Umntwana wesibini kwintsapho: njani ukulungiselela umdala?

Ulindele ukuzalwa komntwana wesibini. Nguye nje indlela yokwenza umntwana omdala athathe ezi ndaba ngokuzithoba? Musa ukucinga ukuba ophezulu wakho uya kuvuyiswa ngokukhethekileyo nomntakwabo okanye udade omncinci. Cinga ngokwakho, wayeyedwa yedwa, ethandwa kwaye ngokukhawuleza yonke into ishintsha. Olu tshintsho luyamvusa. Ukumnceda ukuba ajamelane nale meko, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela engcono yokulungiselela umntwana kulo mcimbi obalulekileyo. "Umntwana wesibini kwintsapho: indlela yokulungisa umdala" - umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje.

Into yokuqala kunye ebaluleke kakhulu: mxelele ukuba ulindele umntwana, ngokukhawuleza. Chaza ukuba bakhathala ngakumbi kwaye bakhonkcela konke, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba unxunguphalo wakho omkhulu, kodwa ngenxa yokuzalwa komntwana omtsha ngumsebenzi onzima. Bhala phantsi i-crumb yakho kwicandelo elithile. Makhe abe nomsebenzi ukuze emva kokuzalwa kwintsana abuyele ekhaya ngaphandle kokuziva ukuba uyaxoshwa. Kuya kuba mkhulu ukuba ngoku nje umntwana kunye nobawo baya kuba nemisebenzi enxulumene nayo ngokunokwenzeka: ikusasa leSonto, hamba kwindawo yokudlala, iincwadi zokufunda ngaphambi kokulala, imidlalo yebhodi. Amanye amalungu omndeni anokukunceda ngolu hlobo. Kuphela akufuneki ukuba ukhanyele ingqalelo yomntwana ngokuxhomekeka kokukhulelwa. Umzekelo, ukuba ukhathele kwaye ufuna ukuphumla, memela ukuba alale phantsi kwakho. Funda incwadi okanye ubukele i-TV kunye. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umfutho we-fetal uzive kakuhle, faka intendelezo yonyana wakho okanye intombi kwisisu - bavumele ukuba bathethe nomzalwana wabo okanye udade wabo. Xa kunokwenzeka, uthathe omdala kunye naye ekuboniswaneni kwabasetyhini, apho aya kuba nako ukuhamba khona ngexesha loviwo. Ukuba uva intliziyo yesisu, umzalwana ozalelwe okanye udade uya kuba yinyani kuye. Ukubandakanya umntwana ekukhetheni ifenitshala kunye nodolo lomzalwana okanye udade ozayo. Ngokubambisana, hlaziya izinto ezindala kunye neemathoyilo zokukhetha ezo ezinokudluliselwa kulutsha olutsha. Musa ukunyanzelisa ukuba unike into enokumxolela ngayo umntwana. Kuza kufika ixesha apho yena ngokwakhe uya kuvuyisa lo mntwana ngokuvuya. Musa ukumcinezela uze unike ixesha. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba umntwana omncinane uza kulala kwisibhedlele somntwana wokuqala, kufuneka uqale ukumbeka embhedeni omtsha. Kufuneka wenze oku kwinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa, kwaye akukho nanye kwimihla yokugqibela phambi kwabo. Ukuba uceba ukudlulisela umntwana kwelinye igumbi, malunga nokuzalwa komntwana, oko kungcono ukwenza oko ngaphambili. Tshela umntwana ngale nto. Ungakulibali ukugxininisa ukuba ufumana igumbi ngenxa yokuba wakhula, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba igumbi ludinga umntwana osandula. Kuya kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo nje kuphela ukulungiselela ilungiselelo loko umntwana, kodwa kunye negumbi elitsha lomntwana omdala. Yenza oko ukuze avuyiswe kwigumbi lakhe elitsha. Ungathenga ifenitsha entsha, iincwadi kunye nemidlalo. Yenza umsebenzi wokudibanisa kunye, kwaye umntwana uya kubona ukuba uyamkhathalela, kwaye akayi kuba nomona ngunyana. Hlangana, xubusha amagama ocinga ukuba ufanele ubize usana olutsha, mvumele umntwana athathe inxaxheba ekukhethiweyo. Njengoko umhla wokuhambisa usondela, cacisa kwangaphambi kokuzalwa kwakho okokuqala ukuba awuyi kuhlala ekhaya iintsuku eziliqela, cela ukukunceda ukuba uqoke izinto, ufake into engxowa yakho, umzekelo, umzobo okanye itekisi elincinci. Yithi uyamthanda kwaye uya kutyhafisa, kodwa ngeendlela zonke uza kuphinda ubuyele kwaye uya kuhlanganisana kwakhona. Wena, ngakwakho, unokuthenga isipho kusengaphambili uze unikezele emva kokubuya esibhedlele, ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye nokuncedisa indlu ngelixa umama enesana esibhedlele. Ukulungiselela umntwana ngokuzalwa komntwana, ungathinti kwimicimbi engabonakali nhlobo. Ngokomzekelo, ungathi: "Musa ukukhathazeka, siya kukuthanda ngokuncinane." Musa ukubuza ngaphambi kokuzalwa komdala kunesipho esibi, kungenjalo uya kucinga ukuba oku kuya kuba njalo. Biza umntwana oza kuzalelwa "umntwana wethu" nokuba "umntwana wakho", ukuze umntu omdala abe nenkolelo eqinileyo yokuba iya kuba yinto yakhe. Yiba nomonde, uthethe kunye nonyana wakho okanye intombi kaninzi, kwaye kunye kunye novuyo kuya kufumana ukubonakala kwilungu elitsha kwintsapho yakho.