Naluphina ukuhlukana kwimeko ezininzi kukho imeko engathandekiyo kunye noxinzelelo, nabani na oqalise ukuphuka. Kubuhlungu ngokukhethekileyo ukuba ushiye umntu odlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho, oziva uvakalelwa ngayo kwaye mhlawumbi uyamthanda. Namhlanje siza kuthetha malunga nokuba kutheni ubuhlobo bexesha elide luphela, kunye nendlela yokusinda ukuhlukana.
Abantu ababini abanobudlelwane okanye emtshatweni kufuneka bafanane okanye baxhasane - zonke ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba kwakunjalo, kodwa ekugqibeleni idlulile, umanyano unokuba usongelo ngokuphuka. Ngokomzekelo, kwangaphambili lo mbhangqwana ube neengongoma zoqhagamshelwano kunye nobudlelwane obuvumelanayo, kwaye omnye wabo watshintsha kakhulu. Kwaye bonke, ngamanye amaxesha iqabane lesibini alinakuyamkela ezi tshintsho, ukuvumelanisa kuphelile, ubudlelwane buwela. Oku kungayinye yezona zinto ezibangela ubuhlobo obunobungozi kunye nendawo ekhoyo. Kodwa kunzima ukutshintsha nantoni apha, kuba umntu akahlali ekwazi ukulawula indlela umlingiswa wakhe utshintsha ngayo, imbono yakhe ebomini, izicwangciso zexesha elizayo, indawo yakhe, iminqweno, izinto ezithandayo kunye njalo njalo.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi ubudlelwane abuphikisani kunye nezihlobo ezikhuphukela ebomini benkwenkwezi, iingxabano eziqhubekayo kunye nokuxabana malunga nobomi bemihla ngemihla, imibono eyahlukileyo malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, ukugwenxa, ukuhlonela iqabane kunye neengcamango zakhe, njalo njalo. Xa ulwalamano kufuneka ube nesineke, ubulumko, ukuphulaphula. Emva koko, ukuxabana konke, kodwa isiphumo senkqubela sinokuhluka, konke kuxhomekeke kwimizi ngokwayo.
Kwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luphelile ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye awukwazi ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo, kutheni umntu enqumle ukuphula uxhulumaniso. Enyanisweni, ngokukhawuleza ulwalamano alupheli, iimvakalelo ezidlulileyo azidluli. Ngokucacileyo, ngokucacileyo, bekuyinto yokuthabatha ixesha elide, mhlawumbi, kwakukho iimpawu zeengxaki ezisondeleyo, mhlawumbi ukupholisa umlingane kunye nokunye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanqwenela ukuphawula ezi "bell", abafuni ukucinga ngokubi. Aba bantu banokuqhutywa ngoloyiko lwenguqu ebudlelwaneni okanye ukwesaba kobulolo. Bavala amehlo abo, kwaye oku kubenza bafumane ingqiqo yoxolo nokuthula.
Kwenzeka ukuba abantu babenothando, kodwa ekugqibeleni kwadlula kwaye indawo yakhe ithatyathwe ngumkhwa. Ngaphantsi kwefuthe leemeko ezahlukeneyo, abantu bayeka ukunothando omnye nomnye bagqiba ekubeni bathathe inxaxheba. Ewe, ukuba zombini amaqabane aqonda ukuba isithuba sanele ngokwaneleyo, siqhelana ngokufanayo. Emva koko amaqabane asekuqaleni ayaqonda ukuba ubomi buqhubeka, vumelani kunye kunye namaxesha amaxesha bahlale behlobo.Kubi nakakhulu xa umntu ethanda, kwaye owesibini ungabathandani. Kule meko, ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane kubangela intlungu, ukuphazamiseka, ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuzibulala. Nantsi into ephambili kukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo, kungekhona ukukhawuleza, ungagcini ngotywala. Awudingi ukuphindisela, ukuphindiselela kukubonakalisa ukuzingca, ukungaqiniseki kunye nobuthathaka. Kuba yiyiphi impindiselo, ukuba umntu uvele nje olwa nothando? Ngoko, kungekhona isigqibo. Kwaye ukuba umntu uthengiswa okanye usetyenziselwa iinjongo zakhe, ke akukho mfuneko yokuphindezela-kuba kutheni izandla phezu komntu ongafanelekanga, mthobele. Kufuneka ufumane amandla okuxolela uze uvumeleke.
Izizathu zokwahlukana zingafani kakhulu - ukulahlekelwa kweemvakalelo, inzala, inhlonipho, iinjongo eziqhelekileyo, njl njl njl njl njl. Kakade, ukuhlukana akulula. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu baqala ukuzihlalutya, bazigxekale into okanye iqabane labo, cinga ukuba umntu unokutshintsha kakhulu, cinga "oko kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ...". Ukuze uphile kule nkqubela ebomini yobomi, kufuneka utshise, umxolele umntu, vumela uhambe, wamkele imeko kwaye ujonge amava. Kodwa amava kuphela kufuneka akhiwe kwaye alungele. Musa ukucinga ukuba uthando nolwalamano lububi, kwaye bonke abantu bangabathengi. Oku kuya kunzima kuphela imeko. Ngokuyimfuneko kwikamva uza kuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo, "okufanayo."
Ukuze uphinde uhlawule, zinike ixesha lokuphilisa isilonda, ungagqithisi ngokukhawuleza umgca. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba uhambe kakhulu - akudingeki uziphendulele.
Kufuneka ukhale, uxolele izikhalazo zakho uze uzibeke kwindawo yokugqibela. Ungazitshitshisi ngokuphulaphula ubudlelwane.
Ukuba oku kuya kunciphisa umphefumlo wakho, ukuphosa ubugwenxa, ukuphosa okanye ukutshabalalisa zonke iifoto, izipho kunye nezinto ezikhumbuza zangaphambili, ezibangela ukukrakra nokulangazelela.
Zama ukuzibandakanya ngento ethize: yenza imidlalo, fumana umdlalo, zicwilise emsebenzini. Ungashiyi ixesha lokucinga ngexesha elidlulileyo, ngenxa yokuzisola kunye neengcamango ezidandathekileyo.Ziqaphele, umzekelo, uye kwi-hairdresser, venkile. Imvakalelo engebiyo inokutshalwa ngaphandle ngoncedo lokuzikhandla ngokomzimba - imidlalo, idaniso. Yenza izipho, udibana nabahlobo, uye emacimbini, wenze okukholisayo, kukukholisa. Zama ukuzisa uvuyo kunye nokuhleka ebomini bakho - bukela ama-comedies, ufunde amabali amnandi, uye kwiiklabhu, kwiindawo zokudlela, kwi-bowling, kwi-skating rink njalonjalo.
Unokwenza ubuchule, ube nesilwanyana, uhambe kwindawo ethile ukutshintsha imeko yendalo kunye nemimandla - ngegama, nwabisa. Ungabi nomdla kwimeko yangaphambili, ubomi bakhe kunye nabo benzayo nabo, yenza udibaniselwano naye ubuncinci. Ukuba kunzima ukuba uhlangabezane nawe, buza isazi sengqondo-akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngayo. Ingcali iza kukunceda uphile ngokuhlukana.
Zithande, zimele kwaye uzimelele. Ukukhupha iziphumo, hlalutya iimpazamo ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhambelanayo kwixesha elizayo. Musa ukugqitywa ngokupheleleyo kumntu, ungalahlekelwa nguwe, ubuntu bakho, ungabingeleli yonke into ngenxa yeqabane. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, zama ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha namadoda, isitala sobudlelwano. Zama ukungena kwi-rake efanayo.
Musa ukucinga ngendlela engafanelekanga. Phonsa iingcamango ezinje "Andiyi kuphinda ndidibana nalo," "Andiyi kuphinda ndithandane," okanye "Akukho mntu uya kundithanda," njalo njalo. Akunjalo! Futhi musa ukumthemba abantu! Ukuhlukana akusiyo kuphela isiphelo sehlabathi. Oku akuthethi ukuba esikhathini esizayo awuyi kuhlangana nomntu onokuthandana naye, umntu onokumthemba. Ngoku uyazi ukuba yintoni isikhala, kutheni ubuhlobo buphela kunye nendlela yokusinda ukuhlukana. Ndiyakuthanda kunye nolonwabo!