Okokuqala, kubangelwa ukunyuka okukhulu kweemvakalelo neemvakalelo kubazali abatsha. Kwimeko yomntwana omncinci, ngaphezu kwezifo ezibonakalayo ezishiywe emva kokubeleka, inani elikhulu lemithetho nemisebenzi elitsha lungachaphazela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, enye yezona zinto zinzima kakhulu, kukuba umthwalo wemfanelo kumntwana wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali bayaxhala, beqonda ukuba kuphela kubo kuxhomekeke kwimpilo, imeko kunye nokukhuliswa kwengane engenakunceda. Ukuguqulwa kolawulo kunye nokuhlala kwindlela entsha yosuku luyinkimbinkimbi. Ukuzalwa komntwana kusitshintsha ngokupheleleyo ishedyuli esisungisiweyo, ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kubazali ukuba abalalanga iintsuku, baphila ngokusondeza ukutya. Musa ukucaphukisa, ixesha elithile liza kufuneka lizinikele ekunyamekeleni umntwana, kuba kungekudala umbuso, ofanelekileyo kubazali kunye nosana, uya kusekwa ngokwawo. Into ephambili akuyikunika iingxaki ezincinci ukutshabalalisa ukuzithemba ngamakhono kunye namakhono abo.
Abazali abaninzi babhekana neengxaki zokuxhalabisa ngonaphakade kunye nokudideka, bengakwazi ukuba baziphathe njani kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Enyanisweni, iibini ezithoba kwishumi zineemvakalelo ezifanayo. Kwimizimba yabasetyhini, oku kuqhutywe ngophotho olunzulu kwi-hormone yokukhulelwa, ebangela ukuba utshintsho lwentliziyo kunye neemeko ezidandathekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuthatha iiveki ezimbalwa, kunye nokufumana amava ekunyamekeleni umntwana. Ukuba iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, ezihamba kunye nokungazinzi nokuziva, zishiya ibhinqa ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbini, kufuneka zidibane nodokotela, njengoko oku kubangelwa kukudakumba kwesithuba. Kubalulekile ukuba indoda kunye nentsapho iyithathe inxaxheba, inkxaso kunye nokuqonda kuya kunceda umama omncinci ukuba abuyisele ukuzinza kwakhe.
Uncedo lomntu ekukhulisweni nasekunyamekeleni ludlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu, kokubili ekumiseni ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana, nasekuqiniseni ubudlelwane beentsapho. Ngamanye amaxesha, abafazi abavumeli umyeni kumntwana, ngokupheleleyo i-zamyrkas ngokwabo, benethemba lokuba akukho mntu unokukwazi ukujamelana nalo kangcono kunomama. Le yimpazamo enkulu! Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthembela kumlingane, ukwenza intsebenziswano yosuku ngalunye. Ubawo banokunceda ekuhlambuleni, ukuhlambulula imihla ngemihla, nokutya. Kuba oku kunele ukubonisa ubisi oluncinane kwibhotile. Ukutya kunceda ukuqonda ukuqonda phakathi kobawo kunye nomntwana. Musa ukulibala ukuba kumzali ngamnye umntwana uza kufunda into entsha. Ukongezelela, ukunakekelwa rhoqo komama kuya kwenza umntwana unamathele kwaye uncike kuye.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umfazi ubonakala enza konke okungahambi kakuhle kwaye amanye amama anamava kunye nezakhono. Musa ukulawulwa ngokwakho, enyanisweni, nabani na umntu oqala ukuphosakeka kunye noloyiko. Yonke into iya kudlula ... Into ephambili, ungakhathazeki uze ube nexhala yodwa. Kubalulekile ukwabelana ngeengcamango zakho neemvakalelo zakho kumntu othandayo. Ewe, ukuba lo mntu uba ngumyeni. Akajonganga ngaphantsi kwaye ufuna kwakhona inkxaso yokuziphatha.
Isibini ngasinye esitshatileyo sibhekene nengxaki enjalo njengengcebiso ecasulayo kwizalamane, abahlobo kunye nabantu abangaqhelekanga kwisitalato. Uninzi lwezi cebiso aluncedisi abazali abancinci, kodwa lubadibanisa ngakumbi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, aba bantu babonakala banolwazi kwaye banolwazi kuyo nayiphi na into endifuna ukuyilandela ngokukhawuleza umzekelo wabo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngamnye umntwana uyimfuneko kwaye akukho ndlela enye yokukhulisa. Ngoko ke, iingcebiso ziya kuphulaphulwa, kwaye zivela kulabo abanomdla, ukufumana izigqibo ezithile. Kodwa, akunakunqweneleka ukwenza izinto zonke abantu abaya kubacebisa ngazo, abangayaziyo umntwana ngendlela abazali bakhe abazi ngayo.
Ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nokukhathala nokuxinezeleka, kubalulekile ukunika ixesha elifanelekileyo. Isisombululo esifanelekileyo kukudala isicwangciso semisebenzi ephambili yosuku. Nangona umntwana elele, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ungathathi ixesha lonke esebenza ekhaya, kwaye ubanike ubuncinane imizuzu eyi-10-15 uze uwachithe ngenzuzo kuwe -lala phantsi, phumula, yenza into oyithandayo. Isisombululo esihle sinokuhlukaniswa kwemisebenzi yasekhaya phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Indoda inokunceda ekucoceni indlu, ukunyamekela indawo kunye nezilwanyana. Kwakhona, akusayi kuba luncedo olukhulu ekunakekeleni i-diapers yokutshintsha umntwana, ukuhlamba okanye ukujonga ebusuku. Ukuba kunzima kakhulu ukuba abatshatileyo bakwazi ukujamelana nemicimbi yemihla ngemihla, unganqikazi ukucela uncedo kubantu abasondeleyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kubazali bokuqala banokuba nzima. Into ephambili ayikuphelelwa lithemba ngenxa yeempazamo ezincinci kwaye uzidumise ngokwakho konke ukuphumelela. Kwaye ungacingi ukuba ubomi bentsapho eselula lunengxaki kunye nobunzima. Bayihlawula ngokupheleleyo ngokuvuyela ukuthetha nomntwana, umkhwa wokumomotheka kokuqala okanye igama lokuqala lixelelwe kubazali bakho abathandekayo! Ngoku uyazi indlela i-psychology ichaza ngayo le meko, iintsapho emva kokuzalwa kwenguqu yomntwana, kwaye, ngokomthetho, ukuba ngcono!