Ngoko, yintoni okufuneka uyayikwazi ukukhetha umlingiswa wesilwanyana? Okokuqala, ndingathanda ukuqwalasela ityala xa ibhinqa liyakwenqaba ngokupheleleyo ukwakheka. Izizathu zokwenqaba okunjalo zingahluka - izifo zesikhumba, ukunyamezela, njl. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ilahla izimonyo ngesizathu esicacileyo. Ngokweengcali kulo mzekelo, kunokubakho ukuzithoba. Ngamanye amazwi, ibhinqa ayisebenzisi izimonyo kuba azifumananga kwaye akayi kubona nayiphi na ingqiqo ekwenzeni. Kwakhona, izizathu zokugatya izimonyo zingabikho kwexesha, ubuvila, umzekelo wabantu abadala. Ngokomzekelo, intombi ingayenqaba iziqholo, ekubeni unina akazange asebenzise izixhobo zokunceda ngexesha.
Ekubuntwaneni, imeko yendawo ayibalulekanga. Ukuba ibhinqa likhethe ukudlala kwaye libe ngabahlobo kunye nabafana abaselula, ngoko kwixesha elizayo akanakho ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kufuneka asebenzise izimonyo.
Kwakhona, isizathu sokungasebenzisi izimonyo ngumsebenzi omude kwiqela lamadoda, ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakhe kwaye unokusebenzisa nokuqhumisela amadoda.
Abasetyhini abakholelwa ukuba abananto engaphantsi kwesini esahlukileyo, ngamanye amaxesha banqwenela ukusebenzisa izimonyo. Iingcali zengqondo zivuma ukuba le ntshutshiso phakathi kwabasetyhini ibonakaliso lobufazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo aba bafazi bacinga ngendlela yokuphumelela kwishishini okanye emsebenzini, ukulibala ukuba ukubonakala okubonakalayo kunceda nefuthe.
I-Egocentrism yinye yezizathu zokwenqaba. Amantombazana angama-Egocentric aqinisekile ukuba ihlabathi lonke lidalwa kuphela, kwaye akufuneki ukuba bacinge ukuba bangabakholisa njani abanye abantu. Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba abafazi abanjalo banokuba yinto yokunqula, kumadoda.
Ukunciphisa izimonyo kunye nabasetyhini abakhetha ukubonakala kwendalo, abamane bakhathalele izimonyo. Bazibona njengabo, kwaye bafuna abanye bawaqonde ngendlela efanayo. Amaxesha amaninzi abo bafazi bakholelwa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwezonyunyile kukukhwabanisa.
Abaninzi abasetyhini basebenzise ukwakheka, kuba wonke umntu uyakwenza, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bayathanda ukuyisebenzisa. Abafazi abanjalo abafuni ukuchasana nezithethe ezisisiseko kuluntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, basebenzise ukuzenzela okungafunekiyo ekubunjweni, okubandakanya, ipensela yelanga, i-inktops. La mabhinqa awakuthandi kakhulu ukukhanga abantu ngokugqithiseleyo, ngenxa yokokuba abafazi "ababulalayo" phakathi kwabo abakwenziyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bakhangela amadoda kwabanye ngezinye iindlela. Abathandayo ukuzenzela, sebenzisa ukufihla iintlobo ezahlukeneyo, okanye uzame ukuzifihla iingxaki zabo. Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, utshintsho olukhawulezileyo ekwenzeni umfazi, ukusuka kwi-moderation ukuya ekukhanyeni, lithetha ukuba uxhapha lwangaphakathi olufihliweyo okanye utshintsho lwamaxesha rhoqo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abantu abanesondo esifanelekileyo abafuna ukuguqula ubomi babo baqala ngenguqu ebonakalayo ekubonakaleni kwabo, ngoko ke bazama ukubonisa ukuthanda kwabo kwabanye. Olunye uhlobo lomfazi ngokwembonakalo yembonakalo - abagqibeleleyo, bafuna ukufezekisa ukugqibelela, nokuba kuthini na oko kuthatha. Abafazi abanjalo banokuhlala iiyure phambi kwesibuko, benze zonke i-smears ebusweni babo. Iingcali zengqondo zithi zibandakanya abahlobo be-narcissists.
Abo bafazi abakhetha ukungazitshintshi izimonyo zabo, banokuzimelela kwendalo. Ukuzithathela izicwangu, aziyikuguqula ixesha elide, kwaye nayiphi na utshintsho kwimbonakalo yazo iyanqatshwa. Abayikukhathalela ukuba ngaba basesikweni esisemthethweni okanye kwiqela lezenhlalakahle, nokuba kunjani na, ukuzenzela kuya kuhlala kufana. Nangona umgcini we-stylist angakwazi ukuthabatha izimonyo ezamkelekileyo ukubonakala kwazo, abafazi abanjalo abasayi kuwusebenzisa.
Uchasene nomthandi wexhala, izipho kunye noshintsho ebomini, ngokuvuyisa kakhulu kusetyenziswa iinkonzo zabaculi bokuzenzela. Ngamanye amaxesha kunyaniseka ukuba emva kobukeka obubonakalayo, kukho ukungabi nokholo kwizakhono zabo, kwaye ukutyelela kwabo abakhangeli babo kuba, njengokuba kunjalo, isiqinisekiso sokwenza kakuhle. La mabhinqa asayi kukungabaza umgangatho womsebenzi womculi wokwenza, nangona wenza amaphutha endaweni ethile. Isiqubulo sabo ligama eliyaziwayo kunye nesitayela esaziwayo.
Amantombazana abathanda ukwenza amehlo, anempawu ezinjengeengqondo kunye nokuqwalasela, bazama ukubonisa umdibaniselwano ukuba bayakwazi ukuphulaphula umntu. Njengomthetho, aba bafazi ababi ababi beengqondo, kodwa amava abo afihlakeleyo abo bawajikelezile.
Iimpawu zokuvakalelwa kunye nentlalontle imilomo yomlomo. Abafazi abanjalo, bathanda ukuxoxa, ukudlala ngothando, ukudlala ngothando. Njengomthetho, baqala ukuthetha ngomntu wabo.
Inkcazo echanekileyo yobume bento yokwenza ibhinqa idinga ulwazi lwezinto ezithile. Ngokomzekelo, kufuneka uyazi ukuba abafazi banokutshintsha ukhetho lwabo ngexesha, yonke into eguqukayo. Awukwazi ukusebenzisa izimonyo, uze uqalise ukuyisebenzisa, isitayela se-makeup sinokutshintsha, umntu unokutshintsha ukuziphatha, nokuba ngumntu wesifazana kunye nokuphila kwakhe kunokutshintsha. Enye ingcamango ingatshintshi ixesha elide, enye ingatshintsha kathathu ngosuku, umntu ngamnye ngumntu ngamnye.
Yonke into ingatshintsha indlela, kwaye abaninzi abafazi baya kulandela iindlela ezintsha. Emva koko inkcazo yokwenza impawu yomfazi ingalunganga. Kwaye ukuba ugweme oku, kufuneka uqonde into efihliweyo ngaphakathi kwayo, nokuba ingaqhelekanga, inhle, xa ikhulile okanye ibhekane nentsha, kubalulekile ukubamba intsingiselo yokwenza kwakhe, nokuba ngaba iinjongo zomphefumlo, okanye umnqweno wokuqhubeka kunye nefashoni. Emva koko, unxibelelwano lunokuba lunomdla ngakumbi xa sinokuqonda.