Kodwa ngokukhawuleza yonke into ingawa. Umthandayo unokungcatshiswa, okanye iingxaki zemihla ngemihla ziya kugqitha konke okulungileyo phakathi kwakho. Kwaye ulunwabo lubaleka. Kuya kubonakala ngathi awudingi mntu, wonke umntu unenzondo. Indlela yokujongana nale mvakalelo, esusa bonke abantu abazama ukukunceda. Ukugijima kwisangqa akukuvumeli ukuba ubaleke kule ntlungu. Into eyona nto ekhokelela kulo mbhalo ngumtshato.
Kubonakala ngathi oku kuya kuba ngcono kubini. Emva koko, ezininzi izikhalazo ziye zaqokelela kule minyaka edluleyo. Ngesizathu esithile, ngethuba elithile, kuphela ukuhlambalaza okubi, okanye isenzo esichukumisayo. Konke oku kuvela phambili, endaweni yokushiya isenzo sokukhubeka, kunye nentloko ebandayo ebunzima. Sizama ukugqithisa, kwaye singacingi malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu esibachaphazelayo. Abazali abanenkxalabo ngobomi bomntu babantu abangazalwanga. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, malunga nabantwana babo, abachaphazelekayo ngokuqhawula abazali babo.
Zingaphi iimeko, umntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato uhoxiswa ngokwawo. Kwaye kwaba nemiphumo emibi. Imizamo yokuzibulala, ukuphunyuka ekhaya, umlutha kwimikhwa emibi (ukutshaya, utswala, utywala). Ngaba umtshato usenokubangelwa kwimiphumo enjalo, ubuza? Ziziphi izikhokelo zabantwana zokwenza eso sigqibo? Inyaniso kukuba ekuqhawuleni umtshato, abazali bayazigxeka. Uqala ukucinga nokulinganisela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kwaye kufike ekugqibeleni ukuba nguye onokusola. Emva koko iingcamango ziyahamba kuba abazali abayithandi. Ukuzinza kwengqondo, ubomi obulungeleleneyo buphukile, kwaye buyikeka. I-psyche yengane ayilungele iimvavanyo ezinjalo, kwaye umntwana uba njenge-hedgehog, ezama ukungavumeli abantu basondele kakhulu ukuba bafumane kwakhona. Izenzo ezikhohlisayo ziphela zendlela yokukhusela. Abantwana abanjalo kunzima ukuzisa kwingxoxo, ukuphoqa ukuvula.
Ebomini, kukho ezininzi iimeko, kwaye nganye ifuna isisombululo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uthathe, cingisisa ngohlobo lweentlungu ozibekayo kwiintsapho zakho. Ukulinganisa zonke izinto eziphathekayo kunye neengxaki, mhlawumbi unokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko ngaphandle komtshato. Enye indawo yokuhlala yesikhashana. Oku kuya kunika ixesha lokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ekubeni icala liya kulungiswa emva kokuba ixesha lidlulile, ukuqhosha kuya kuthula, kwaye ngoxolo, kufuneka wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Ukuze ugweme le ngxaki, kuncinci kakhulu. Hlonipha omnye nomnye ukuze kungenzeki. Emva kwakho konke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko yintoni okwenzekayo ngexesha elidlulileyo, wathanda kakhulu, wahlala ndawonye ixesha elithile. Kwaye ubuncinane ngenxa yentlonipho yokuphila iminyaka ayayihlahlisi. Wena wazala abantwana, oko kwakuthetha ukuba uye wecinga ukuba ufanelekile omnye nomnye. Funda ukuphulaphula nokuqonda umphefumlo wakho. Emva koko, ingxaki ngokwayo ayiyi kudlula ngaphandle kokuba ixoxwa ngayo. Ukuthula kunokuchukumisa ukuxabana. Musa ukuqokelela umsindo, kungcono ukuxelela ngokukhawuleza malunga nento engakufanelanga. Kwaye ukuzingca ngeli nqanaba kufuna ukufihla. Emva kwakho konke, akuyikuphela isigqibo sakho, kodwa ikamva lomntwana.