Fumana umntu ongayi kuba nomona umntu, mhlawumbi, akunakwenzeka. Ukuvuka ekuseni kusasa, sifuna ukuba kwindawo yabantu abangenayo imfuneko yokuya emsebenzini, kwaye baphoqeleke ukuba "bayeke" - ukuba babe bahlala eofisini ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku. Ukwenza imvume, siyakhumbula umhlobo onobumba obuvela kwimvelo, kwaye emva kokuqeqeshwa kanzima kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, sicinga ngomnye, onokuhlala esihlalweni semini yonke, adle iiswidi kwaye angathathi amanoni, njalo njalo.
Umona uvame ukubizwa ngokuba yimvakalelo embi. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zithi oku kuyiyo kuphela xa ibonakala ngokoqobo ngomzuzu, umzekelo, ekuboneni izicathulo ezibiza kakhulu kumhlobo. Into efana - "kwaye ndiya kuba njalo, kodwa akukho mali, kakuhle, ilungile." Kwaye ukuba sihlala sicinga ngale mhlobo, izicathulo zakhe, iimpahla kunye nabazithembekileyo abathembekileyo, umona uba yimeko yokumangalisa, oko kukuthi, ukuvakalelwa. Kwaye, njengoko izazi zenzululwazi zaseJapan ezivela kwiSizwe seSizwe seRadioology zifumene, kubonakala ngathi intlungu. Kubonakala ukuba impendulo yengqondo ngexesha lakhe lidlule phambi kwe-cingulate gyrus - ummandla omnye wengqondo idlala indima ephambili ekunyangeni intlungu.
Izizathu ezingenangqiqo esizibandezelayo umona azikho nto kodwa intiyo ngokwazo, mhlawumbi isigidimi. Kodwa isiseko kubo sifanayo - xa uthelekisa nabanye, i-akhawunti ayiyi kuvela kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwezona zinto ziyinqobo zoluvo.
Abamnyama nabamhlophe
Kungekudala, uMas wawayeka abahlobo kwisikhululo-moya - bahamba baya eIndiya kwiiveki ezimbini. Kwaye wayengekho eholide kwiinyanga ezintandathu! Ngokwenene, uMasha wayevuya ngabo. Kodwa kungekhona kuphela. Ngoko ke, ndawaxelela ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ndamona umona omhlophe. Yaye umhlobo wam, ebambe ithikithi elonwabileyo elwandle, wathi: "Kodwa unayo imoto enjalo!" Kodwa u-Masha wayazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umhlobo wakhe uyavuya ukuthenga yakhe iphupha lemoto. Ngelinye igama, babenomona kwaye bahlakazeka, baneliseke omnye nomnye. Kuba kulo mzekelo ibinzana elithi "umona omhlophe" lisetyenziswe njengegama elifanayo elithi "ukunyaniseka kwabanye. Ayikho into ephambili, kodwa ngesiRashiya kwenzeka. Kodwa iingcali, ukuthetha ngesahlulo sesi sinzo esichukumisayo sibe ngumona omhlophe nomnyama, kuchaza ukuba ukwahlukana kube yakhayo kwaye inonakalisa. Iyokuqala ishukunyiswa ngezinto ezincedo, okwesibini - inzondo nokungahambi.
Umona omhlophe unomona ngomxube weengqondo. Umntu ubuncinci uhlalutya ukuba kunengqondo ukuxosha, kodwa kungabikho bani. Kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba uthathe i-fancy kwimpumelelo yomnye umntu, sele sele esenza izicwangciso, yintoni kanye ekufuneka ayenze ukuze afumane iziphumo ezifanayo eziphezulu.
Kwaye umona omnyama awuyakhayo kwaye uyonakalisa, kuba ayinakukukhuthaza ukuba wenze into ngokwakho. Kutheni, ukuba ngubani ophumelele konke oku kufana nam, kwaye wawela nje entloko phezu kwezithende?
Ukongezelela, uyaqiniseka ukuba umona omnyama awonakalisi umntu omnye kuphela, kodwa uluntu lonke luphela. Emva koko, umona, kungekhona ukuba ngaphandle kwenzondo, abaninzi bahlupheka. Khawucinge nje, omnye umntu unomona ngomnye, ukuba unento ethile, kwaye waqala ukususa kuye. Baye balwa kunye nobushushu bemfazwe, into ephawulekayo yachithwa okanye yaphulwa. Ngoku akukho mntu okanye omnye unanto. Kwaye ukuba umntu wesibini ebone into endiyithandayo ekuqaleni, ndiza kugqiba ekubeni "ndihambe kwaye ndifumane enye okanye ingcono", ekugqibeleni, izinto ezininzi ezintle ziza kubonakala endaweni enye, kunye ne-incentive eyongezelelweyo yokusebenzela ukubonisa, ukubonisa imisebenzi eyakhayo. Yintoni, ngokuphambene noko, inzuzo yoluntu.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho uluvo lokuba ukrakra okwakhayo kunobungozi: ukuba isetyenziswe ngokungathandekiyo, kunokubangela ukuba uzive ungaphantsi okanye kukuthintele ekufezeni into efunekayo. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe nale ngqiqo kwimida efanelekileyo. Yinto enjengendlala - emva kwayo yonke into, ukuba umntu akayi kuziva, uyayeka ukutya kwaye akayi kuhlala ixesha elide. Nangona ukondla ngokweqile kuza kuqala ukuxhatshazwa ngokutya. Abantu abadala bachaza ukuba ngokuzifanisa nabanye, sibona ukusilela kwethu ngokucacileyo, kwaye oku kusinika umgudu wokuzama ukuphucula. Futhi ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle komona, umntu uphenduka abe ngumdla, ngokuyinhloko kuye, isidalwa. Kodwa uyavuma ukuba nangona esamnceda kumsebenzi wakhe, sele sele ekhohliwe ngokuvakalelwa ngumsebenzi wakhe.
Kwaye omnye umhlobo wam unengxaki. Unomona ngamanqaku amancinci, abafazi ababuthathaka, ngoko yonke imihla uya ejimini waza wazama zonke izidlo ngokwakhe. Kodwa umgaqo-siseko awuvumeli ukuba uzuze umfanekiso owufunayo. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, intombazana enhle kwaye ilula kakhulu ihlale ihlambalaza, ngoko ubuvila, ngokobuqili - idla amaqabunga amathathu eeklabishi esikhundleni seebini kwaye iyazijonga ngokuba ngumanqatha.
Qonda kwaye ulungelelanise
Nangona kunjalo, yinto evelayo-uhlobo lwensimbi ebonisa ukuba into ethile ebomini bakho okanye kuwe ayikho okanye akunjalo. Oku, ngokwenene, njengentlungu: ukuba sasingazange sikuve, asikwazanga ukuqala ukuphatha izifo ngexesha. Ngoko kukufanele ukufunda ukuyilawula. Okokuqala, kufuneka ukwazi ukuqonda xa unomona. Emva kwayo yonke into, kaninzi singazi kakuhle okanye senze ngamabomu, ukuze singazilimazi thina bathandekayo kwakhona kwakhona, sidibanisa nesimo sengqondo esilungileyo kumntu esicinga ukuba uphumelele, okanye siyamkela ngenxa yokunyeliswa - ndithi, andiyikhwele, kodwa kutheni, uphumelele, uzama ukundibonisa ukuba ndibi kakhulu?
Iingcali zibeka uluhlu lweempawu zokuzikhwele:
- Uyakhathazeka ukuphulaphula iindaba ezivuyayo ze-interlocutor;
- uphawula imvakalelo, kukho umnqweno wokugqiba intlanganiso ngokukhawuleza;
- kukho ukuxolisa.
Andiqinisekanga? Emva koko zibuze: ngaba kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba ngomso umntu ofanayo walahlekelwa yonke loo mihlali ayenayo ngoku? Ukuba ewe (ubuncinci bancinane), unomona. Kwaye kuncedo ngakumbi ukuvuma oku. Ukuzenzekela nge-Autotraining kunceda ukubonisa ukujonga isimo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kwihlabathi lonke. Emva koko sifuna ukuhlalutya: yintoni kanye esiyikhoyo? Mhlawumbi, akunjalo ukuba umntu uphakanyiswe ngenxa yakho, kodwa ukuba awuzange ugqibe ulwimi oluthile olufunekayo?
Ukuziqonda, unokwenza ngokukhuselekileyo isicwangciso senzoko ukufezekisa into efunekayo kwaye ibalulekile. Yenza i-hairstyle entsha, utshintshe i-wardrobe, ubhalisele inkambo yesiNgesi, uqeshe indlu yakho kwaye ushiye iminyaka e-Bali. Okanye ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa ukuba ngokwenene ulungile, kwaye ujabulele ubomi bakho ngaphandle kokujonga emva kwabanye.