Ukuba sele sele uzame ukwenza imizamo yokwakha intsapho ehambelanayo kwaye inamandla, kodwa ukholelwa ukuba umtshato wakho ungcono ukuba ungabikho, okanye kukho omnye umntu ofuna ukuba naye kunye, mhlawumbi indlela yokuphuma iyingxenye.
Uninzi lwahlukaniso luya kwenzeka emva kweengxabano zentsapho kunye neengxabano, kwaye nangona elinye iqabane lingafuni okanye lingakulungele ukuthatha inyathelo elinqabileyo. Kodwa ukuba, ngokubanzi, ubudlelwane buqhubeka ngaphandle kokuvuthwa komoya okhethekileyo, ngoko ukuhlukana kobudlelwane akubonakali. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba umfazi athathe uxanduva lokwahlukana, kuba isenzo sisohlwayo: usenokuba nokwesaba ukugwetywa koluntu, ukuhlambalaza kwiintsapho zakhe (yena kunye nomyeni wakhe wangaphambili), okanye ukwesaba ukuzisola ngesenzo sakhe kwixesha elizayo, xa kungekho mntu ngaphandle kwakhe, abanye baphendukela kwimilinganiselo echukumisayo.
Yaye indlela yokuphosa umntu ukuba ahlukanise? Emva koko, kwenzeka ukuba ngelixa umfazi elambile utshintsho ebomini bakhe bomntu, indoda iyavuya ngayo yonke into. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuqhelekileyo kumatasa okanye abantu abangenamandla, "oonyana baka-mama", abaneliseko lwabo luxhomekeke kwintuthuzelo endlwini, ukucoceka, ubukho besidlo esishushu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukulandelelana kwezinto. Into emangalisayo, phakathi kwabayeni abathandekayo, kukho abanye abangazange banamahloni ngento ebonakalayo yokunyanzela umfazi wabo "umsebenzi". Ngokuqhelekileyo kwamkelwa kwaye kubonakala kuyabonakala ukuba ukuze kunikezwe indawo enokumnceda umntu kunye nokufumana ulwalamano lwakhe olufanelekileyo kunye neentlobano ezilungileyo, kubalulekile ukuba neentlonelo, ukunyamekela, ukuthandana nothando, ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, ububele kunye nenani leemfihlelo zentombi ezikhethekileyo ... Kubonakala ngathi kulula ?
Yenza okuchaseneyo kwaye ufumane umphumo ochaseneyo - le ngenye yezizathu zokuba ungenza umyeni wakho aqhawule! Kodwa ukuba uzama zonke iindlela "ezimnyama" zokuziyeka kumyeni ofana nokuyeka isondo okanye ukupheka ukudla, ukuphathwa kakubi kunye nokuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, awuzange uphumelele kwisiphumo esifanelekileyo, cinga: yintoni ekhuthaza umlingane wakho? Mxhaphaze ukuba uqhawule umtshato kunye nawe, unokuqulunqa kuphela izitshixo zokuyisebenzisa. Ufuna ntoni? Ufuna ntoni kwintsapho yakhe? Ukuba uyayeka ukufumana ulwalamano lwentsapho, kodwa akafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na, kuthetha ukuba ukhuthazwa ezinye iinjongo, kwaye zeziphi, kufuneka ziqondwe.
Ubume bendoda yentsapho ifanelekile, mhlawumbi wayifaka ebuntwaneni kunye nengcamango yokuziphatha kakubi komtshato, mhlawumbi yena, onjengawe, akafuni ukujamelana nokuhlolwa koluntu ngobomi bakhe, njl njl. Kukho nawuphi na, iindlela "eziphantsi komhlaba" zokukholisa umbono wakhe kwisidingo sokuqhawula umtshato aziyi kuvelisa iziphumo xa sibhekene nesimo esifanayo. Kutheni uhla ukuya ekuziphatheni okungafanelekanga, ukuba umnqweno wakho ukuqhawula umtshato, kwaye ungayonakalisi ubudlelwane?
Thetha nomyeni wakho. Fumana ngubani ofuna. Mxelele ngeengcinga zakho malunga nobomi besikhathi esilandelayo. Ukuba ulwahlukileyo okanye akafuni ukuphulaphula iingxabano zakho, khankanya ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ufuna ngokucacileyo umnqweno wakho. Kukho nawuphi na umxholo onelungelo lokufakela umtshato ngokwazo. Kodwa ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi ukuvuma kwakho kuya kwenza utshintsho olupheleleyo ngokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bakho bokamva kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakho ...