Abantu abaya kuhlala kunye, kwinqanaba elithile, ukuxinezeleka kwengxaki, kuba akufanele nje batshintshe indlela yabo yobomi, kodwa bafunde ukuqonda, ukuhlonipha nokulungelelana. Enyanisweni, ukuba indoda nomfazi bayathandana ngokwenene, akunzima.
Ukuhlala kunye kunye nokonwabile kunye nokungabikho ngquzulwano, egcwele ixesha elimnandi, kufuneka ulandele imithetho embalwa elula.
Qala ukusuka ekuqaleni
Ukuba abantu banquma ukuhlala kunye kunye, bathatha isinyathelo esibalulekileyo kunomnye, ngoko kufuneka ubalekele zonke izikhalazo ezidala kunye nokungaqondani, kwaye uqale kwakhona. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuyinqweneleka ukuba indlu yabiwe. Ngaloo ndlela, ngalinye iqabane liya kuba lilinganayo kumnini wamalungelo. Ngaphandle koko, kunokubakho imeko apho iqabane elinye liyakuziva likhululekile, libophelelwe kwelinye "indawo ephilileyo yokuhlala", eya kubakho kwiimeko ezihlazo, umzekelo, ukuba umntu unentloni yokuvakalisa izimvo.
Ungesabi ukunikela into ethile
Khumbula, ukuba unquma ukuhlala kunye, kufuneka uyilibale ngegama elithi "I". Ngoku kufuneka usebenzise ingcamango ethi "thina", kwaye ucinge njalo. Izinto eziqhelekileyo ozenzayo ngaphambili, zingamthandi umthandi wakho, ngoko qi niseka ukuba ubuze, nceda ulungiselele phambi kokuba wenze okuthile.
Ukuqeqesha indawo yokuhlala
Sithe satsho ukuba kuyinqweneleka ukuba izindlu zaziqhelekile, ukuze zombini amaqabane azive ngokwabo. Izindlu eziqhelekileyo kufuneka zakhiwe kuphela, ukuze zombini zikhululekile. Akukho nto ikwazi ukuzisa abantu kufuphi nomsebenzi odibeneyo. Thenga iimagazini ngaphakathi, uye ukuyothenga kunye, xubusha iinkcukacha ezincinci. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuthandana nomsebenzi wakho omtsha, oza kukuzisa ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Umabonwakude awusekho iphela kwindalo
Ngokuqhelekileyo ingxaki ebudlelwaneni yiTV, okwangoku kwaye ibonisa kuphela i-soap operas okanye ibhokisi okanye ibhola lebhola. Funda ukufumana umdla oqhelekileyo, jonga iinkqubo ofuna zona.
Kwaye indlela eyona ndlela ukulibala ihotele. Hamba ezininzi, uye kwi-cinema okanye kwi-cafe. Ukuba uhlala ubomi bakho, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uhlale phambi kweTV okanye ngaphambi kokuba iikhomputha zikhohlwe ngokupheleleyo ngokuthandana. Ngaphandle koko, usongelwa "lonwabo", xa abantu ababini abonakala bathandana, abanakufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nomsebenzi odibeneyo.
Funda ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye ufumane ukunyaniseka
Ukuba ucinga ukuba awuyidingi elitsha okwamanje, okanye awukwazi ukuyithengisa, okanye ufuna nje ukuthenga into ethile, ke ungesabi ukuthetha. Khumbula, ulwalamano kunye nendawo yokuhlala ngokubambisana okokuqala kukungcola, ngoko-ntlonelo ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho, kwaye isiqingatha sakho sesibini siya kufumana nxamnye ne-compromise, okuya kulungeleka kokubili.
Musa ukoyika ubunzima
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abathandanayo bathanda ukuzalisa ubudlelwane ngaphambi kwexesha xa kuvela ubunzima bokuqala, ngethemba lokuba ubuhlobo obutsha buya kuphumelela. Qonda nje ukuba ubunzima kunye neengxaki ziyinxalenye yendalo nawuphi na ubudlelwane. Hlaziya ngononophelo iingxaki zakho ukuze ungaphindanga iimpazamo ezifanayo kwixesha elizayo.
Into ephambili ebudlelwaneni kukuqonda. Nangona uqala ukuhlala kunye kunye, kodwa uya kunika elinye iiyure ezimbalwa ngeveki-ntsuku, akukho nto enokuza kuvela kulwalamano olunjalo. Ukuxhamla komntu phakathi kwabantu ekugqibeleni kubuthakathaka ukuba awusebenzi kunye nokucingela, kuba uthando alufi kanye kanye. Khawunyamekele iimvakalelo zakho!