Abamnyama nabamhlophe
Khumbula ukuba wawuphelile ixesha lomntu onomona. Ziziphi iimvakalelo? Kuvuyisa ukubiza ngokuba nzima. Oku akumangalisiyo: sinomona kuphela oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Ukubona nokuqonda ukuba umntu unalo "olubalulekileyo" (ifowuni ebiza kakhulu, eyona nto ibalulekileyo, umsebenzi omuhle), kwaye wena-akunjalo, akunjalo, akunakwenzeka. Umona uyona mvakalelo yendalo, kwaye akudingeki ube neentloni. Ngelo xesha, amava amaninzi kubonakaliso obalulekileyo kubona. Kuthiwani ngomona omhlophe? Asifuni ukudukisa, kodwa, ngokucacileyo, akunjalo nje. Intombi yayinokuphumla okukhulu, kwaye xa ukhangela iifoto, uthi: "Mkhulu! Ndiba nomona ngomona omhlophe! "" Kuthetha ukuthini oku? " Uyonwabile kakhulu ngaye, mhlawumbi ngolunye usuku ndingathanda ukuchitha ixesha elifanayo. Kodwa phi ikhwele? Umona omhlophe - uhlobo lokuncoma okanye - ucinga? Ngokuchanekileyo, ukuguqulwa komona ngokwawo akumnyama namnyama. Ngako oko, asiyi kuba nesabelo sengqumbo ngemigqomo. Ngaba unomona okanye awuyi kubakho, akukho nto inokukhetha.
Ngubani o namandla?
Nge "imibala" yomona, sawuhlenga. Kodwa le ntliziyo inomlinganiselo omnye - ubungqina. Kungenzeka umzuzwana ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kwindawo yomntu, kwaye unokucinga ngeminyaka ongeke ube nayo. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ubuninzi bakho buxhomekeke kwizinto ezimbini:
- Izizathu zangaphandle. Cinga, ngubani onokuba nomona ongakumbi, ngokuthe rhoqo, ngokubuhlungu? Okunokwenzeka ukuba, umntu onjengawe, inxalenye yesangqa soqhagamshelwano lwakho lwansuku zonke okanye unesimo esifanayo nawe. Ummelwane wakho kunye noKaty Perry banakho isikhwama somzekelo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba unomona wokuqala, kungekhona wesibini.
- Izizathu zangaphakathi. Abantu abanempawu ezithile zeempawu banomona kunabanye: ukuzingca, ukungabi nalutho nokugqithisa ngokweqile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku akumangalisi: sesele sazi ukuba umthombo wenzondelelo ngumzekelo, oko kuthetha ukuba umntu oxhalabele kakhulu ngempumelelo yakhe kunye nabanye uya kuba nomona omkhulu.
Ngoko ayisebenzi
Ukuzama ukulahla amava abo, abantu abanobukhwele basebenzisa (ngamanye amaxesha bengazi kakuhle) izicwangciso ezithile ezivelisa umphumo othile, kodwa musa ukuxolela umona. Bayakwazi ukudala ingozi engathanga ngqo: ukukrazula umonakalo, umntu onomona "uhlahlela" kwabanye. Impembelelo yabo ayilula lula "ukubamba" ekuziphatheni kwabo. Ziziphi iindlela?
- Ukukhanyela ngokwenene umona. "Andiyi kuba nomona," uzixelele (kunye nomhlobo), okwesithandathu, ukhangele iqela lezithombe ezivela kumcimbi ongazange umenywe kuwo. Umhlobo, ngokuqinisekileyo, "akayi kuba nomona". Musa ukukhohlisa.
- Ukunciphisa inani lezinto zomona. Le yindlela eqhelekileyo. Makhe sikhumbule ummelwane onomqathango onokwesikhwama esitsha. Ujonge kuye, uzitsho ukuba imodeli ayiphumelelanga, isikhumba sineempembelelo (kunye nale mali!), Kwaye ngokwenene ... kunokwenzeka ukuba inkohliso. Ukukhohlisa ngokuchanekileyo.
- Inkcaso kunye nomnqweno wokuhlazisa into. Ndicinga ukuba kucacile oko kusemva kwayo, Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ungayeki kwiingxoxo kumhlathi wesi-2 kwaye ungeze ukuba izinto ezinjalo zintando zithengwa kuphela zizizatha. Okanye amantombazana angayazi ngefashoni, kuba kwakungekho kwimoya yokugqibela. Kwaye, ngeyiphi indlela, wayithenga yiphi imali?
Akunjalo nonke ngobubele ...
Ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba umona wakho okanye into eninzi kakhulu okanye enamandla kakhulu, lixesha lokulwa nalo. Mhlawumbi akukho nto iya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza: umlinganiswa awukwazi ukutshintshwa ngobusuku. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuzama. Ngoko, unokukrazula njani umona okanye wenze ukuba amava afumaneke lula? Ngokuqhelekileyo umona uvela kumzekeliso. Ngoko, ukuba nomona ongaphantsi, kufuneka uqhathanise ngaphantsi. Ukukrazula i-juxtaposition engapheliyo, kufuneka, okokuqala, uqonde kakuhle into oyifunayo. Oko kukuthi, neenjongo zakho. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba nganye "inamathele" isicwangciso sokufezekisa kwaye ubuncinane iziphumo zokuqala. Xa uhamba ngendlela yakho, awukhathaleli nantoni na into eyenziwa ngumnye umntu. Qinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umona awuyena msebenzi olula. Ngokomzekelo, ufuna ukulahlekelwa isisindo, kunye neefoto zeemodeli ezincinane zenza umona kuwe - akukho ndawo emnyama emnyama. Kodwa ... yinto ebangela ngqo kumfanekiso? Mhlawumbi awukhwele ngamaparitha, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo awanikezela umnini wabo? Okanye impumelelo yakhe kumntu wesini? Okanye ukhululekile apho angathabatha khona ikhabethe? Okanye? Ukuba uyayiqonda imbangela yokuqala yomona, ngoko unokucinga ukuba usuphelile lo mva. Mhlawumbi, lo mbuzo uya kubonakala ungaqhelekanga, nangona kunjalo: kwaye kuyintoni na ukuba kuyimfuneko kuwe-ukuba nomona? I-psyche yethu ihlelwe ngokucacileyo kwaye icacile, kwaye zonke iinkqubo kuyo zizathu zazo. Amava omona unamandla kakhulu. Enyanisweni, umntu okhweleyo uhlala nobomi bomnye umntu. Yintoni ebangela le mfuneko? Mhlawumbi, ukwesaba iminqweno yakho kunye nokungazi iimfuno. Zibakele ngokwakho, oko kukukholisa kuwe - kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukude kangakanani nemimiselo eyamkelweyo.
Umona ongcono
Nangona umona ungaqalanga ukuthobela ngokupheleleyo iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo zakho, yingxenye ebalulekileyo yengqondo yakho. Umona, ngokuqinisekileyo, usenza izigqibo kwaye senze izigqibo ezingenakwenzeka ngaphandle kwalo. Ngamanye amaxesha lo msebenzi ulungele kuphela umona omhlophe ngomgaqo othi "omnye ulungile - ndiyavuya - nangona mna ndiya kuthanda." Amava amnandi ("enye into enhle-andiyivuyo - kufuneka ukuba ibe bhetele!") Unako ukusibangela ngakumbi ngakumbi. Yonke into ibizwa ngokuba ngumsebenzi wokukhuthaza - kwaye ke, ukuvakalelwa komona kunakho ukukhuthaza kakhulu, kakhulu. Kulungile, ekugqibeleni, umona kuyimfuneko ... kuba umntu unesidingo esaneleyo sokuba nomona.