathu kuphela
Khawucinge ukuba kufuneka uhlale ngaphaya kweenyanga ezintandathu - ngaphandle kokuba kule nkalo unenkxalabo ngezinye iimpazamo ezincinane zolwalamano, njengokungquzulana kusihlwa. Ukuba uzimisele ukuqeda ubudlelwane - yenza oko kanye. Ukuba unquma ukuyigcina - qalisa ukulungisa into engafanelekanga. Lo mzekelo unceda ukubona imeko yeyona nyaniso kwaye uqale ukwenza.