Ukuthetha
Ngoko, indlela yokusebenza kwimeko enzima kangaka? Okokuqala, ukuba kunokwenzeka, qiniseka ukuba uzama ukumhlangabeza lo mntu. Yilungiselele ukuba unokuva izinto ezininzi ezingathandeki ukusuka kwicala lakho. Musa ukuthukuthela nokucaphukisa, ngokuba umntu othandayo, kwaye xa bakho abathandekayo beyasilimaza, umsindo onjalo uqondakala kwaye ulungile.
Xa ufika kwiintlanganiso, akufanele uchithe ixesha. Ngaphandle koko uya kuvelisa umntu, uya kuqala ukungathandabuzeki kwaye ekugqibeleni, ngaphandle kokuxelela nto, uya kubuya ekhaya kwaye uqhubeke ulala. Ngako oko, qalisa ngokukhawuleza incoko kunye neqiniso lokuba wawa ngothando, uchaza konke, ucele ukuxolelwa kwaye ushiye. Khumbula ukuba iimpendulo ziyakwazi ukuhluka: kukhwaza "ndiya kukubulala" ukuguqa nokucela ukuba ungashiyi. Nantoni na eyenzekayo, musa ukutshintsha isigqibo sakho ukuba uyazi ukuba ithathwe ngokuzithandela. Usizi lwakho luya kubenza lube lubi kuwe nakwaye.
Akhankanywa ngoonobumba
Ukuba akunakwenzeka ukudibana, umzekelo, umntu oselula, uze uzame ukuthetha naye nge-Skype kwifowuni. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakuthola kulula ukubhala malunga noko kwenzekayo, kodwa akubona bonke baqondana ngokuchanekileyo, bachaza ngokucacileyo amagama ka-Iphraz. Ngoko ke, zama ukuthetha ngomntu. Ungalokothi uzame ukuhlambalaza umntu, umcaphukise, ucinge ukuba kuya kuba lula kuye. Ngaphezu koko, ngaphandle kokushiya yedwa, ubeka iimeko ezinzima kwaye wandisa inkohlakalo kuyo yonke into yesini. Ngoko ke, uthi yonke into ifana. Ukuba umntu ufuna ukuqhuba ingxoxo eyakhayo, musa ukuphosa ngokukhawuleza ifowuni emva kokumxelela ukuba iimvakalelo zidlulile. Mhlawumbi kufuneka uxoxe ngeengxaki ezithile zengxaki eziza kuvela ngoku. Ukuba kunjalo, ke kungcono ukuthetha ngezinto zonke kanye, kunokuba wenze umntu abuyele, uzikhathaze ngokuthetha nawe.
Ukuba ushiya umntu ode kude nawe, xa ehlala endlwini yakhe - ngokukhawuleza ukuqoqa izinto uze ushiye. Ngokukodwa xa ubonakala i-arc. Inyaniso kukuba ayibuhlungu gqitha ukufumanisa into engathandekiyo, ukuba uva ntoni malunga nelokuba umthandi wangaphambili usebenzisa ipropati yakhe, aze aqhube amanye amadoda aze acinge ukuba kuluhlu lwezinto. Ngaphandle koko, umfazi oziqhenyayo akaze avumele ukuba asebenzise umntu owamshiya ngokwakhe. Le yinto enamandla kakhulu kwaye ingathembekanga ngokumelene naye kunye nokuba yintoni ephakathi kwakho ngaphambili. Kwiimeko ezinzima, ukuba ithuba linikezelwe kwaye oku kuyimfuneko, unako konke ukuguqulela kwintsebenziswano yezoshishino, umzekelo, ukuhlawula irente. Ngokuqhelekileyo, yenza njalo ukuba ungenayo into enetyala kwaye loo mntu akanakukusola ngelungelo lokumshiya, kodwa uqhubeke usebenzisa ububele bakhe.
Ukuba ufumene malunga nayo yonke into ngokwakhe
Kukho imeko xa ufumanisa ukuba uyeke ukuthanda umfana / okanye ufumene omnye ngaphambili kunokuba unqume ukumxelela. Indlela yokwenza ntoni kulo mzekelo? Okokuqala, amaninzi amantombazana aqala ukuthatha izikhundla zokuzivikela aze amsole ngokumamela umntu, egxeka abahlobo bakhe kunye nabaqhelana nabo ukuba bangenzi izinto, kwaye njalo njalo. Ungalokothi wenze ngendlela enjalo. Umele uxanduva. Akunjalo ukuba uthando luhambile, luyakwenzeka kunoma ubani. Umele uxanduva lokumkhohlisa, kwaye wafunda ngezinto ezivela kwabanye. Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukuvuma impazamo yakho. Awudingi ukumemeza ukuba lobu buhlobo bakho kuphela kwaye akukho mntu unelungelo lokuzihlangabeza. Usuke unalo ubudlelwane. Ewe, kwaye uzicinge wena, ukuba uhlala kwindawo yakhe okanye kwindawo yabahlobo bakhe, ngaba unokuthula okanye ungamkeli ulwazi lolu hlobo? Skoreevsego hayi, kuba xa umntu ecaphukisa umntu osondele kuthi, sihlala sizama ukuncedisa, singaqwalasela indlela elungileyo ngayo.
Ngoko ke, xa imeko enjalo ivela, musa ukumelana nobuxoki, ukuxoka nokuxoka. Emva kwakho konke, usadinga ukuyeka, kwaye ngokuziphatha okunjalo uya kunciphisa ukuthembela kwakhe kubahlobo kwaye wenze ukuba ahlupheke ixesha elide. Ngoko-ke, qaphela isono sakho, phulaphula yonke into ayakuyithetha, nokuba uziva ungathandeki kwaye ushilo.
Mhlawumbi, enye into ingenziwa kuphela kuloo meko, xa uyayazi ukuba indoda ayinakulinganisekanga kwaye inokukwenza into engalungile kuwe. Kulo mzekelo, mxelise ngenyameko ukuba awuyikwesaba, ukuba uvumelekile ukuvuma, kodwa awuyi kuphila ngenxa yokwesaba kwakhe kwaye ulindele ukuphindisela kuye xa ebuya, kuba unabo abanokukhusela. Kodwa ukutsho oku unelungelo kuphela kuloo meko, xa eziphatha ngokungafanelekanga, kwaye uyazi ukuba umntu ulungele ukwenzela izenzo ezinokubangela ukulimala ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ngaphandle koko, kungcono ukuthula.
Ikhefu kunye nothando olubonakalayo
Kwaye ukhetho lokugcina, olufanelekile ukuthetha ngalo, luphulo lweentsebenziswano, oluye luphela. Kwenzeka ukuba sijwayelene nabantu ekunxibelelaneni nabantu, bathethe nabo kwaye sicinga ukuba siyabathanda. Ngaloo ndlela, umnxibelelwano naye ubonisa iimvakalelo kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, ixesha lidlulayo kwaye kuyacaca ukuba uthando oluyintsikelelo luyinto engafanelekanga yokuba siyidala, kwaye iyazityhalela. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, yichaza nje umntu onomdla wokuthetha naye, kodwa unayo imizwa ejulile. Khumbula ukuba imimiselo edibeneyo kunye neentetho ezinentliziyo ayithethi nantoni na. Akunakunyanzelekile lo mntu kwaye akudingeki ukuba ube neentlungu.
Ukuba umntu uphendule kwiingcaciso zakho ngokungenakufaneleka, usongela kwaye uphukise - uyithumele ngokukhuselekileyo kuluhlu olumnyama. Kuya kuba njengomntwana osemtsha okanye umntu ocacileyo unengxaki yengqondo. Ngabantu abanjalo kungcono ukuba ungaqhagamshelani nonke, ngaphandle koko le nto ifumaneke nemiphumo emibi kuwe.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuba unqumle ukuhlukana nobudlelwane bomntu osengumgama, uthembeke naye. Emva kwakho konke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ude nawe okanye usondele, umfana unelungelo elipheleleyo lokukwazi inyaniso kwaye ufunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho. Ngoko ke, ungalokothi uchithe ixesha kwaye uzivumele ukuzivuma ngokwakho, ukuze ungaguquli yonke into ibe yindawo engafanelekanga kwaye unganiki ithemba elingenanto.