Ibhinqa elinomntwana emva komtshato

Kuze kube kutshanje, umfazi onomntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato uqeshise uvelwano novelwano kwiindawo zoluntu, kuba ufumene iimeko zomama ongenamzali kwaye wathatha ukukhuliswa komntwana wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuya kutsho, imeko eyingcambu ishintshile kwaye ithola umbala ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ngoku ibhinqa elilodwa likhula umntwana, akunakwenzeka kakhulu ukubonakala emehlweni abo njengelinye ixhoba. Uyabonakala ngokugqithiseleyo njengomntu ozimeleyo kunye ozimeleyo, ukuba wenza isigqibo esinzima kwaye akazange aphelelwe yintliziyo emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abafazi abaye baba ngamaxhoba kule meko kwaye baphoqeleka ukuba bahlale nomntwana ngaphandle kobawo, baphonsa ngokupheleleyo izandla zabo. Emva koko, umfazi uqala ukucinga ukuba umntwana akanakuze akhule, kwaye ebomini bakhe bomi "umoya wenguqu" awusoze wavuthela.

I-Psychological Attect

Abameli bezesondo ezinamandla ngezinye iinkhathi bakhuthaza ukuhamba kwabo kwintsapho, apho umntwana engakulungele ukukhulisa umntwana, kunye nokungafuni ukushiya umntwana kunye naye emva kokuqhawula umtshato - ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakhe. Yileyo ndlela abafazi abanomntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato bahlala omnye komntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima kakhulu kubafazi ukuza kuhambisana nale meko, kuba unomfanekiso ocacileyo kwi-subconscious ukuba indoda yintloko yentsapho, uyise kunye nomcebisi, kwaye lona wesifazane unesandla sakhe sokunene ekukhuliseni umntwana. Kodwa lo mfanekiso uxoxwa kakhulu, nangona kunjalo ukuba limele intsapho epheleleyo apho uyise womntwana ukhona, naye uyindoda. Lona idyll elula, xa umntwana ejikelezwe ngononophelo kunye nomsondezo kumabini omabini, bobabini uyise nonina. Kungenxa yesi sizathu, umfazi, ukuqhawula umyeni wakhe, utyhafile kakhulu, kwaye oko kumchaphazela umntwana.

Ukungabi nantanda

Ukungahlawulisi zonke iingxaki eziwa kwiqashiso lomfazi, kufuneka azungeze umntwana ngokunyamekela aze afudumele ngokuphindaphindiweyo, athathe indawo emfanekisweni wakhe, kungekhona nje umama onothando, kodwa nobawo onothando. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, intandane ishicilela into engalunganga kumntwana. Ngokukodwa xa umtshato uqhawule umzali xa umntwana esele eqonda ngokucacileyo into eyenzeka rhoqo, emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Lo mfazi uqala ukuvakalisa ukuba bonke abantu babi kwaye akukho nto ilungileyo kubo kubalulekile ukulinda. Ukuba umntwana uyinkwenkwe, kunzima kakhulu ukunyamezela konke oku, kuba bathetha ngoyise. Ukongezelela, umntwana unokuhlakulela unembeza malunga nokuba unommeli wesini esomeleleyo. Konke oku kunokuchaphazela ukuzithembela komntwana onokufumana amanqaku wesibini kwimpawu zakhe. Uba akayikujikeleza, nantsi umzekelo wokubonakalisa umgaqo wesilisa awukho.

Umfanekiso ombi

Ukuba ibhinqa lifuna ukukhulisa ububini bokwenene bonyana, kufuneka ukuba ayeke ukuthetha kakubi ngamanye amadoda nangakumbi malunga noyise. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, umntwana uya kuhlakulela impendulo yokuzikhusela. Kwaye ikamva liya kukhanyela ixabiso leentsapho.

Ukukhulisa intombi

Nangona intombi ihlala imthanda unina ngakumbi kwaye ayifuni ukuvelisa iimpawu zomntu, oku akuthethi ukuba kulula ukukhuphula intombi. Iimbono malunga nentsimi eyahlukileyo yentombazana yenziwa ngokusekelwe kwintsebenziswano kunye noyise. Nangona ukhetho lwexesha elizayo lukhe lusekelwe kumfanekiso kayise. Ngoko ke, ukumisa intombazana ngokumelene nopapa okanye ukubenqabela ukuba babone omnye umbono obi.

Umfazi onesizungu onomntwana

Ubomi bomfazi emva kokuqhawula umtshato, oshiywe yodwa nomntwana ezandleni zakhe, unokuqhubeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ibhinqa liyakwazi ukugxininisa onke amandla akhe ekukhuliseni umntwana kwaye iphile kuphela. Kodwa ingqalelo enzulu kakhulu inokuba nayo "imingxuma" yayo, kuba umntwana angakhula ngokuzingca kwaye aphangwe. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuba umfazi, emva kokutshatyalaliswa komtshato, ukuba angabikho kwinqanaba leengqondo kunye neengcali kunye nokufuna ukutshintsha indawo yakhe kunye nomntwana wakhe. Ulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakho, uzama ukufezekisa impumelelo kumsebenzi wakho kwaye uzame kwiimpawu zobuntu akufanelekanga, kuba kwanokuba umfazi oqhawule umntwana unokufumana uvuyo!