Iingcali zengqondo ziqaphele ukuba ukuhlukana nomntu othandekayo, kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuqhawula umtshato, uhlala uhlungu kakhulu. Ingakumbi kubasetyhini. Uzibeka kakubi ngenxa yokuba ungakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane, ngokukukhathaza ngomntwana wakho. Unokuphuma kule meko ngengozi yengqondo, okanye unako-ukukhula ngokomoya nokuqiniswa. Ungakulibala njani uthando lomdala kwaye usinde ukuhlukana, kuxhomekeke kuthi kuphela.
Zikhathalele
Isiluleko sokuqala kukugxila emsebenzini wakho. Ukuba usandul 'ukucinga ngokutshintsha uqeqesho, ke yithuba lokuyenza ngokukhawuleza. Njengoko kunqabile kunokwenzeka, cwangcisa "iiseshoni zokuzihlola". Phuma kwiingcinga ezinzima uze ukhohlwe malunga nomtshato ongeke uphumelele. Kodwa ukunciphisa iingcamango ezingathandekiyo ubuncinci - kakhulu ngaphakathi kwemikhosi. Cela uncedo kwiintsapho, nokuba ukuzingca akunjalo. Izihlobo kunye nabahlobo bokwenene bayazi ukuba ngeli xesha unzima kakhulu, ungafihla iimvakalelo zakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo hamba ukutyelela, kumema iindwendwe. Nangona ungazifuni ngokwenene, unxibelelwano olumnandi, olungabonakaliyo nolunomdla-ngokuqinisekileyo luyakwenza okulungileyo. Unakekele impilo, zombini ngokomoya nangokwenyama. Unenkxalabo ezininzi kunye neengxaki zengxaki azange zinike ithuba lokubhala ingqalelo? Ngoku lixesha! Phambili!
Shiya i nkcukacha
Imemori yokuthandana, usuku lokuqala, u kisses, uhambo oludibeneyo - yiloo nto abafazi abahlala behlala emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Injabulo abayikuyizisa, yindlela yokulahleka nokungabi nabulungisa. Ngaba iinkumbulo zolwalamano oludlulileyo lunceda ukulibala uthando oludala? Ngoko, ungavumeli ukuba iinkumbulo zigcine umphefumlo wakho. Shiya elidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Khumbula: ukuzondeka kokuziphatha akuzange kwenzeke nabani na into entle, ayizange ibe, kwaye ayizange ikhuphe umntu. Kwakhona uzame ukuzingca iingxaki kwaye ungabi nentshisekelo ebomini bomntu wendoda yangaphambili. Kanye kunye naso sonke, vala eli phepha lobomi bakho!
Qaphela i minqweno
Indlela ephilileyo yokuphulukisa intliziyo ephukileyo kunye nokuhlala umtshato kufuneka ingabikho kwizinto ezenzekayo kwaye uqhubeke uhlala. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ubomi bentsapho abushiyi ixesha lokwenza imisebenzi enomdla, ngoku ungayifumana. Zama ukuvavanya kakuhle imeko entsha. Cinga ngethuba lokuba unethuba kunye nethuba lokubona iiminqweno ezide ixesha ngaphandle kokucinga ngendlela umyeni owayengumyeni oya kuthi athathe ngayo ngoku. Ukusinda komtshato kuya kunceda ukukhululwa kwamaphupha akho - ulwandle olwandle, uhambo. Ukwahlukana kakubi, kodwa oku akusiyo isigwebo sokufa, kunoko, ivawutsha ebomini obutsha!
Yintoni ongayithetha kumntwana
Ukuphuka kwakho akuyiyo nje imizwa yakho. Kunzima ukuqhawula umtshato kunye nabantwana. Umsebenzi wabazali kukuchazela umntwana ngokuchanekileyo kutheni umama nobaba bengayi kuhlala kunye kunye nokuqhawula umtshato. Kungcono, ukuba wonke umntu uya kuthatha inxaxheba kule ngxoxo: wena, umyeni kunye nentwana. Qinisekisa umntwana ukuba uhambo lukabawo aluhambisani nokuziphatha komntwana (ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana bayamangalela ngokuphulaphula abazali), akukho nto kulwalamano lwakho luyakushintsha. Ekuqaleni, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba uyise utyelela ukutyelela umntwana.
Ubuhlobo obutsha
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, amaninzi amabhinqa awayekhawuleza ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha. Bayesaba ukuphindaphinda imeko yokwahlukana. Kanti akufanele uphephe uluntu. Nantoni na into ongayithethayo, sivakalelwa kukuba sisetyhini nje sasijikelezwe ngabantu. Ungalibali ukujonga ngapha nangapha-uthando lunokungalindelekanga!
Qaphela ukuqhawula umtshato njengesiqalo sobomi obutsha, oya kuvuyisa ngokwenene! Ubuncinane kulungele ukuqonda imeko enzima, ukuba uzimisele ukuze ubalekele ngothando oludala kunye nomtshato. Ukuphazamiseka nokuxinezeleka akuyi kukunceda nangayiphi indlela. Kodwa inkolelo yokuba yonke into iya kuphucula kwaye ubomi buya kuba bhetele, kuya kunceda ukuphakama elinye inqanaba eliphezulu.