Ngoko yintoni omele ukwenze xa ulahlekelwa yintando yakho? Ndifuna ukukunika iingcebiso kule nto. Kakade-oku akusiyo umyalelo wokuthatha isenzo, kodwa isisombululo kwisingxaki.
Inye eyodwa: uyamthanda kwaye unike enye ingayi. Okokuqala, cwaka, ucinge ukuba ungenza ntoni. Ndiqinisekisa, elowo kuthile into ethile "igoba intonga", ingakumbi ngexesha eliqala ukucinga (ngephutha) ukuba intandazana iya kunyamezela yonke into, nantoni na enokwenzayo. Ngaba uyiqwalasele? Ngaba uyayiqonda into oyenzayo? Ukukhawuleza uqalise umsebenzi ekuziphatheni kwakho. Emva koko, thabatha ixesha lokutyelela i-beauty salon, yenza i-hairstyle entsha, ingxaki ayixazululwanga, kodwa iimoya iya kuphakamisa! Kwaye ndikucebisa ngokukhawuleza, njengokungathi ngengozi, kubonakala kulezo ndawo (cafe okanye disco), ngokuqhelekileyo ukuya kwintanda yakho. Kodwa ungazami ukuqala ukubuza isizathu sokuba akushiye. Mxelele kuye kwaye uhlale kwelinye itafile, ziphathe, ngokungathi akakukhathaleli nhlobo. Uyakwazi ukuthandana nabanye abantu, kwaye ukuba uya kukuthanda, ngoko uya kubuya kuwe.
Inketho ezimbini: intanda yakho iye yaya kwenye kwaye ibonakala imthanda. Kule meko, kufuneka ufumanise ukuba uyayithanda into yakho okanye yinto enye into yokuzonwabisa, kuba bonke abantu bayityhalela endalo kwaye banqobe abanye "amabhinqa" egazini labo. Ukuba akayithandi, unalo ithuba (jonga ukhetho olulodwa), kodwa ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene, ndiyakumcebisa ukuba uhambe uze ungayihlaziswa. Ndiyaqonda ukuba xa uthanda, ukhawuleza ukulibala ngokuziqhayisa nokuzihlonela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuba nexesha elithile, kwaye usenokubandezeleka, kodwa ixesha liphilisa. Andizange ndiyilwe le nto, sele isele sixhobo sexesha, ngoko ke xa waqhekeza nomthandi wakho, linda nje.
Inketho yesithathu: mhlawumbi ngokwenene, kwaye ungathandi. Emva kwakho konke, kwaye, mhlawumbi, cinga, mhlawumbi usuqhelisele ukuba uyasondela kuwe. Kule meko, akudingeki ukuba ucebise nantoni na. Wena ngokukhawuleza ukulibala kwaye ufumane isithandwa esitsha. Yiyiphi into eqinisekileyo yokuba yingqiqo kwaye ilungile kunaphambili, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, iya kukuthanda, nangona zonke iifom! Yaye inyaniso yokuba ugqityiwe kunye naye iya kunceda ukuqala ubomi obutsha nobonwabileyo.
Inketho yesine: uyamthanda, ufuna, ufuna ukubuyela, kodwa uyaziqhenya ngokuthotywa phambi kwakhe. Olu khetho lunokuba yintombazana enamandla kakhulu. Andikwazi ukucinga ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye kunzima ukuba ndihlale ngisesandleni kwaye ndingayifumani iifowuni zangaphambili kunye nezicelo zokuxolelwa. Nantsi kunzima ukucebisa, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ngoko yintoni oyenzayo ukususela ekuqaleni? Okokuqala, tshintsha into ebonakalayo yakho: isitayela somntu okanye isitala kwiingubo, okanye ungazizithenga nje ngeengubo ze-chic. Kuya kunceda ukuphazamisa kwingcamango yokuba ulixhoba. Zigxininise entlokweni yakho ukuba usebenze okanye ufunde. Kwaye unokuyicombulula iingxaki ezimbini ngexesha elifanayo, ukhupha ulwazi lwakho kwaye ufumane amabakala amahle (okanye ufumane ukwanda komsebenzi). Uya kubona ukuba ngubani umfazi onobuqili kwaye ohle uye walahleka, waphenduka kwaye uza kuza kuwe ngesicelo sokumxolela.
Kodwa ngokwenene, abafazi nabamantombazana abathandekayo, ukuba ushiywe okanye uhlukaniswe kunye nentanda yakho, ungacingi ukuba ubomi bakho buphelile apha. Yaye xa omnye uvaliwe uvaliwe, abanye bavulwa. Kuza kubakho uthando olungaphezulu komnye kwaye enye yazo iya kuphela kwiRejista. Futhi ungakulibali ukuba ehlabathini kuphela amadoda amabini anelungelo lokuba unokukhathazeka ngani ngenxa yabo - nguyise kunye nendodana!