Yakha zonke iintsapho ezingonwabanga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba isibini sinemvume yokuqhawula umtshato, akukho bantwana kwaye akukho zibango zomhlaba, ngoko umtshato uphuhliswa kwiSebe le-RAGS.
Kodwa amagqwetha ayacetyiswa nakwiimeko zokuvuma ukuba amaqela ahlukane nomtshato, ukuze esinye isiqingatha singenakuguqula amabango abo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ungayenza njani inxaxheba? Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqhawula umtshato kuya kwahlukana ukuba ube nokuthula kunye nokuphikisana.
Enyanisweni, kwimeko enjalo, inkundla iqinisekisa kuphela kwaye iqulunqa inyaniso yokuchithwa komtshato. Le nguqulo yoqhawulo-mtshato ihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye "ayiyigazi".
Kwinkoliso eninzi, omnye wabafazi ubhenela inkundla, kwaye omnye uchasene nomtshato. Kule meko, inkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato iyancitshiswa ubuncinane ngeenyanga ezintathu, kuba inkundla inika "ithuba lokuxolelana". Okokuqala, sikucebisa ukuba ufune uncedo lommeli okanye ubuncinane ufumane iingcebiso zomthetho. Kungcono ukuba ingxelo yebango ihlanganiswe ngumbono. Kwaye umqalisi womtshato kufuneka afake ifayile. Umgwebo kufuneka ucacise: indawo kunye nexesha lokubhalisa umtshato, ubukho kunye nenani labantwana abaqhelekileyo kunye nenkcazo yobudala kwaye, ngokwenene, isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato (ukuhlukana, ukungabikho kobudlelwane bomtshato, njl.).
Ukuhlanganiswa kunye nokusayina ibango lokuqhawula umtshato kuthethwa enkundleni kwindawo yokuhlala kuyo omnye womtshato. Sidibanisa kuye isatifiketi somtshato, isatifikethi sokuzalwa somntwana kunye nesitifiketi esivela kwindawo yokuhlala, kunye nekopi yepaspoti. Ukufaka isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato, unako ukufaka isicelo se-alimony ngexesha elifanayo-kule ngxaki uya kufuneka kwakhona isitifiketi sokuhlala komntwana. Emva koko kufuneka uhlawule umrhumo welizwe kunye neendleko zolwazi kunye nenkxaso yobuchwepheshe kwimeko kwaye unamathisele kwibango iirisithi yentlawulo.
Ngoku ukuba zonke iifom zokuqhawula umtshato ziqokelelwe, zingeniswa kwi-court court kwaye zilinde inyanga kunye nesiqingatha se-ajenda, esiza kubizela zombini enkundleni. Kubalulekile ukuba i-ajenda yawela ezandleni zomlingane. Ukuba uhlala ngokwahlukileyo, fumana idilesi apho uhlala khona umyeni wakho ngoku. Ukuba ukungaziwa kweli qabane akungaziwa, ibango lifakwe kwidilesi yokuhlala kwakhe kokugqibela okanye kwindawo yakhe yepropati.
Ukuziphatha kwakho enkundleni kuya kuxhomekeka kuninzi. Musa ukucinga ukuba ukhala ngakumbi enkundleni okanye ubonise inkohlakalo, ngokuthe ngempumelelo uzahlukana kwaye uhlulwe ipropati. Ijaji isebenza ngamaqiniso angenanto, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho ezigqithiseleyo zinokulimaza kuphela. Unelungelo lokubajonga njengenzame "yokunyanzela" enkundleni. Ewe, umfazi onqabileyo unokuhlala ezolile xa kubakho isigqibo sokuba abantwana bakhe okanye igumbi ligqitywe. Kodwa ke, ukuba uqhawulo mtshato luyinkimbinkimbi, kwaye uloyiko ukuba ungayinyamezeli iimvakalelo, ngoko ngaphandle kokuncediswa kwegqwetha ongenakwenza.
Indlela yokusebenza xa indoda ingabonakali kwindlebe? INkundla inokuthi imisele ukuqwalaselwa kwimeko yakho ukuba indoda ayizange ifumane i-shenkethi okanye ixelele inkundla isizathu esivakalayo sokungaphumeleli kwayo. Ukuba ufumene isaziso, kodwa akazange abonakalise kwaye akazange abhengeze izizathu zokungabikho kwakhe, inkundla inelungelo lokuqwalasela ityala ngaphandle kwakhe.
Isivumelwano somtshato
Ubulumko baseHollywood uthi: "Kufuneka ube ngumkhwenkwe ukutshata ngaphandle kwesivumelwano somtshato." Ngokuqinisekileyo, thina asikho eHollywood, kodwa kweli lizwe lethu lamagqwetha anika iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato ukugqiba isivumelwano somtshato. Ukunokwenzeka kokulwa komtshato kuya kuncitshiswa kumncinci. Lo luhlobo lwesivumelwano malunga nokuhlulwa kwepropati. Amagosa ancoma uhlobo loxwebhu, apho unokwenza khona ngokwahlukileyo urhulumente wobunini kunye nobude bomtshato, kwaye xa kwenzeka umtshato. Ukuba, umzekelo, umfazi akazange asebenze ngexesha lomtshato, kodwa wayenomsebenzi wokugcina indlu, emva koko emva kokuqhawula umtshato, unokuzifumana ephazamisayo. Ukuze ugweme oku, ungabandakanya kwisivumelwano esinjalo: "Xa kwenzeka umtshato, le propati elandelayo idlula ebunini bomfazi: indlu, izixhobo zokusebenza, ubucwebe."