Akukho nto eyenzeka njengaye, yonke into evela kwinto elandelayo. Kutheni abesifazana bebabo abanokumisa ihashe kwaye bayeke ukungena kwindlu yomlilo? Abaninzi baya kuthi, kodwa njani? Xa ekuxhaseni kwakho okuxakile kukho iingxaki ezininzi ezifunekayo, ekufuneka zixazululwe ngokukhawuleza, ukuqhutywa komsebenzi wamadoda kunye nezinye iingxabano. Mhlawumbi, kuba ... Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubulili obuthathaka buzuza iimpawu zomntu onamandla ukuze kuphile lula kwilizwe elinjalo elinamandla. Kwaye ngakwelinye icala, asinabo yini ukusola iimeko zethu zangoku? Umsebenzi wesilisa kufuneka wenziwe ngumntu, kwaye akufanele udilize isando esandleni sakhe, kuba awuyithandi indlela ekhonkwane ngayo isikhonkwane. Ingaba ibhinqa lihlala liyintombi? Ukuba ukhathele ukuthwala yonke imithwalo yemfanelo kwiimilinganiselo zakho ezibuthakathaka, siya kuzama ukubona indlela yokuba ngumfazi obuthathaka ngaphandle. Indlela yokukhuthaza amadoda ukuba asenzele thina-mahlekazi amnandi!
Ibhinqa kunye namadoda
Ngomntu ngamnye, bobabini abasetyhini kunye nabasilisa bazalwa. Kodwa indawo ehamba phambili yinto enye kuphela: kuba amadoda - ngamadoda, kubafazi, ngokulandelanayo, kubafazi. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu - ukugcina lo mlinganiso. Oku kuchanekileyo ukudibanisa ngokwayo idatha yokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, wena uyintloko yenkampani. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka usebenzise, ukuqina, unomsebenzi wesilisa. Kodwa ahluke xa usentsapho! Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, kufuneka uzame, ubuncinane, ukuba ube ngumfazi obuthathaka emehlweni omntu othandekayo. Imilinganiselo yintloko kufuneka uhambe emsebenzini, kwaye isangqa sezihlobo ukuba zithande, zibuthathaka, zibuthathaka. Kulo mxholo, ifilimu ephawulekayo "i-Office Romance" yenziwe. Xa ngokuqinisekileyo ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle kobuthathaka obwenziwe ngumqeqeshi onzima onobuhlekazi.
Indima yabasetyhini kwintsapho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ineminyaka engakanani-ifana nayo ifaneka, ukuxhasa umhlobo wakho. Ukunika loo mntu ithuba lokuba azibonele yena kunye neenjongo ezidibeneyo, kunokuba uphumele ekulweni. Ndikholelwe, uya kuvuzwa ngokuphindwe kabini ngendima yomfazi obuthathaka! Indoda iya kukuthwala ngezandla zayo, ukukhusela, umyeni kunye nokwazisa-ukukhusela kwizinto ezibuhlungu. Uya kufumana amandla kubuthathaka bakho obonakalayo, nangona ukuba awuyi kubuthathaka. Makhe sivale ukubaluleka kwayo, nokuba ngaba unamandla ngokukodwa kuneendlela ezininzi. Kwimeko echasene nayo, kwiqabane lakho iqela lesibini liza kubakho ngaphezu kwexesha. Ngomntu, oku akuqhelekanga xa ibhinqa liphethe. Kungekudala okanye indoda iya kuba neqondo lokungaphantsi. Le meko ibangela ukungqubuzana, ukuxabana okubandezelekileyo, ukungabi nentshisekelo kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ekugqibeleni - ukungabandakanyeki! Mkhulule ngakumbi ubeke ibhodi kumntu. Futhi usebenzise ubulumko bulumko ngokwakho: indoda yintloko, kwaye umfazi uyintamo. Lapho intamo ijika - khona kwaye intloko iya kujika.
Indima yobunina kunye nenxaxheba yabasetyhini
Kukhulu kakhulu ukuba ngumama nomfazi! Nangona kunjalo, kwezi ngqiqo, nangona kukho izinto eziqhelekileyo, kodwa ke ezi zinto zihlukileyo. Yingakho. Ibhinqa, njengomama, liqonda umgaqo wayo wesilisa olungele ukubuyela rhoqo. Buyela kwimfundo, ukunakekelwa, ulwazi kunye namava. Enye yezizathu zokuba kutheni emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngamabini, ukungaxubusha kuqala. Indoda ayayiqondi indlela yokuziphatha kwesinye isiqingatha. Kwaye kuhlobene kuphela nokukhuselwa komntwana wakho. Ukuze ugweme umtshato kunye nezinye iziphazamiso kwintsapho, indoda kufuneka iqonde izizathu zokutshintsha ibhinqa kwaye ingafuneki kuye ngeli xesha alikwazi. Inkokheli ekufuneka ingayikhohlwa malunga nokuqala kwayo kwangempela, kuba amandla omama kuthi kuthi aphuhliswe ngokupheleleyo.
Injongo
Ihlabathi lanamhlanje kunye nefashoni liyalulawula imithetho yalo kwabasetyhini, abathetha ngokuzimela kunye nokuzineliseka. Ewe, nakwintsapho, ukususela ebuntwaneni, intombazana ifundiswe ingcamango yokuba kuyimfuneko ukufumana imfundo emhle, ukufumana umsebenzi ohlawulwa kakuhle, ukuze kungabikho mntu unokuxhomekeka kumntu. Emva koko, bonke abantu abanokuthenjwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akunakuphikisa ukuchasana nokuziqhelanisa nokuziququzelela. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda angamhlonela ukuzithemba, ingqondo, akwazi ukukhuphisana nomfazi. Kodwa ukunyaniseka akuyi kuba yintando. Qonda, uhlobo lomntu luya kuba akayi kufumana uvuyo olungenakumbi kunye nolonwabo, enyamekele ngomfazi owenza ngokugqibeleleyo ngaphandle kwakhe.
Xa indoda ikhona phambi kobubele, ithambileyo, ithembekileyo kunye nomfazi othile obuthathaka, ufuna ukukhusela kunye nokukhusela isidalwa sakhe esincinci. Ukukhangela isiqingatha sethu sesibini, sikhokelwa ngumgaqo wethu ongathandekiyo. Kwaye ukuba indoda ingabonakali ibhinqa lakhe kwisigxina, kudityaniswa. Futhi ningacingi ukuba babuthathaka kakhulu, abakwazi ukujamelana nomfazi oqinileyo. Emva koko, sifuna iqabane apho isiqingatha sethu sabantu siza kubonakala. Kakade ke, kukho amabhinqa afuna ngamabomu indoda ephilileyo, okokugqibela - "umama wesibini". Kodwa ezi zinto zidibene neengxube zangaphakathi, ezifanele ukuxazulula.
Iyintoni imfihlelo yobundlobongela?
Umfazi wamanje uvumelekile kakhulu. Unokuba yisekela, intloko, umongameli. Kodwa ukuba unomntu olinganayo nomntu, uyaphikisana nendalo yakhe. Ukuphazamiseka kukuba nayiphi na iiposenti esihlala kuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sininzi kangakanani imali esiyifumanayo, asiyi kuvuya ngokwenene, siyishiye ngenxa yendalo yethu yemvelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuthatha ukuzithemba, ugqoke iimaski, udibanise imibutho yamakhosi yazo zonke iintlobo. Kodwa sihlala sisodwa, siyaqonda ukuba into ekhoyo.
Kukho ubulumko obuhle baseMpumalanga obuthi: "Sifumana into esiyilwela ngayo." Abasetyhini abaninzi balawulwa ukwesaba ukushiywa yedwa, ngakumbi kunabo bonke, kunye nomntwana. Emva koko, amadoda anokufumaneka kwamabhinqa awanakho ukusebenzela ubudlelwane. Ungacinga njalo. Kodwa ukuba utshintshe isikhundla sakho kwimeko echasene nayo - yivulekele, usengozini, umfazi obuthathaka. Ukuba ungesabi ukuthanda kwaye unike isiqwenga sakho kumntu osondeleyo, ngoko uya kukhangela iintlanganiso ezingenazo izinto ezibuthathaka, kodwa amadoda okwenene.
Ndiyafuna ukunika esinye isizathu. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba iimpawu eziphambili zibekwe ebuntwaneni. Kwaye ukuba umntwana othe wesazi ukuba unina usengozini, akanakukhuseleka, kufuneka akhuseleke, ngoko yena kunye nobomi bentsapho uya kuqonda umphefumlo wakhe. Mxhaphaze ngendlela owamfundisa ngayo ukukuphatha. Ndicinga ukuba uya kuzingca ngenxa yokuba uye wakhulisa umntu oyinyaniso. Kwaye yonke into yokubulela kuyo? Inyaniso yokuba bavuma ukuba ngumfazi obuthathaka, ubuncinci ngaphandle. Iingcali zinika iingcebiso ezininzi zokuvuselela uhlobo lwentombi:
1. Phatha izinto kunye neemeko ngendlela yesetyhini. Ingxenye ngaphandle kokuzisola ngeengxaki zokungabi nantlanu, ukuphikisana rhoqo nendoda. Kwaye ngokubuyisela ukufumana ingqiqo nokuxhomekeka kumadoda. Yeka ukujonga rhoqo izinto.
2. Yeka ukwenza imisebenzi yamadoda. Okokuqala, sigqibo malunga noko ufuna ukuwenqaba. Emva koko wabelane ngeengcinga zakho nendoda. Mxelele ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe uncedo awukwazi ukwenza. Ukuba uyavuma, mnike iimbombo zikaRhulumente kule mi sebenzi yomsebenzi ngokupheleleyo. Into ephambili, ungakhathazeki ngemiphumo yalo msebenzi. Nangona umntu wakho engaqali ngokukhawuleza ukuba asebenze, ungamcindezeli uze ungaphuki. Mhlawumbi isitimela siya kusuka kwindawo leyo kuphela xa ukhupha umkhosi. Kwaye ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba uthengisa kwizinto ezithile ixabiso eligqithiseleyo, oku akuthethi ukuba iqabane lakho kufuneka libuye liye. Kwimeko apho umntu wenqaba ukwenza uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi, musa ukubeka ngokukhawuleza kumahlombe abo. Yenza oko unokukwazi, kwaye abanye baya kulinda. Ungakulibali into ojolise kuyo, kwaye ujabulele "isikhundla sakho sesifazana". Kwaye emva kwexeshana, buyela kumlingane nalo mbuzo.
Z. Unokwenza umsebenzi womntu - yenza njengowesifazane. Ungabonakali ubuchule bakho besilisa. Yenza oko ukuze umntu aqonde - udinga uncedo. Kwimeko echaseneyo, uya kuthwala umthwalo onzima kakhulu kuwe.
4. Musa ukoyika ukuthobela. Mhlawumbi akuyiyo imfashini, kodwa kuphela xa kunesivumelwano nomntu, kunokuba kungabikho iingxabano ezivuthayo kunye nokugcinwa kwesikhundla somntu rhoqo, omnye unokuya ngokuvisisana. Ubume bomntu onjalo ukuba bahlaziswa xa umfazi ethatha. Nangona unombono ohlukileyo, makhe uhlale kunye nawe, ngenxa yokuba iminqweno yakho ingabonakaliswa ngobuqili kwaye ingabonakali. Kwaye kuphela kwimicimbi yokuziphatha kufuneka imele ukuphela.
Akusiyo into yokuba amadoda asekude awalwela intliziyo yowesifazane. Ukuba unomnqweno, kwisithandwa sakho unako ukuvuselela iimvakalelo. Ukuba ubuncinci uba ngumfazi obuthathaka, abantu baya kukunyamekela, bakukhusele kwaye ekugqibeleni - bathande!