Kuthekani ukuba kunzima ukuhlula nomyeni wakho?

Ngethuba lethu, iinani zomtshato zithandeka kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwesahlulo sebini esitshatileyo siqhawule umtshato. Yintoni ongayenza xa nawe, wahlupheka ngayo le ntlekele? Akukho mzekelo ongenakugxeka umntu ngomtshato, bobabini bahlala bebeka ityala.


Kwimeko enzima, ngakumbi ukuba kunzima ukuba uhlukane nomyeni wakho, kufuneka ubenze ngesandla uze uhlalutye imeko. Ngubani owayengumqali wokuqhekeka kwakho? Ukuba umyeni, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni wakwenza oku, ukuba awukwazi ukumnika ubuhlobo bakho, ukuba ukhetha ukuhlukana nokuqhawula umtshato. Mhlawumbi wafumana elinye ibhinqa waza waya kuye? Cinga ngako, cingisisa ngokungathandabuzekiyo malunga noko kwakungekho nto kuwe.

Mhlawumbi unqamle ukunikela ingqalelo kuye, uyeka ukuzithiba, mhlawumbi unemvelo yesisu kunye nentsingiselo yobomi obona ngoku kuphela kubantwana? Uya kuthetha ukuba abantwana bangcwele. Kodwa abantwana akufanele bahlale phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Abantwana baya kukhula kwaye bahambe ngendlela yabo, baya kuba nobomi babo, iintsapho zabo. Kububudenge kakhulu ukutyalombela kubantwana bonke ukunyamekela kwabo, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela, ngokungashiyi lutho kumyeni wakhe.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, wamfumana umfazi oza kumnceda, kwaye ngoku kunzima ukuba uyingxenye nomyeni wakho. Kunzima - ithetha ngokukhawuleza, kuphela ngoku uqonda ukuba uyithandayo kangakanani kwaye awufuni ukuyilahleka. Yaye ucinga ntoni ngaphambili, xa ude uzeleke kakhulu ngabantwana kuphela? Othandiweyo bafazi, khumbula ukuba ukuze uhlale unqwenela kwaye unomdla kumyeni wakhe, kufuneka uhlale ukhangeleka kakuhle, kwanawo ekhaya, uphuthuke, wenze ulunge kwaye uphonsa ingubo yakho yakudala ekugqibeleni. Kwaye uThixo makakuvumeli ukuba umyeni wakho akubone ngesikhwama ebusweni bakhe! Kufuneka uhlale ulala naye, soloko ufumana isizathu sokumcekisa, udlala ngothando naye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantwana, okanye iindawo zekhaya. Ukuba umfazi uya kuma esitofu aze apheke ngesidlo esifubeni esifutshane, umyeni akayi kulinda isidlo sakusihlwa, kodwa kuya kuthini emva kokutya, uya kukufuna! Abafazi bayalibala kaninzi ukuba umntu angabathandi abanye abantu kwisitalato, kodwa umyeni wabo. uze uzibuze ukuba kutheni bashiya amadoda abo.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, nguwe owayengumceli womtshato, kwaye nangona kunzima ukuba uyingxenye nomyeni wakho, ngoko kwakhona uphinde ulinganise zonke izinto ezixhamlayo kunye neengxaki. Mhlawumbi uye wenza ngokungathembekanga, phantsi kwefuthe leemvakalelo. Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ngale nto ixesha elide kwaye ugqityiwe, kodwa nangona kunjalo, ukwahlukana kunikezelwa kuwe ngobunzima obukhulu. Ngoko kufuneka ucinge kwakhona kwakhona. Ukuze inxalenye nje, kodwa ayiyi kuba yindlela yokubuya. Ukuseka ubudlelwane emva kokuqhawula umtshato kwiqhinga lakho kuya kuba nzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba uyasithanda kwaye ngaphandle kwayo uya kuba nzima, zama ukulungisa yonke into ide ifike kakhulu.

Zama ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye. Kuphela ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, ukuxabana. Ngokuhlwa, hlala yedwa uze uthethe naye, uxoxe ngokukhawuleza zonke iingxaki zakho ebubudlelwaneni, uchaze ukuba kutheni unqume ukushiya kuye, cacisa ukuba wenze ngako kwimvakalelo, kodwa ngoku ulungele ukuxoxa ngokuzenzekelayo uze ufumane indlela yokugcina intsapho yakho. Yiba njenge-frank ngangokunokwenzeka kwaye uvule kule ngxoxo. Nangona oku akunakunceda, uya kukwazi ukuba uzame ukwakha ubudlelwane kwaye awuyi kubeka kakubi kwixesha elizayo.
Kuthekani ukuba kunzima ukuhlukana nomyeni wakho ukuba umtshato usenakuphepheka, ukuba akayi kuxolelana? Okokuqala, thobekisa ngale meko. Unelungelo lokukhala, okwaneleyo ukukhala, ukukhalaza kubo bonke abantu, bafune inkxaso kunye nokuthuthuzela. Ukuba umtshato ungenakunqandwa, kwaye uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba oku kukuphela kobudlelwane bakho, ngoko kufuneka ufumane le meko. Kubalulekile ukuyeka ukugatya ukunyaniseka, kodwa ukujonga ngayo ngento ebalulekileyo. Ewe, konke kubi, kodwa akusiyo isiphelo sehlabathi. Akuyena yedwa umntu ehlabathini lonke, kwaye ukuba awuyikuvalela, uya kukwazi ukudibana nendoda ngakumbi ngakumbi kwaye wakhe ubuhlobo obutsha, ucinga ngeempazamo zakho zangaphambili kunye namava okuphila. Yintoni enokuyenza xa kunzima ukuhlukana nomyeni wakho?

Okokuqala, zinike ithuba lokukhala, uxinzeleleke kwaye 'ulila' ubuhlobo obuphukileyo. Ukwenza oku, zinike iintsuku ezintathu apho uza kuvalwa wedwa kwindlu, uthathe abantwana kwiintsapho zakho, cima zonke iifowuni kunye ne-doorbell kwaye zonke ezi ntsuku ezintathu uza kuhlupheka ngazo zonke izikhwepha zakho. Bona iifoto zakho ezidibeneyo, iividiyo ezivela emtshatweni wakho, ukukhwela ngezinto zakhe, ungaziqhawula phantsi uze uziqhekeze ngezinyembezi, uzibethelele ezihlathini, awukwazi ukunxiba iinwele zakho, ungadli, ungagqoki, ungadli. Bandezeleka ngamandla akho onke, ukukhathazeka ngokwemidlalo, njengokungathi udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu kumdlalo obuhlungu kunye neenxa zonke ugcwele izibukeli ezikuxabisayo. Yikhale iinyembezi uze ungabi nantoni yokukhala. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - zinike le nto kwiintsuku ezintathu!

Yonke ixesha kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ngenxa yokubandezeleka unayo le mihla emithathu kuphela, emva koko uqala ubomi obutsha, ngoko ungaphuthelwa ixesha, ufumane ubuninzi, kwaye akuyi kuba namathuba anjalo. Ngentsasa yosuku lwesine, qalisa ukuzibeka ngokwakho. Kuya kuba kuhle kakhulu ukuba wenza utshintsho kwindlela obonakala ngayo - lungisa iinwele zakho, yenza i-hairstyle entsha. Qinisekisa ukwenza ubuso buso, uhlambe ngeoli ecocekileyo, yenza i-manicure, uye uye uzithenge iingubo ezintsha okanye ubuncinane ngaphantsi kweengubo zangaphantsi. Yaye uqonde - ubomi obutsha buqala, obuya kuba bhetele kunexesha elidlulileyo, owe "ulila" phantsi kweprogram epheleleyo, kubomi bakho bonke.

Buyela ebudeni bakho obuqhelekileyo, kodwa nangona kunjalo, ungazicima, khangela abantu abasanda kuqhagamshelana namadoda, ube ngumqalisi walaba baziyo, umzekelo ngokuthumela kwi-intanethi kwisayithi lakho lokuthandana. Zibukele, zihlala zikhangeleka kakuhle kuzo zonke iimeko. Hamba ngemihla kunye namadoda. Zithande! Emva kwakho konke, umntu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho nguwe, kwaye ubomi abuphiwe ukuba siphumelele, kodwa ngenxa yoko siyakonwabela. Yaye indlela esilawula ngayo ubomi bethu kuxhomekeke kuthi ngokwethu.