Ngethuba lethu ipesenti enkulu yeentsapho ziza kuphuka ubudlelwane. Ukwahlukana ngumthombo oqinileyo woxinzelelo. Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abaninzi abantu banenkxalabo engokomoya nangokomzwelo, ngoko ufuna nje ukuxhaswa kwengqondo yomtshato.
Kwenzeka ntoni kumntu ngexesha loxinzelelo?
Emva koqhawulo olubi, uxinzelelo luba nzima kakhulu. Umntu uwela kwingcinezelo enkulu kwaye kubonakala ngathi zonke izinto ezilungileyo ziphelile kule nto. Ukutya kuyanyamalala, kukho ukungahloneli ngokupheleleyo. Andifuni ukuthetha nabani na, kubonakala ngathi kungcono ukufihla kuwo wonke umntu ukuze kungakhathazeki mntu. Umntu, evalelwe ngumntu wonke, unokuchitha ixesha elide kwixinzelelo. Ngoko ke, nangona umntu engafuni ukubona umntu, izalamane kunye nabahlobo kufuneka baqale "ngokuthobeka" kumnxibelelana naye, inkxaso yengqondo iyimfuneko. Emva koko, awukwazi ukudonsa ukuxinezeleka kwaye kufuneka uqale isigaba esitsha ebomini bakho. Qhagamshelana nomgqirha wokunyamekela ngongxamiseko. Uya kunika icebiso elifanelekileyo kwimeko yakho.
Indlela yokuncedisa ngengqondo ihlala isahlukaniso somntu osithandayo
Kubalulekile ukuzisa ngokuthe ngcembe umntu ukuba umtshato uyingxenye engathandekiyo yobomi bakhe. Yilungele ubomi obulungileyo, unike iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuthatha amanyathelo okuqala. Oku kunzima kumntu obandezelekayo, kodwa mkholise ukuba kufuneka akwenze.
Mushiye umhlobo wakho wedwa kunye neengcamango zakho. Nxibelelana, uye kwi-cinema, kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa, kwiivenkile, kwiindwendwe nakwamanye amaziko. Chaza ukuba ukuphepha abantu besini esahlukileyo akufanelekanga, ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlangana nomphumo wakhe. Ungamvumeli ukuba afihle, kuba sele esele akhathazeke. Ku luncedo kakhulu kwiimeko ezinjalo ukuphuma ukuya emaphandleni: ukuloba, kwimithi okanye kwi-dacha, kuba umoya omtsha uhlala unamandla. Ukubukela i-TV evuyayo ibonisa ndawonye, funda i-anecdotes. Zama ukufumana umdlalo omtsha wokufunda: ukufunda ukukhwela okanye ukukrazula, ukudweba okanye ukucoca kwi-straw, njl. Okokuqala, akafuni ukwenza konke, kodwa ekugqibeleni inzala iya kukhula.
Mncede enze ukubonakala kwakhe. Yiya kuthengwa, uthenge izinto ezintsha ezintle. Cwangcisa i-hairstyle entsha, ubhalisele ukusila. Oku kuya kumnika ukuzithemba, kwaye ukuzithemba kukubalulekileyo ekuphumeleleni ebomini.
Ukunyaniseka, i-aerobics, ukuzivocavoca, njl. Kuya kunceda ukulahla amandla ambi. Emva koko, ngokuzikhandla ngokomzimba, amandla aphelileyo aphuma, ngokufanelekileyo, umthwalo woxinzelelo uphinde usetshenziswe. Ukuba awuyithandi ukwenza iholo, ubhalise kunye kwicandelo lebhoksikidi, ibhola lebhola, okanye udansa. Ukuba wena noyiko, ungakunikela ukuxhuma kwiparachute.
Xa umntu ehlala yodwa, mkhombise ukuba akhuphe iinkumbulo ezingathandekiyo, kodwa kunokuba umcebise ukuba enze umoya ococekileyo, ulungiselele into enhle kakhulu, vula iTV, ugobe kwaye ujabulele ukubukela okulungileyo. Oku kuya kumnceda aphumle.
Kwenzeka ntoni emva kwexesha emva komtshato
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, umfazi uqala uxinzelelo ngokukhawuleza, kunye nendoda kamva. Emva kweminyaka embalwa, amadoda awela phantsi ekudakaleni. Abasetyhini sele beye bahamba nale nto kwaye kuyathakazelisa ukuba emva kophando, abafazi abasinda komtshato bafumana impilo engcono yengqondo kunye nengqondo. Abaninzi banomdla gqitha kukuba baye balahla ukucinezelwa kwabantu, abanye baye bafumana ulonwabo olutsha. Ngelishwa, kukho abo bachithe ubomi babo ngaphandle kokujamelana nale ngxaki, kuba abazange bafumane inkxaso kubantu abaqhawule. Laba abo balwa nosizi lwabo ngoncedo lotywala, iziyobisi kunye nezinye iindlela ezingekhoyo.
Khumbula ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu kukukhawuleza ukuphuma uxinzelelo kwaye uqalise ubomi obutsha, nokuba kunzima kakhulu. Ufuna ukuxhaswa kwengqondo ngexesha lomtshato. Ngeli xesha kubalulekile kakhulu ukuthetha nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe, ngoko ungaphazamisi. Kodwa emva kokuba usinde kwixinzelelo lomtshato, kufuneka wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo, usebenze kwisimo sakho kunye nawe. Oku kuya kunceda kwixesha elizayo ukwakha intsapho entsha.