Ngamnye wethu kwafuneka abhekane nazo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki zehlabathi, xa kubonakala ngathi ubomi buyiyo intambo elele phezu kwendawo, kwaye sibukeka njengabaqalayo be-rookie, bengakhuselekanga nabokuzikhusela. Sifuna ukubamba ubuncinci i-straw, nje ukuba uzive phantsi kweenyawo zomhlaba oqinileyo kwaye ulahlekise le ngxaki ekhuselekileyo yokubandezeleka. Ngelishwa, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwiinkxalabo ezinjalo. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngoko sifanele sifunde indlela yokuziphatha kwiimeko ezinzima ...
Nangona iingxaki zazo zonke zihluke, izazi zeengqondo zikholelwa ukuba, ukuhambela kwindlela ethile yokuziphatha, unokubuyisela ukulingana kwengqondo nakweyiphi na, nokuba yinkxalabo enkulu. Emva koko phendule ngokukodwa oko kwenzekayo ngenzuzo yakho!
Kubonakala ukuba akusiyo yonke into embi, nangona ufumane ubunzima bokubaluleka kwendawo. Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, maxa wambi luncedo ukuziva unganeliseki. Ngenxa yokuba eli lizwe linokukunceda ukuba uthathe isinyathelo esinqumayo, kwaye uya kutshintsha i-destiny yakho ibe ngcono. Emva kwakho konke, xa kubonakala kuwe ukuba yonke into iyajikeleza kwi-somersault, awuyi kucinga ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni oku kwenzekayo. Ngoko, ufumana ithuba elihle lokuhlalutya le meko, kodwa kwakhona ukufumanisa indlela yokuphuma, guqula impilo yakho ibe yindawo enye, inzuzo ngakumbi. Into eyiyo kukukholelwa ukuba ukuhluleka kunokuba nomsindo, ukutshatyalaliswa komlilo okonakalisayo, kunye nokuba unokomelela kwaye ubulumko ngenxa yoko. Yaye nangona ukuhluleka kokuhluleka kuyahluke, umntu kufuneka azame ukuphuma kunye nodumo.
KWABASEBENZI ABASEBENZI ABANYE ABAKHULU
Esinye sezigulane satsho kwi-psychologist's reception ukuba ngelinye ilanga elihle kakhulu, wayeziva kunzima kunanini ngaphambili. Eli bhinqa wayekhwele kwibhasi ekhuselekileyo kwaye waqonda ukuba akakwazi ukuma ngoku kwaye waqala ukukhala iinyembezi ukuba omnye wabagibeli waphinde wamkhwelisa okanye wawela emlenzeni wakhe. Kwaye ngenxa yoko! Okokuqala, wambiza umthandi wakhe wathi wabuya wedwa, kuba abahlobo bakhe bamenywa kwinqwelo. Ngoko, kuyimfuneko ukumbamba amaphupha aqaqambileyo eholide. Ngethemba lokuvalelwa, umfazi ohluphekileyo wambiza udadewabo waza wabuya uvala ngokubambisa - wawela phantsi koqhekeko kwaye kusasa wahlala engenakho indlela yokuphila. Kodwa umnqweno wokufumana inkxaso ayizange ifuthe kwaye ke i heroine yomlando wethu yambiza ngumhlobo wayo. Yaye wathini na ukuphendula? Intombi ivele ithathe unina esibhedlele, kwaye i-prognosis ayibi kakhulu. Ngamafutshane, isimo sengqondo - ngokufanelekileyo ukuxhoma. Kwaye akumangalisi oku.
Iingxaki ezikhokelela kulo mbuso zinokuhluke kakhulu. Elinye iqela lidibene neengxaki zengqondo. Zibangelwa, njengommiselo, ngokuphulwa kobudlelwane obuzinzileyo okanye isikhundla esithile kuluntu: oku kuquka ukuhlukanisa, ukufa komntu othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi. Ezinye iingxaki zivela xa thina, ngokuthanda kwabanye, sizifumana kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo. Ngokomzekelo, ufumane isikhwama esinomvuzo kwibhasi yakho, umyeni wakho weba imali egcinwe kwifama, kwaye ukongezelela abamelwane bafake indlu yakho ukusuka phezulu ... Kodwa yintoni imeko ebunzima ebomini! Yilapho uqala ukuziva ubuthathaka, ukhuseleke, ungenakukhuseleka, ngelizwi-i-orange ngaphandle kwebala, kwaye kuphela. Oku kuqhelekileyo, iingqondo zengqondo zithi, ukuba uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela xa ujamelene neengxaki.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ukuvisisana emphefumlweni wethu emva kokuba iingcinezelo ezinje zibuyiselwe okanye zibuyiselwe emva koko. Kodwa ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uyinkukhu eyashiywe ngaphandle kwendlu, awuzange uhambe ixesha elide - kuthetha ukuba lixesha lokubonakalisa: yintoni efanelekileyo ebomini bakho nangendlela yokuziphatha ukuze imeko iguqulwe ngcono? Kwaye, ngokuthe ngqo, ngokunyanzelisa intando, ziphoqele ukuba wenze.
Ndikholelwe, awuyi kuzisola. Okokuqala, uya kuba ngcono. Kwaye, okwesibini, gcina ingqalelo ukuba ukusukela kwimiba engxakini yongcinezelo yonakalisa umntu. Ayenzi nje kuphela ukuzithemba, kodwa unokungabaza ngokwamandla akhe, kunye nokuthambekela kokugweba izono ezona zodwa.
Ngoko ke, qi niseka ukuba uzame ukuphuma kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo ngokukhawuleza kwaye wenze ngokuhlakanipha. Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo ziya kuba luncedo kuwe ngokusebenza.
IINKCUKACHA ZOKUSEBENZA
1. Kholelwa kuwe
Amantombazana amnandi amaninzi aziva edandathekile xa eshiya amadoda amthandayo. Kwaye xa beya kubahlobo babo, kuba yintlungu ephindwe kabini, kuba into enye kunzima ukusinda ukutshatyalaliswa, kunye neyembini - nangaphezulu. Kodwa nangona umntu othandekayo uye "angena ndawo," ukukhanya kwemini kusekhona.
Abantu abaninzi bazama ukuphazamiseka baze baye emsebenzini. Kodwa ingaba njani ubusuku, xa ushiywe wodwa ngentlungu yakho? Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, kwiimeko ezinjalo kubonakala kuninzi ukuba yonke impumelelo kunye nempumelelo yazo iphumelele kanye kanye. Ngaphezu koko: ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi abanjalo kunokuba baxoxe ngokusondeleyo nabantu abasondeleyo abanokukwazi ukuvavanya i-solvency kunye nabakhumbula imiphumo yabo yangaphambili, khetha ukuhlala kwedwa, ukuhlala kwindonga ezine kunye nokuhlala, bekhangela ngenye indlela, bafumana ubunzima ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Ukuba unqatshelwe kwaye ngoko uziva ungakhuselekanga kwaye ungakhuseli, gxininisa ngamandla akho. Mhlawumbi unomdla okulungileyo kwaye uyazi indlela yokuthunga okanye ukudibanisa? Mhlawumbi ulungiselela izitya ezinjalo, yiliphi ulwimi oya kuligwinya? Kwaye mhlawumbi, kwindawo yakho ngaphandle kwakho, nje ngaphandle kwezandla? Ewe into encinci yeempawu zabo ezixabisekileyo thina sizibeka bucala kwaye sibabiza ngokusweleka kwansuku zonke!
Yiba luhle kuwe. Ukuvakalisa kwisitya kunye nentloko yakho, kwaye ngenxa yoko, yenza uluhlu lwee-ownes zakho. Ngeentsuku ezonwabileyo, asinaso ixesha lokwenza oku, kodwa imizuzu yokudumala yithuba elifanelekileyo kakhulu le. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufikelela ekuqinisekiseni ukuba awukho mbi kwaye ngoko ulahliwe, kwaye ulungile kwaye ufanelwe ngcono.
2. Ukujongana nenyaniso
Ngokusoloko sikhathazekile ngongqondo wokungakhuseki nokungaqiniseki xa kwenzeka into ethile emsebenzini. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantu besaba kakhulu ukungaqiniseki, ngoko nayiphi iindlebe ezivakalayo malunga nokuza kutshintsha kubangele bakhathazeke kakhulu. Kwaye isongelo sokwenyuka kweemeko zemali luxhomekeke njengekrele leDamocles.
Kule meko, akukho mzekelo injengeenciniba, ngubani ohlala engozini ekhanda intloko yakhe entlabathi kwaye edala inkohliso yokhuseleko. Ngokuzenza ngathi akukho nto eyenzekayo okanye ukuvumela izinto zihambe ngokwazo, senza nje ukuqinisa ingxaki engathandekiyo kunye nobuhlungu bokungakhuselekanga.
Ewe, umntu unokuphila ngomgaqo "apho ijika liza kuthabatha": kukho iimeko xa yonke into yenziwa yodwa. Kodwa imeko ingahlakulela ngakumbi, kwaye ixesha lokuthatha amanyathelo, kwenzeka, sele lilahlekile. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukuqonda ukuba umhlaba uphuma phantsi kweenyawo zakho - thatha ingqalelo ngesicwangciso senzo. Ngokomzekelo, khangela enye imisebenzi, utshintshe iziqinisekiso, ekugqibeleni, qalisa ukugcina imali ngemini yemvula. Yenza into, nje ungenzi nto! Ngaphandle koko, uya kuhlala ngonaphakade kwintetho yale ntshabalalo eyonakalisa ukungaqiniseki kwakho.
3. Ungabi namahloni malunga neemvakalelo zakho
Ukuze kulungiswe ukungakhuselekanga okwethutyana kunye nokukhuseleka, kufuneka umntu alandele umgaqo omnye. Oku: Ukunyaniseka ekuhloleni imeko yakho. Ngokukodwa phambi kwam. Ngokudlulileyo oku kuyazwakala, kodwa kwakhona unokufumana ukulawula kwiingcamango zakho neemvakalelo kuphela emva kokubona ngokunyanisekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo ukuba ulahlekelwe okwesikhashana lo lawulo.
Enyanisweni, ukuba sizivumele thina, sisencinane kakhulu, kodwa siyafumana amandla. Kodwa ukubonisa isimo sengqondo sabo sengqondo kubanye bahlala behlazo. Ngaloo ndlela sinqumla indlela yethu-hayi, singabuyiselani, kodwa, ngokuchasene noko, kubomi obutsha. Ukuba awukhulumi ngamava akho kumntu awayevela kuwo, awuyi kuba nelithuba nhlobo ukuphucula imeko okanye utshintshe ubudlelwane. Ewe, kwaye ukuncedwa ngaphandle ungase ubeke kuyo xa abanye bazi ngeengxaki zakho. Ngaphandle koko bazi njani ukuba uyayidinga?
Ngoko ke, musa ukufihla kubantu abaye balahlekelwa ukuzinza. Musa nje ukudibanisa ukunyaniseka ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ulungile, uhlale ucula kwaye ukhononda malunga nexesha elibi. Lo mkhuba uvame ukucaphukisa wonke umntu kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, awukhuthazi uncedo.
4. Balindele uncedo oluvela kuwe.
Abaninzi bethu baqhelana namava okuza kubakho abantu abangenandaba nathi. Ngoko ke abafazi bahlelwe ukuba bathabathe iimbandezelo zeentsapho okanye abahlobo abasondelene kakhulu nentliziyo yabo-njengabo. Ukukwazi ukuvelana nomgangatho kukuhle komphefumlo womfazi. Kodwa ngelo xesha kunomngcipheko wokunyamekela emoyeni komnye umntu ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba unokuba ngumthwalo ongenakubekezeleka. Iingcali zengqondo ziyazi imeko xa abafazi abaphumeleleyo, bexhalabisayo kwabanye, bazifumene isilonda esiswini seentlungu okanye isifo senhliziyo.
Ukuba umntu obathandekayo kuwe unenkathazo, kwaye uziva ngenxa yolu buhlungu obunamandla, ungakuvumeli ukuba luhlume kuwe, luchithe umzimba wakho. Ngokukodwa ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo, kunye neinyembezi, iintlungu aziyi kunceda, kodwa impilo (kwaye ngokuyinhloko - inkqubo ye-nervous) iya kunqanda. Kungcono ukucinga malunga naluphi uncedo olufunekayo kuwe. Kakade ke, indlela umfazi oziphatha ngayo kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo yinkampani yakhe. Kodwa kungcono ukuphulaphula iingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo.
Ngaba ulwalamano luyingozi? Khangela oogqirha abalungileyo okanye uhlawule unyango, hlala umongikazi okanye uphakamise isimo sengqondo somguli, ufezekise ezinye iimfuno zakhe. Umyeni walahlekelwa ngumsebenzi? Mncede ekukhangekeni komsebenzi, kwaye okwangoku uphinda kwakhona ukuhlawula kwakhona uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ukwenzela ukunciphisa imali. Intombi yacaphukisa ngomtshato ngenxa yokungcatshwa komyeni? Mthabheni ngokuphindaphindiweyo "ekukhanyeni," menze athengise kunye nawe ekukhangela isambatho esitsha, mthabathe kunye nawe kwimibutho. Ngamafutshane, kulo mzekelo, esinye isenzo - yenza!
Musa ukuza umoya!
Ngelishwa, iingxaki, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci, zifana nje zendalo njengento ekhulayo kunye nokuguga komntu. Ewe, kuba oko kwenzeka ukuba awukwazi ukusinda kubo, zama ukungawudilizi ubomi bakho emhlabathini.
♦ Khumbula ukuba ivakalelo lokuba ihlabathi lonke liye laphela kwaye lingayifumananga nendawo yokubamba, ukutyelela phantse wonke umntu ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini. Oku kwendalo. Ngoko ke, eli lizwe alinakukuphazamisa kwisidima sakho.
♦ Qonda izizathu zokubonakala komngcipheko kunye nokukhuseleka, kwaye ngoko kufuneka uqale ukwenza into ethile. Yenza iphutha, zama kwakhona - musa ukuhlala ungenzi lutho!
♦ Musa ukuzigxeka, ukuba kukho into engalunganga ebomini bakho. Uninzi lweengxaki zethu ziphakama, njengomgaqo, ngenxa yinjongo (oko kungukuthi, akuxhomekeke kuwe) iimeko.
♦ "Ungaboni i-sawdust", njengoko iingcali zengqondo zicebisa, oko kukuthi, musa ukukhumbula oko kwenzekayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngamakhulu amaxesha. Zenze ubalekele oko kwenzekayo, kwaye ugxininise oko uzimisele ukukwenza.
♦ Ukuthetha rhoqo kunye nabantu abasondeleyo, musa ukuzigweba ngokuzimela. Nangona sijwayele ukuthembela kuphela kumzamo wokutshintsha imeko ibe ngcono, ukubuyisela izikhundla esizinikezele. Sekunjalo, musa ukulibala ukuba omnye entsimini akayena mfazwe.