Ngokuqhelekileyo, kutshanje kukho ukwahlukanisa. Iimvakalelo zabantu ziyadlula ngaphandle kokulandelelana kwaye abafuni ukuhlala kunye kunye. Ewe, ukuba abafazi bengavumelani nxamnye kwaye abavumelani nenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ibe ngukuhlushwa kakubi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqhawula umtshato, oku kukunyamezela nawuphi na umfazi. Uziva udandathekile, ohlala ixesha elide kakhulu.
Ukuphila isahlukaniso sinakho nawuphi na umfazi. Kwaye siya kukubonisa indlela.
1. Indlela efanelekileyo yokusindiswa komtshato, ayiyi kukhangela imeko kwaye iqhubeke iphila kwakhona. Emva kwakho konke, ubomi bentsapho abuzange kukushiye ixesha lokuya kwindawo yokudlala, izinto ozithandayo. Ukuphucula imeko yakho yangoku kwaye uqale ukucinga ukuba unamathuba amaninzi kunanini ngaphambili. Qalisa ubomi obuzimeleyo kwaye wenze oko ukude uphuphayo. Kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni ukuphazamisa.
2. Ukuba unesizungu, kwaye uhlala ucinga ngobomi bentsapho, qala ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo bakho. Okanye unokufumana abahlobo abatsha onokuphazamisa zakho iingcamango. Phuma uhambe, uye kuthengwa, uthenge izinto ezintsha kwaye ungazibukeli. Emva kwakho konke, awunayo le ixesha elide. Funda ukuqonda nokuzithanda.
3. Ungaze uhlale wedwa ekhaya. Kumele ube nobomi obusebenzayo, obusebenzayo. Ungavumeli uvakalelo lwenene lube phezu kwakho.
4. Fumana isilwanyana. Ngaloo ndlela, unako ukunika yonke inkathalo yakho kwisilwanyana sakho esithandayo. Yaye uya kukwazi ukuba awodwa, kwaye umntu ulindele ekhaya.
5. Zama ukuhamba ngokupheleleyo nomsebenzi.
6. Qonda izizathu zokuba ulwalamano lwakho luphelile kwaye ungayitshintsha njani indlela oziphatha ngayo ebomini bakho.
7. Phatha iingcinga zakho kwikamva elihle. Xa uqala ukuqaphela iingcinga ezimbi, khawuleza uqale ukuphupha ngekamva elihle. Xa ukongeza kwakho, amathuba okuba uya kuba nayo yonke into iya kuba njalo.
8. Hamba uyeke umntu wakho othandekayo kwaye uqonde ukuba ikusasa lakho lixhomekeke kuwe kuphela, kodwa kungekhona kumntu.
Sitshintsha ubomi bakho bube ngcono kwaye ujabule kwakhona. Siyathemba abafazi abathandekayo, ukuba sincedile ubuncinci, ncedisa ukujamelana nale ngxaki, indlela yokusindisa umtshato wakho.