Ukukhawuleza ufumane abantu kwaye ube nencoko engathandabuzekiyo, kufuneka ukwazi imithetho yokunxibelelana olufanelekileyo xa uthetha. Ukwazi ezi zinto ziza kwenza ubomi bube lula kwaye ulahleke iimeko ezikhohlakeleyo.
Kuchaneka njani ukuwazisa abantu?
Xa udibana nabantu kuyisiko ukuzisa abanye. Ibinzana elithi "Makhe ndikuxelele ..." kuya kunceda kule nto. Emva koko, igama linikwe kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, uhlobo lwalo msebenzi. Xa umntu ejoyina inkampani edibeneyo, igama lakhe lithethwa. Bonke abanye kufuneka bazise.
Kukho umyalelo wokuqhelana nabo: ookuqala ngabo bancinci kwiminyaka okanye isikhundla, ababonisa ngale ndlela ngokuthi "abaphezulu". Ukuba ulibala amagama abantu obamelayo, banike isinyathelo kwizandla zabo: "Hlangana, nceda ...".
Ngendlela, umntu kufuneka avuke xa edibana, ukuba uhleli. Ibhinqa kufuneka lenze okufanayo xa ikwaziswa kumntu oneminyaka ehloniphekileyo okanye ephezulu.
"Wena" okanye "Wena"?
Ukuxazulula ingxaki ye "wena" okanye "nawe" iya kunceda nemigaqo yokuziphatha kakuhle. "Wena" uphendululwa kwintsapho nakwimozulu engaqhelekanga kubahlobo, oogxa, abahlobo, abantwana.
Kwi "idilesi" kubantu abangaqhelekanga okanye abangaqhelekanga, kunye nabantu abadala. Kwiimeko ezisemthethweni, kufuneka ubize abantu abaziwayo "Wena". "Wena" kufuneka uqhagamshelane nomlobi-ndlebe kumntu ngexesha lo dliwano-ndlebe, ugqirha ukuya kwizigulane, utitshala ukuya kubafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo nesiphakathi. Ukuchonga indlela yokuqhagamshelana nabasebenzi, ukukhokelwa yimigaqo esekelwe kwikomiti.
Utshintsho oluvela "Wena" ukuya "Wena" lunokubonakala lubuhlungu. Kodwa apha kukho imigaqo: ukuthetha "nawe" kufuneka unikele umphathi kumqeshwa wakhe, okanye umncinci omncinci. Ukunxibelelana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, umqambi wokunxibelelana ngokungekho mthethweni ngokuqhelekileyo uyindoda. Kodwa namhlanje baqonda imeko echaseneyo. Nangona kunjalo, ilungelo "lokuvumela" olo tshintsho lusemfazi.
Ukuba uhlukaniswe nomntu ngokwahlukileyo omkhulu kwiminyaka okanye kwimeko yezenhlalakahle, utshintsho ku "wena" alwamkelekanga.
Ziziphi iindandatho ze- razgov arivat?
Thetha ngemozulu isasebenza kubantu abangaqhelekanga omnye komnye. Unokuxoxa ngezihloko ezingathathi hlangothi - iincwadi, iifilimu, ukuhamba okanye izilwanyana. Zama ukuphepha ukuthetha ngezopolitiko, inkolo kunye nesimo sengqondo.
Umqondiso omhle awuyi kuxoxwa ngendlela engafanelekanga kwinqanaba lombutho wesiganeko, izitya kunye neziphuzo ezisebenzayo, kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu. Kwakhona, ungathinti iingxaki zomntu.
Ungabonisi ukuba incoko iyakukhathaza: akufanelekanga ukujonga iwashi, vula izinto okanye ukhangele ngenye indlela ngexesha lokunxibelelana.
Indlela yokunxibelelana ngefowuni?
Kukho nemigaqo yokuthetha ngefowuni. Akuvunyelwanga ukwenza iifowuni kude kube ngo-8 ekuseni nangemuva kwe-10 ntambama. Incoko kufuneka iqale ngamagama athi "Sawubona", "Mamela", "Ewe." Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuzizisa. Musa ukulibazisa incoko, kuba ngale ndlela uthabatha ixesha kumntu.
Ukuba incoko iphazamiseka ngephutha, umqambi wefowuni uyaphinda abuyele. Umntu ofanayo kufuneka agqibe ingxoxo yomnxeba. Kodwa, ukuba ngokukhawuleza kukho izinto eziphuthumayo, unokuyeka incoko, ngokubhekiselele kwingcamango ecacileyo.
Ukuba wenza iphutha ngenani, musa ukuba nomdla kulo: "Ndaphi na ukuphela?" Kuya kulungele ukubuza: "Le yile nombolo (fowuna enye oyifunayo)?".