Eli lixesha elinzima kakhulu kwintsapho, ixesha eliza kubonisa intsapho ngokuvavanywa kwamandla omanyano, ukunyaniseka, uthando. Kwaye kuninzi kuxhomekeka kokuqala kwintombazana, emva kokuba konke kuqwalaselwa kumaxesha okuqala - umgcini wendlu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintsapho ziyaqhawula umtshato, apho loo ntokazi iziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo okanye iphosekile (inomsindo, nangona iphi na isizathu, isandile i-alamu). Ubuhlobo obunjalo bomtshato abuyi kuba kanye xa umntwana ogulayo ezalwa, izinto zenziwa ngaphambi kokuba azalwe. Kwiintsapho apho ulwalamano oluhle luye lwaluqala ukususela ekuqaleni, oku kudla kwenzeka. Ezinye izibini zikholelwa ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana ogulayo kwomeleza umanyano wabo. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kwenzeke ngokudabukisayo ngokuchaseneyo.
Umzekelo ovela ebomini.
Ndiza kunika umzekelo, kwintsapho enye encinane inkwenkwe yakhula (iminyaka emithathu), kwaye intsapho yanquma ukuqala enye. Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, ukungaqhelekanga kwenyama kwafunyanwa kwi-fetus (nge-ultrasound). Umfazi wayenethemba lokuba baya kukwazi ukusinda kwaye kunye namathuba amayeza anje ukuba anqobe oku, umntwana uya kunyanga. Intombazana enhle eneentliziyo ziyayizalwa. Wonke umntu wayevuya, bobabini noyise kunye nenkwenkwe, kuba ngoku unodade. Oogqirha baxelele abazali ukuba umntwana akayi kuphila ixesha elide, njengoko udonga lwenhliziyo alukhuselekanga, kunokwenzeka ukwenza umsebenzi, kodwa kubiza. Abazali abaxhalabelekanga, baqala ukuqokelela imali, bafake izicelo zeemfuno ezizodwa. Imali yomsebenzi kubonga kwisixeko kunye nabemi beengingqi baqokelelwa ngokukhawuleza. Le ntombazana inikwe enye into, kodwa le nto isuswe enye yezinto ezintathu ezisongela ubomi kwintombazana. Kuze kube yiminyaka emi-5 kwakudingeka ukuba kwenziwe inombolo yenkqubo. Umama wayenyamezela ngokunyamezela zonke iintlungu kunye namava ngokungafani noyise. Waqala ukuhambahamba (okwakubonakele ngaphambili) ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukushiya zonke iinkxalabo, kumabhinqa athathaka yowesifazane ... iminyaka emibini okanye emithathu yadlula. Kwaye kwafika umzuzwana kangangokuthi kwakungenakwenzeka kumfazi kunye nokuva, ukulwa yedwa kwimpilo yentombazana kwaye unyamezele i-antics yomyeni wakhe. Umtshato waqhekeka, imbangela yangempela yokwahlukana kwale nyunyana, ndiyakholwa, yayingeyona impilo yintombazana, kodwa impawu yokuhamba kayise. Mhlawumbi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwaye kwanikezela ukuba intombazana yazalwa ngokuphazamiseka. Inkxalabo eyongezelelweyo, amava angatshitshisiweyo kwaye ngoko ayikho ubuhlobo obuzinzile. Yaye uyise ka-ntombazana akazange avume nokuba iimeko ezinamahlombe athathaka womfazi zijongana nabantwana abancinane ababini.
Omnye umzekelo wokuthelekisa.
Kwintsapho enye kunye nobudlelwane obufudumele, obunobungane bomtshato kwakukho umntu ozalwa ngowokuqala. Abazali banzima kakhulu ukuphila. Umyeni wavuma ukuba wayeya kutshaya aze afake isicelo sokuqhawula umtshato, wayengathandabuzeki ngokukhetha kwakhe. Umfazi wakhe wayebonakala ngathi akayena mkhonze, mhle, kwaye yedwa iphutha lakhe lokuzalwa ngumntwana. Umfazi wakhe, ngokuchaseneyo, wayeziphatha ngobuqili, engahlali entabeni, kwaye akazange anikezele ingqalelo kuphela kumntwana, kodwa nakumyeni wakhe. Ngaphandle kokuba anike amava akhe, wayejonge, njengaphambili, ekhaya lakhe. Kwaye kwaba ngumbulelo kule mpawu ukuba umtshato awuzange ulahleke, kwaye ubudlelwane phakathi kwabafazi bafika ngokukhawuleza kuba nobungane kunye nokufudumala. Emva koko, abantwana abanobomi abanempilo babonakala kwintsapho. Yaye ngokutsho kwesibini, intsapho yabo inamandla kwaye inobungane.
Kule mizekelo kubonakala ukuba ukuba ubudlelwane beentsapho bebekwa kuqala ekuthandweni nasekunyanisekeni, umntwana ogulayo akazange nje aholele ekuqhekekeni komanyano, kodwa kunokuba uyomeleze. Kwaye kwezo zintsebenziswano apho yonke into yayingazange ibe yinto enhle ngaphambili, ukuzalwa komntwana ogulayo kuye kwabangela ukuphuka kwimicimbi yomtshato.
Ukuba ukholwa amanani ...
Ngokutsho kwedatha yocwaningo, kwaye ngokubhekiselele kwimbono ecaleni, ukuphazanyiswa kobudlelwane bosapho kuphazamisa ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo komntwana, kokubili okunempilo kunye nokugula. Zixhomekeke kwiimeko ezixinezelekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha zifuna ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha (ukufakwa kwizibhedlele zengqondo, okanye ukubeka esweni nguthambo wezifo zengqondo). Kukho ukubonakalisa okungenakuvakalelwa kwemvakalelo - ukuphazamiseka rhoqo ngaphandle kwesizathu, ulwalamano, ubudlelwane obunzima bokusebenzisana. Ngokukodwa ukubonakaliswa okunjalo kuchaphazelekayo ngabantwana abaneziphene zengqondo. Amantombazana ayedla ngokunyamezela ikhefu leentsapho, njengabakhwenkwe, baziva kulula xa emva kokuphuka phakathi kwabazali, ubuhle, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bugcinwa. Ngaphandle kwesiganeko, emva kokuqhawula ubudlelwane, ungazami ukudlala kumntwana - ukuziphindezela kumyeni, ubenqabela ukutyelelwa kwakhe ngumntwana. Musa ukuphazamisana nobudlelwane babo obusenyongweni, sele sele bexakile, kwaye uya kuwenza kube nzima, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, kuya kuchaphazela umntwana, ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nomlingiswa wakhe. Musa ukuguqa umntwana kwicala lakho, uthele udaka kuyihlo, ukusuka kulo mntwana akayikuzithemba. Ungabonakali wakho umbi phambi kobantwana. Kuhlehliswe kakubi konke oku kubantwana abanxaxhayo. Kwakhona, musa ukukhupha inkohlakalo yakho, musa ukukhawuleza emntwaneni, ukummangalela, ukumbeka ekhoneni, kwaye yimbi ngakumbi xa ehlawula isigwebo (ukubetha, ukubetha). Njengoko uphando lubonisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngoko ke, abantwana abachaphazelekayo bachaphazelekayo, oko kukuthi, banqatshelwe, njengokuba kunjalo, phantsi kweenyawo zabo kwaye kunzima ukuyeka. Nangona kunjalo, ukusetyenziswa kwesijeziso sangasemzimbeni akuyikuyeka abo banawo, kuya kubakhokelela kumsebenzi ongaphezulu, okanye uya kufakwa kwi-subconscious, kwaye ufikelele ekutshiseni othile, uya kuthulula. Kungcono ukuqala nawe ngokwimeko enjalo, makube ngoqeqesho, qhagamshelana nengcali yengqondo. Hlaziya imeko yakho, kwaye indlela ekuchaphazela ngayo abangenacala-kwaye bengaphulekanga kumntwana.
Kwakhona, ukunakekelwa kakhulu kumntwana akukuhle kakhulu. Umntwana, yena, njengephepha le-litmus uthatha yonke into kwaye uyasabela ngayo kwimeko. Ngokunyamekela, unokuzidlala, kwaye sele sele ekhulile xa eneminyaka engama Akayi kuvelisa ukukhutshwa okanye ukuhlwaywa ngokomzimba. Uya kunciphisa iipropati eziguquguqukayo, uya kufuneka abe nomzali ohlala eseduze. Kungcono ukuhlalisana ubudlelwane apho umama ezama ukuqonda umntwana, iingxaki zakhe kwaye, akunjalo, akalibali ngamanye amalungu entsapho.
Njengoko sibona, ngobudlelwane obusondelene kwintsapho kunye nomntwana ogulayo, abahlali bahlala bengafani, bafanele.