Inamba yesigaba 1. Uthando olunomdla.
Ngomfanekiso wakho othandekayo okanye intanda yakho yodwa imvakalelo emihle. Isiqingatha sesibini sokomoya senza zonke izenzo nezenzo. Ukuba kukho naziphi iimeko ezingathandekiyo, awuyikukhubekisa kumntu othandekayo.
Isigaba 2. Ezinye zipholisa.
Ukuba umntu ondibathandayo engazange abe khona, ngoko akayi ku khunjulwa, kodwa ukuba uvela, ngoko nangoko kukho ukunyuka komsindo.
Isigaba No. 3.
Ukubonakala komntu othandekayo akukwanele ukudala iimvakalelo ezintle. Ngoku sifuna amagama anothando, izipho, ingqwalasela, uxolo, njl. Kulo nqanaba kunconywa ukuba omnye wabafazi bahambe uhambo okanye bathathe iholide elifutshane ukuze ulwalamano lubuyele kwisigaba sokuqala.
Isigaba No. 4. Ukuqhubeka ukupholisa ubudlelwane.
Ubukho bomlingane bubangela ukucaphukisa, kaninzi kunokungaqondi. Impawu nomntu womlingani zibonwa njengeziphene ezinzima, kwaye ngoko ke, ukuxabana ngokugqithisileyo kudla ngokukhawuleza.
Inqanaba lesi-5.
Ubukho bomlingane bwandisa uhlobo lwalo hlobo lolwalamano. Umlingani unqabile ukuba othandekayo, intanda, ingelosi kwaye uba ngumntu ongeyena, obalalayo, u-scoundrel, njl. Ubomi obudibeneyo kunye neqabane aliyeka ukuba nentsingiselo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kweli nqanaba, inani elikhulu lezicelo zomtshato zithunyelwa. Igqwetha liqwalasela imeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane kwisigaba sesihlanu bugqityiwe.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho imingcipheko, izimo ezizinzileyo, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umtshato, awukwazi ukufikelela, ngoko emva kwexeshana, njengoko kungeyinto engaqhelekanga, izigaba zobudlelwane ziphindaphindiwe, kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, kumgangatho omtsha.
Ukuba le mijikelezo yodwa yomtshato iyavumelana, ke oku kubi kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano luya kuphele ngokuqhawula umtshato. Kungcono xa izigaba zidibaniswe kwiindidi ezichaseneyo. Loo ntsapho inamathuba amaninzi okusinda.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunciphisa ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwabatshatileyo ukuze isigaba sesine nesesihlanu singafiki? Iingcali zengqondo zaqhuba uphando, olwakhiwa ekudaleni izimo ezifanelekileyo. Ezi zilandelayo ziphumo zifunyenwe: abaphenduli baphawula ubudlelwane kunye neqabane elithile elingaqhelekanga luthando, olunzima kwaye lubuhlungu bobabini.
Ixesha lokunciphisa amava okwempembelelo ngumpawu nokuba unyaka wokuqala wobomi obudibeneyo. Ezi ziphumo zafunyanwa emva kokucwangcisa igrafu. Nangona kunjalo, "ukungaphumeleli" othandweni akukabi kakhulu kwaye akahlali. Emva kwexesha elifutshane, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bubudlelwane buqala.
Ngomnyaka wokuqala wobomi bentsapho ngexesha "ukungaphumeleli" kwimpikiswano yothando akunakuvela. Ukudideka kunokukhawulelwa kuphela kwiinyembezi ezizolileyo kunye nokucwina.
Intlangano efanelekileyo kakhulu yenguqu kwiimeko zengqondo zomtshato, xa ulwahlulo phakathi kweenqwelo ziphindwe kabini. Kuphela ke "ukungaphumeleli" ekuthandweni komlingane omnye kuya kuvinjelwa uthando olukhulu lomnye. Ngale ntlangano, elinye iqabane liyakuchukumiseka ngesimo sengqondo esingathandekiyo xa ejonga umfazi wakhe kwisikhundla esingathandabuzekiyo, enye inokufanelana nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, ngoko ke ihlose ukuxolela yonke into, kwaye izama ukulungelelanisa isimo sengqondo esibi somyeni kuye.