Kodwa, ngelishwa, unako ukudibanisa ebomini bakho ebubudlelwaneni babantu abatsha, ukuba umntu uyamthanda. Ukuba intombazana iyathanda, kodwa umfana akayithandi, uya kufumana isizathu sokushiya iqabane lakhe. Kwaye ukuba umntu uyayithanda, kwaye intombazana ayithandi, kodwa isebenzisa nje ukuba izuze okanye izuze ngokwabo, ngoko kwimeko, ukungenelela kwamanye amaqela kuyimfuneko. Indlela yokukholisa umntu ukuba athathe intombi yakhe?
1.Cwangcisa ingqalelo yomntu kumnxeba wakhe womnxeba, indlela aphendula ngayo kwifowuni kwabanye abantu nendlela aphendula ngayo iifowuni zakhe. Ukuba uyaphendula ngokuvuya kwakhe kwaye ulungele ukuthetha ixesha elide, ukuyeka ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo - uthanda, akaphenduli okanye uphendule ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokubiza igama lakhe nonke - akenzi. Oku kuqinisekisa.
2.Ifowuni ingumthombo wolwazi olungakumbi kuphela, kodwa nolwazi olubaluleke kakhulu. Mcebisa umfana ukuba abone iifowuni ezingenayo neziphumayo, imilayezo ye-SMS, ezininzi ziza kucinywa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, nokuba intombi ithanda umfana. Inani lemiyalezo ye-SMS kunye neefowuni ezibhekiswe kwabanye abantu abaselula banokungqina ngokubanzi. Oku kuyaqinisekisa.
3. Unokukucebisa ukuba ufunde iphepha lakhe kwikhompyutheni, ohlala naye iqabane lakho. Ukuba isangqa soxhulumaniso lwakhe asona amantombazana kuphela, kodwa kunye namakhwenkwe, ungabuza le ntombazana malunga nokuba kuphi na xa idibana nalo okanye loo mfana, ukuba ubuhlobo bakhe kunye naye. Ubuhlobo okanye isihlobo somfundi sisinye into, kunye nokuziqhelanisa nge-Intanethi okanye kwenye indawo enye, ngelixa likhangele indlela ebusweni bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana aziphawula ngelizwi elimnene, umomotheka xa ufika kumthandi wakhe.
4. Ukukhuthaza umntu ukuba athathe inxaxheba kunye nentombi yakhe kubaluleke kakhulu xa uqinisekile ukuba uyamkhohlisa, udibana nomnye umfana. Khawucinge ngomfana othabatha imifanekiso yeqabane lakhe elithintekayo okanye elitshizayo enye inkwenkwe. Mxelele nini kwaye bahlala kuphi. Kwaye, nokuba bhetele, mlethe indoda kule ndawo, makenze ukuba aziqinisekise ngokwakhe ngokwakhe. Kule meko, ukukholisa umntu ukuba athathe inxaxheba akuyi kuba nzima.
5. Ingxabano ekholisayo yokuba umntu athathe inxaxheba kwintombazana iya kuba yinto yokungafuni ukulala naye (ikakhulukazi ukuba ahlala kwindawo ebizwa ngokuba ngumtshato "wabantu"), kubhekisela kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zentlungu, ukukhathala, ukucaphuka.
6. Xa intombazana isebenzisa umfana, kodwa engamthandi, zonke iincoko zakhe ziyancitshiswa zibe zizinto eziphathekayo kunye neemfuno eziphathekayo. Mamela lo mfana. Umfana kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba akukho ndawo yokomoya kwintlalontle yabo, kwaye ngaphandle kokuthandana ngokomoya akukho uthando. Ubudlelwane bentsha, esekelwe kuphela kwimiba yezinto eziphathekayo, kufuneka ihlukane.
7. Intombazana kunye nentombazana iya kuphepheka ukuba xa kulwalamano lwabo akukho zixhobo ezi-2 zokonwabelana kwentsapho: ulwalamano olusenyongweni (oku kufuneka kube ngowokuqala) kunye nokukhangwa kwezesondo. Ngokuphathelele ubutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo, bathandana abantu baya kubahlanganisa ndawonye ngexesha lobomi.
Ukunyusa umntu ukuba athathe inxaxheba kunye nentombi yakhe inokwenzeka kuphela xa unesiqiniseko sokuthi akukho buhlobo bokomoya phakathi kwabantu abancinci nonke, kwaye ngaphandle kocansi intsapho ayiyi kuba khona, kuba oku kuqala kwimizimba yomntu kunye nomfazi. Ukuba ukholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba intombazana ayithandi umfana kwaye udibana nomnye, ukumkhohlisa, ukubonakalisa lobu buqhetseba ngamaqiniso, kwaye kungekhona nje ngeefoto ezinokuthi zifakwe kwi-photoshop ye-intanethi, kwaye uqhubeke ukhuthaza umntu ukuba athathe intombi yakhe.