Ukuzimela kungafaniswa nokushisa kweenjini zenjini. Ukuba uphantsi kakhulu, ukunyakaza kuya kuphuza, ukuba ukuphakama - akunako ukumelana nomthwalo. Yintoni ababonisi bakho ababonisa ngayo?
Ukubonwa okwesibhakabhaka - izinga elincinci lokuzimela
Unenkathazo, okanye kungekhona kuwo onke amazinyo okutya, ixesha elide, uqeqesho oluqhelekileyo kunye neminye imisebenzi efuna imimangaliso yoqeqesho. Konke oku kuhambelana nomntu onetyala, ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kunye nokuvakalelwa ngokupheleleyo kwenkululeko, ukunyanzela okungunaphakade kwinto ethile kumntu (kokubili kubo nakubantu).
Kutheni kunjalo? Uninzi lwabomi balabo abasemagunyeni amathathu, abalawulwa ngabanye abantu-ootitshala (kubantu abatsha eli nqaku liphuthuma ngakumbi). Abambalwa bethu baye banike igunya elaneleyo lokufunda indlela yokwenza izigqibo ngokwabo, ukulawula indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye baphathe ngokupheleleyo uxanduva lwabo. Kwaye into eyona nto kukufumana injabulo kule nkqubo, kungekhona ukuvalelwa ngenxa yokuzisola, ngokusoloko esaba ukujeziswa. Ugxininisa kwizinto ezimbi: okokuqala ucinga malunga nokuya kulahleka xa uhlala ngendlela ehlelekile kwaye enoxanduva ("kuya kuba mnxantathu kwaye kungekhona ngokukhawuleza", "abantu abaphumelelayo banesizungu", "Andiyi kuba nexesha lokuzonwabisa"), kwaye awuyi kutshintsha umntwana, baqhubeke behlala kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo okanye ezingaqhelekanga kunye neengxaki ezingafaniyo ("kwakhona baya kukhwaza", "Ndidiniwe," "Andizange ndifike ku-44 ubukhulu"). Uloyiko lokungaphumeleli kwaye uhlala kumgaqo "konke okanye akukho nto": "Ukungaziboni ukulahleka isisindo kwikhilo", "akukho ndawo ekuhlehliseni ama-ruble angama-500 ngeveki", "nesmeslisa inxaxheba kwisigamu seyure ngosuku." Kodwa ke kunjalo, kumanyathelo amancinci ukuba le ntsi ngiselo iqukunjelwa.
Ungayilungisa njani?
Ukucinga ngokulahlekelwa yimpumelelo kunye nokucwangcisa? Cinga bhetele oko bafumanayo! Imizuzu embalwa yokucwangcisa imihla ngemihla (kubhala uluhlu lwamatyala) iya kukhulula iiyure kwimisebenzi oyikhethayo, ukudumisa endaweni yokuzibhenela kuyakuqinisa isiphumo (kunye neluhlu lweenjongo eziyimfuneko ukuba zihlanganise uluhlu lwezinto ezikhuthazayo).
Ngaba ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli? Hlonipha i-biografi yeenkwenkwezi kwaye ufumane kuzo zonke iintlobo zeenhlanhla ezimbi. Awazi na into ekuhluphekayo? Khumbula amazwi amnandi omntu onobulumko kwaye aguqule "intlungu" kwiimeko apho udunyiswa ngumntu onentsingiselo (kungekhona isihlobo, umhlobo, umcebisi).
Ngempumelelo nganye ekulandelelaneni (encinci) ekuzimeleyo uya kuba neentembelo ngokwakho, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kukwazi ukuhamba ngokunyanisekileyo.
Umveleli wombala obomvu - izinga elide kakhulu lokuzimela
Uba nomona ngabalingane kunye nabahlobo: ngeyure ungayilungisa ukuba bangaphi abanye abangenalo ixesha ngeveki. Kwimyuziyamu ye-anthropological, ingaba ngumbukiso omuhle kwi-homo disciplinus. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwengxubusho enjalo kunzima ukuphumla, iintlungu ezingenakwenzeka kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba. Ukho kwiimeko ezinzulu zeengqondo kunye nokunyaniseka ukuba lesi sihlandlo sokuzikhukhumeza, kungekhona ukukhathazeka.
Kutheni kunjalo?
I-Te6e iyaqonda amagama athi "kufuneka", "kufuneka", "ngoku", "kungekhona." Cinga ukuqonda: "andinako", "ndidiniwe", "Ndifuna". Andiyisebenzisi ukubonakalisa ezininzi, kubuza imibuzo "kutheni" kunye "nantoni", unokwenza kakuhle kwi-fence ukuya kusihlwa. Inokwenzeka ukuba, kwintsapho yakho kukho umntu owayenomdla, kwaye unezizathu zakhe. Kwaye ubona intsingiselo yobomi ekunqobeni ubunzima. Ukucwangciswa kunye nomsebenzi wemizuzu emininzi (ubuninzi, ukuphumla nokucwangcisa kunye nokwakhiwa) kunika umgaqo wokulawula kunye nokukhuseleka - akukho nto engalindelekanga eyenzekayo (nangona kungenjalo, kodwa ingqiqo). Ukongezelela, iiphampo ziyakuchukumisa ukucamngca, kwaye awukhululekile kulo rhulumente. Mhlawumbi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungacingi ngento engathandekiyo eyenzekayo kuwe.Mhlawumbi, ujabule ngobomi kwaye ukhethe ngamabomu ukukhanya, kwaye ungadli ngokukhawuleza.Kunokuba ungekrokreli ukuba phakathi kokugqithisa ezimbini kusekhona "ukutshisa" kwaye "ukufudumala" ", Ukuvuyela umntu onomfudumalo nobuhle balo mboniso.
Ungayilungisa njani?
Inyaniso kukuba i-homo disciplinus ixhomeke kakhulu kwizigulane kunye nezifo ezinempawu eziyimfihlelo. Kwaye ukuphatha izifo ezinjalo, zinceda kakhulu ukuphazamiseka, ngexesha apho, ebusweni bomsebenzi wakho obulungisiweyo, ukuphulukiswa kwimiba yolwazi kunye nezimpendulo zemibuzo "kutheni" kubonakala ngokukhawuleza. Ungenzi ikhefu ngokwakho - umzimba podkinetvnezhny ezibandayo, ubunzima obucacileyo. Ubunzima bunjalo kwinto eyakho evunyelwe kakhulu kuluntu namhlanje, kwaye bambalwa abantu abayithandiyo loo mfazi ophumeleleyo, onamandla. Ukuba ufunda ukuphumla kwaye ukwazi ukuvumela izinto ukuba zihambe zodwa, uya kuqela elidibeneyo - i-homo idealis.
Inzwa engenambala-inqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokuzimela
Uyazi ukuba ungadibana njani xa kuyimfuneko ngempela (intsapho, ishishini, impilo), kodwa awuyi kuguqula impilo ibe yintando kunye nomzabalazo. Uyaqonda ukuba yonke into yindoda ephilileyo, ngoko ke akho amathuba okulinganiselwa, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha amaphiko akhula.
Kutheni kunjalo?
Njengomthetho, ityala elisebuntwaneni obonwabileyo, njengoko kwakubonwe i-banal etony: ecaleni kwakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwakukho umntu onokwethenjelwa kwaye onesibindi, ekuvumela ukuba ubonise ukuzimela ngokubanzi kwihlabathi, ubudlelwane nabantu kunye nawe, kodwa ngelo xesha wayehlala elungele ukuxhasa. Kukho umgangatho wokuba lo mgangatho oxabisekileyo owuzuzile kwinkqubo yobomi, kodwa nanko kwakungenalo utitshala olungileyo, umzekelo. Uyazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukwenza oko kuyimfuneko, kungekhona into oyifunayo. Kodwa akubalulekanga ukuba ulandele iimfuno ngezikhathi ezithile. Uyakwazi ukuba umsebenzi omkhulu kwaye unqobe ubuqili obuqhelekileyo obunelungelo lomntu ufanelwe ukufumana umvuzo, ukuba wawukhethiweyo, kwaye akusikho ixesha elide, kwaye ulungile, ngenxa yokuba wenze ukhetho olunjalo.
Thintelo
Ungesabi ukuba ubomi buya kulahlekelwa ipende, stavrasplanirovannoy, igcwele izibophelelo kunye neziqhelo. Ngokombono wakho, konke oku kunokuzisa uvuyo, kwaye kungekhona nje ukuthabatha amandla kunye nokuphazamisa isimo sengqondo. Isondlo esilungileyo sokukhusela izinga elifanelekileyo lokuzimelela kukuguqula amava akho kwiindawo ezingqamlekileyo (abahlobo, osebenza nabo) okanye ulawulo oluthile (abantwana). Ukukhuthaza abanye kwimpilo enempilo kunye nokuzimeya ngokufanelekileyo, uhlala uziphatha.